Have you ever had a sexual partner that was a better lover than your spouse?

[mrbandsatl]

Sounds like a familiar conversation, Alura!

BTW -- Our best to you and Mrs. A. You have been in our thoughts and prayers!

[Alura]

Thanks, Bob and Sandy. The support of the members here has been a source of strength for us.

Things are looking up.

Alura

[TNT]

I was the first to respond that it has happened and we have discussed it

Have you ever had sex with someone, in or out of the LS, that was better than your mate?

It's really hard to say one is better than another, different, WOW, cool are better terms I think.

However, that being said...Ted had the opprotunity to receive a blow job from a lady that he said was the best he had ever had. My response was cool, how'd she do it? It seems that this lady was able to deep throat him and at the same time lick his balls with her tongue. Sorry, I can't do that and probably never will be able to so...I just to her and said cool, glad you enjoyed it dear.

Did you discuss it with them? Yep.

If you did meet someone that just rocked you in a way you have never been rocked, would you admit it to your mate? Yep.

How do you think they would resopond? So far so good

I've had some amazing sex with our playmates before and so has Ted....we always discuss it and we always tell each other what we liked best about it.

It is hard to take love out of the equation where your partner is concerned. Ted and I know that we are each other's favorite because of the love we share, so it's no big deal to either of us when the other says so-in-so fucked me good tonight...we're not naive enough to believe that we are the best at what we do sexually/physically to each other but we are wise enough to know that ultimate physical pleasure is not much unless there is also an emotional attachment to go along with it.

So yes...we have both experienced people that were a bit more talented than each other...dicussed it, learned from it, shared it and kept right on thinking that we were the luckiest people in the world to have found each other.

Teresa

[HotMoCpl]

I won't say it will never happen, but the odds are likely it won't. We're not just connected at the groin, but our brains are tightly linked even before that. I believe that if it should happer to her or me, it will certainly be up for discussion. To me, if it happens, it happens.

[EvilMJ]

It has sort of happened... . There was a position that a partner tried with me that I had never done before that I thought was great. Hubby and I discussed it and we tried it out and it was just as fun the second time.lol.

Other than that there was one guy who seemed to hit me in just the right spot during sex but that had more to do with his size and shape rather than technique. We agree with Teresa.."glad you enjoyed it!"

Not only do I love my husband, which for the most part makes sex much better, but he has come to know me and my body in a way that someone else just doesn't. We are very comfortable and I can relax and don't feel in any way selfconcious around him, which makes sex more passionate and fulfilling.

BUt no matter what happens we are able to talk openly about it. Just in a way that is not going to hurt each other's feelings.

[Chicup]

When Mrs. Chicup and I first got together we were both very inexperienced so we had a lot of learning to do. Sure sex was great, but it was newbie sex. She was shy about giving oral and never had an orgasm so we had a LOT of work to do

By the time we got 'good' at it, it was pretty much old hat and our first really mind-blowing sex (outside of the first times the Mrs. finally O'ed) was with swinging. It had all the excitement of being a newbie, only we knew what to do.

It doesn’t cheapen what we have together, and if anything has made our lovemaking better.

[ALilOEverything]

Of course I would, what better way than to learn new techniques or ideas. I think of swinging as a sharing adventure, you share partners, techniques, ideas, thoughts, feelings... why not share something like this? And really, it's not necessarily better as much as it's different and it's very exciting to feel and learn something new. To me that's what swinging is all about.

[intuition897]

I agree 100% with TNT's post. It's happened to us before, for Mr. intuition. His playmate had some kind of hand-job technique that would get him hard within a couple of minutes of orgasm. I think their record was something like 8 times in a row. He told me about this after the fact because we were playing in separate rooms. He tried to explain it, but I don't think I ever got the knack. Unfortunately we don't play with that couple anymore so I'll never learn the Caramilk Secret. My response to that? "Gee...that's a bummer, eh?" It's not a big deal. It was something that he got to experience, and he doesn't hold it against me that I can't do the same.

That's about the only bad thing I've thought of so far about playing in separate rooms! Playing in the same room and on the same bed allows you to see what others are doing, and how your partner is responding to it. It's like a sex workshop or something! There are skills and knowledge to share all around, so why not?

[Spoomonkey]

We learned how to do doggy style because one of my playmates did it so well...

I got a hand job once that I couldn't really explain...

Mrs Spoomonkey got oral from a couple that I have listened closely and learned how to duplicate...

New techniques are a great thing - and it doesn't bother me that I don't know it all (yet). But - that said - I completely agree with Alura - I have experienced some great techniques, but I have yet to come close to matching the soul-churning, body-rcoking experiences that I have with Mrs Spoomonkey!

Spoomonkey

[autumn528]

Hmmm... There is love and if I ever had to make love it would be with my wife only. This is the second marriage for us both. She hooked up with her high school boyfriend and married at 16. I am a guitar player and worked the clubs for many years. We both divorced in our late 20's and found each other(thank God). She has had very few partners and I had been around the block many more times than her. Here's the wind up: She loves me and I love her. Has there been a "best time"? It's all subjective. Great head-yep. Great body-yep. Total connection, fantasy and spank bubbles-yep. And she is the center of it all. I've been in love, engaged and married b4 but none has come close. Ick, this is starting to sound like a love letter-I'm bailing b4 she hears...

[good times]

We have had this happen, and I can't imagine not discussing it afterwards. Most recently, my lovely bride learned a new way to ride the pony that really feels good by recreating what the lady I was with did to me when we got home. Heck, recreating what we did that was new and good later is half the fun for us.

[JustAskJulie]

I'm not sure of what my answer to the question would be. BUT, I will say that I've often found sex can be the best when it's new. TOO often I've found that with guys I've been with for a whiel, things tend to get... not old... I don't know what the word is, but it's like things get taken for granted, there's not as much foreplay (most of the time), not as much effort. Whereas with someone new that effort is still there, you put yoru best foot foward so to speak and do everything, often making for one hell of a sexual experience. And while it may not be better than the BEST time with the one you love it may (at that point) seem so much better than what you are used to.

Honestly, I think this is one of the many reasons I enjoy swinging and hanging out with swingers. While my bf and I have not (yet) swung we have had a few opportunities to enjoy time around other swingers. This has greatly opened his eyes to the whole idea, mainly allowing him to realize that swingers are normal people who just like to have fun, that it's a state of mind nothing more. That said, it had been a very long time since I had seen him (or I) as turned on as we were following the Meet Up in Memphis.

I think I just completely derailed your train Bob, sorry. LOL.

[northindycpl]

I can't imagine anything being better then Mr. Indy, so my answer is, I am unsure. I haven't had it yet. I would talk it over with him, sure. But in all actuality, he would be the one that notices it probably before I did. He is so in tune with my pleasure and responses that he immediately knows something is different, or if I like it.... even from across the room.

[GerdOEvert]

It would be fun to share real and imaginary stories.

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friends, and the flight crew.

If you would like to exchange a comment or story, try me.

Otto and Eileen

[NakedInSeattle]

I can't think of any reason NOT to tell. Discussing all that happened to us at a party or whatever is the best part of our lifestyle. Nuttin' held back!