Have you ever had a sexual partner that was a better lover than your spouse?

[Formybubu]

The problem with this is using the word better. I think people use better and should be different. Because different can be better and once you experiance with your partner is when you find out if it was better. Some people do the same thing i.e. giving head. but because she has a piercing it feels like it was better but it was just different.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Formybubu

The problem with this is using the word better. I think people use better and should be different. Because different can be better and once you experiance with your partner is when you find out if it was better. Some people do the same thing i.e. giving head. but because she has a piercing it feels like it was better but it was just different.

I"ve gotta' agree with you on this one, because I simply cannot discount the feelings I have for Mr. Sweet and just think about the lovemaking/sex we have in a technical fashion. We discuss our experiences and talk about what other partners have done that we've really liked. And when possible, we try to duplicate the techniques. But when it's all said and done, we're still each other's favorites.

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[Tia Vampire]

I've discussed my past with my SO and I have had a lover that was a way better lover than my SO. I called him my teacher or el profesor. He is not living now, God bless that man and I am glad to have known him and to have been one of his students. Plus my SO get to reap the reward. My SO is now my best lover.

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

Woul dlove to answer this poll, but I can't imagine any woman being hotter, better in the sack, or more desirable than L. Seriously.

[westchestercple]

Actually, I am not sure that there would ever be better sex. I have had different sex that was great but it was not BETTER. Great sex is great sex, once I had a woman who squirted I thought that was great and the sex was terrific but it was not better.

[heatherb]

Originally Posted by willyoats

Depending on what you mean by best lover, this question may be too complicated for a yes or no answer. Compared to my wife...Some give better blow jobs, others like anal more, etc. The feeling of my penis in a couple of other vaginas has been better than anything I have felt with my wife. That said, my wife is much more than a good sex partner, which no other woman can be. So if best lover means a few sex acts, no she isn't.

I read this quote on another thread about best lovers and it got me thinking about my own experiences. Until I got into the lifestyle, I never really noticed major differences in my lover's parts and abilities. However, having been in the lifestyle for a few years now, I do notice these differences much more. I have also had lovers (about 4) whose penis just felt better than anything I felt with my man. 3 were better at oral sex, but I have yet to find a better kisser. I posed this question to my man and he also has had 2 women whose vagina felt better than mine, and 3 better at giving him oral sex, etc...This didn't bother me at all, because I view sex and love as two different things. In fact, it just got me more curious.

If we're just talking about the physical aspect of sex and not love, please share your thoughts and experiences? Have other's felt better during penetration? Were other better at oral, etc...?

[ncmd_couple]

From the male pespective...

Yes, every woman that I have ever had sex with is different. And I greatly enjoy the variety. And as long as the woman is responsive to my actions, and doesn't just lie there, then it is great fun to explore her and learn how she likes to have sex. My wife gives the best BJs on this earth! From my view, it is all good!

S

[Cpl2share]

If it weren't for the differences why would we swing? Different does not mean better or worse, just different. I really enjoy getting head from one of our friends because she likes me to cum in her mouth. I really like getting head from Mrs. Cpl because it feels so good even though she does not let me cum in her mouth. They are both better in a different way.

[lustylearning]

Originally Posted by heatherb

If we're just talking about the physical aspect of sex and not love, please share your thoughts and experiences? Have other's felt better during penetration? Were other better at oral, etc...?

Yes, and I'm convinced it's supposed to be that way. Sex isn't love and is full of variety. And what makes lifestyle so wonderful for an intact partnership is that it allows a couple to more fully experience their sexuality within the safety of their primary relationship.

[willyoats]

I thank Heatherb for getting all the way to page 4 of the original thread to find my post. That's stick-to-it-ive-ness, and I appreciate that it prompted her to add to the discussion.

As I get older, I look back fondly on many wonderful experiences witih many wonderful women. At the same time, it makes me increasingly fond of the time I spend making love to my wife. She gave up swinging nearly 10 years ago. I did not. I still have some form of sex, including intercourse, with at least three different women at various times during the year (one last Friday, another tomorrow, and a third probably sometime in December, about 2 months from now).

I love the feel of these women and the thrill of their touch. I love to bite one's nipples, to lick another's pussy, to penetrate the third, etc. Surely part of this thrill is the fact that they are all younger, between 9 and 35 years younger. Am I trying to recapturing my youth? Who knows?

However, at this stage in our lives I have to say that my wife is the best of them all, even though her sex drive is waning, her lubrication needs lots of Vagifem-type help, and she seldom plays with my privates to give me an erection.

That notwithstanding, she is the love of my (long) life. Taken as a whole, there is not another woman who can hold a candle to her.

The moral of the story is that "once upon a time..." there were others who might have had one (sexual) ability or another that seemed superior to my wife's. Now that we are "living happily ever after...", my priorities change amd my love deepens.

Among all the folks who read this board, I doubt that I am the only one who has gone through this change. And furthermore, I bet that the younger folks will feel this way as they get closer to retirement from swinging IF they really have a long, wonderful, and strong marriage.

[socolais]

Originally Posted by Cpl2share

If it weren't for the differences why would we swing? Different does not mean better or worse, just different.

This is an interesting thread. I haven't yet found a playtime or any single activity more intense than my wife and I can give to each other. I'm sure it will happen one of these days, but until then, I'm enjoying the search (and the wife). "Just different" is plenty good enough.

[rpu3]

If we're just talking about the physical aspect of sex and not love, please share your thoughts and experiences? Have other's felt better during penetration? Were other better at oral, etc...?

Not better. Different.

When things click with a partner other than my spouse, I'm not comparing them to my spouse, and I'm not ranking the person against my spouse afterwards. There's been a time or two where my partner has done a thing or two that has rocked my world and I've taken it back to my spouse. And things that work well for me with my spouse, I'll try with the other partner.

I'm having sex with someone else for the different, not a better/worse. I don't need a clone of the Spousal Unit. The differences are very good.

[sahajacpl]

Main reason we swing is for the variety of sexual partners, experiences, different ways intercourse can be and is done, and, also to experience variety of physical and mental feeling during the act of sexual intercourse. In addition, the varied and different feel of the woman's vagina to your (man's) penis and your male partner's penis when embedded in your (female's) vagina during intercourse is what makes swapping mates for intercourse so very exciting.

Therefore, swinging and swapping mates for play and sexual intercourse with someone other than one's spouse is not so much better as it is different and so more exciting.

[BiloxiCouple]

The physical act of sex I think can be easily compared to driving cars.

We've all driven the family car, everybody's been in it, banged it around and it smells funny. We've driven the cheap beater cars that no one takes care of and don't care how it looks and it runs forever. We would love to drive a certain exotic car (hot rod, tuner, ferrari, etc). And some cars we would be embarrassed to be seen in (VW, Pinto, Pacer, etc). Then there's is the pick up truck/SUV, goes everywhere, hauls anything and isn't initimidated, but can have high costs. And there is that one car everyone loves...Brand new. Never been in, touched, new car smell. MMMMM Then there is the reliable daily driver, we are comfortable with that.

[ncmd_couple]

Billy? A Pinto? A Pacer? Your dating yourself!!!!