Ladies, Would you have sex with a long haired man?

[curiousagain]

I alternate between long and short hair. When I get it cut, half the women I know say "
I am glad to see you got it cut" and when I grow it out half say "I'm glad you're letting your hair grow again". I figure no matter your hairstyle, some will like it, and some won't.
Wear it like you want to wear it.

I am in the camp that the husbands telling you that seems more like they don't like guys with long hair instead of their wives feeling that way.

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

My daughter while she was growing up and even now that she has moved across town, would braid my hair for me allot. While doing this ,it was many times she would talk to me about personal stuff in her life, serious stuff. Anything from her period, to who she would marry some day. Each braid to me, has meaning and memories.

As they should, both for you and your daughter. Those times are so important and to be cherished.

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

But it just seems strange that its always the husbands who tell me their wives don't like long hair. I just think a woman would be more up front about this.

It is a strange was of saying the chemistry just isn't there. There are a lot better ways of getting that across instead of some guy hiding behind his partner's supposed preference for shorter hair to say they aren't interested for whatever reason.

For the Mrs, hair length isn't something she pays much attention to. Personality #1 followed by an overall presentable appearance is what counts.

[Tia Vampire]

Fun4D's you bring something extra to the bed during love making. I love men with long hair. My SO also has long hair and I love what he does with it when we are making love. I love the way he flips me over and run his hair down my back. He also runs it down my face, down my breast, and across my stomach. Talking about stimulating. OMG! Those women who put you down for having long hair, don't know what they are missing and as far as the men go, they are probably the one's who don't like long hair and says it's the wife.

That was very beautiful what you wrote about your girls. If your hair brings you that much joy and with such good memmories, I would not get rid of my hair for anyone. I'll be awing all day long.

[Ellyanne77]

Well I have to say I loved 80's rock bands (I know you are not trying to be that just a reference) and still love them. But when it comes to my attractions now I'm more of a military cut girl and I think that has a lot to do with the fact that hubby has that kind of cut. Now in saying that...bald men are extremely sexy to me and I also love this new rock look which is slightly longer but not that long.
I think you will find that its not all about the hair for most women. I would never rule out a man with long hair that I found attractive.

[NumbskullsX2]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Having a guy come up to you and tell you his wife doesn't like men with long hair boggles me! I can only presume he's got more of an issue with it than his wife and, therefore, doesn't want his wife getting the hots for you so he's trying to keep you from turning his wife on by your charm.

So true! But it wouldn't be the first time some husband used the line "my wife doesn't like" or "my wife prefers" as an excuse for justifyng his own hangups about who she's "allowed" to be attracted to. "Insecurity breeds drama" and "fear breeds hostility"

Who needs more "drama" and "hostility" when we're all just trying to screw?

BTW, I love long hair on a man, almost as much as I love a nicely shaven head. (it has to be a nice head, though. Now don't ask me what constitutes a "nice" head because I can't tell you. I just know it when I see it, that's all)

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

There is no need to tell someone why you aren't attracted to them. What's the point, really? I see these men's comments as rude and a lame way of trying to fend you off. Our long-standing belief is that you shouldn't explain why you aren't attracted to someone or don't feel compatible.

Maybe they're jealous, or insecure? Or maybe they just like to pick fights?

[fun4Ds]

This is great feedback for me and the funny part is, Mrs.fun doesn't even consider it a deal breaker herself. I mean, she has been with men with crew cuts and I know she has a thing for (a certain bald guy). Its just the times we would hear from men, that their wives don't like long hair?

I was thinking well, don't show that picture. But then thinking well, if we are together at a hotel or in the hot tub its kinda hard to hide.

I think the proof is in the pudding with these responses. Women are honest for one, some men (may) have rejections toward men with long hair, and its not a yes or no thing. Even if a woman doesent like long hair on a man like me....... Its still cool.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

I'm just curious about this. Would men with long hair be a stopper or turn you off as a first impression, with out wanting to know more about me?

Nope. Of course, it would depend on the overall appearance of the man whether I'd be attracted to him with long hair, short hair, or any hair. Everyone is individual.

It's weird that it's the men telling you this stuff about their wives not liking guys with long hair. Perhaps they're intimidated, because you have something they don't and his wife might just like it? Hmmmm.

The first thing that came to mind, and I see that others have mentioned their like or dislike of it in this thread, is my husband's facial hair. He has a sexy, thick head of hair (cut above the collar) and a neatly trimmed beard. I think he's sexy as hell. We often read the "no facial hair" statement in people's profiles, but we've never heard it from people we've met in person (like at a club). After years of practice, I've not found his beard to cause me any discomfort at all. Mr. Tybee has seen "no facial hair" comments and asked me at times if he should shave it. I love it on him, and I'm the one that matters, so..."NO baby, don't shave!"

Just be who you are, and you'll attract the people to yourself who appreciate you and your appearance.

[myschyfnmayhem]

myschyf loves guys with long hair,which is why i put up with the aggravating mess

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by NumbskullsX2

Maybe they're jealous, or insecure? Or maybe they just like to pick fights?

We all know you are an expert when it comes to picking fights.

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

There is no need to tell someone why you aren't attracted to them. What's the point, really?

Agreed, which is why never give any explaination whenever we have to turn someone down, which is a much different circumstance than what happens on the Swingers Board where the entire point is to discuss our experiences and preferences.

[Alura]

Mrs. Alura, in twenty-eight years, has never seen me without a beard. The only time she (jokingly) threatened to divorce me was when I said I might shave my beard. I think I'll keep it, no matter what other women think.

Our son, Eighteen, quit getting haircuts when Mrs. Alura was diagnosed with breast cancer. His plan is to donate it to an organization (that makes wigs for chemotherapy patients) the week of his high school graduation, which comes up in May. You'd be amazed at how many girls want to cut it for him. He's given the nod to a certain cheerleader, who is promoting the event with a program to collect donations and give them to breast cancer research.

Most women are envious of his mane; it is full and wavy and reaches well below his belt. "I wish I could grow hair like that!" they say.

He can't seem to go out in public without girls running up to him and giving him a hug! "Oh, Eighteen, I haven't seen you for an hour or so!"

Keep your hair, Mr. Fun. Mrs. Alura thinks it's sexy! So do a lot of other women. What men think doesn't matter.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by NumbskullsX2

So true! But it wouldn't be the first time some husband used the line ..."my wife prefers" as an excuse for justifyng his own hangups about who she's "allowed" to be attracted to.

I often hear "... tall guys."

Mr. Alura

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Alura

Our son, Eighteen, quit getting haircuts when Mrs. Alura was diagnosed with breast cancer. His plan is to donate it to an organization (that makes wigs for chemotherapy patients) the week of his high school graduation, which comes up in May. You'd be amazed at how many girls want to cut it for him. He's given the nod to a certain cheerleader, who is promoting the event with a program to collect donations and give them to breast cancer research.

That is so touching Our youngest daughter donated her hair a couple of years ago...she had over 12" cut off. Kudos to 18 and the cheerleader.



Teresa

[Alura]

Originally Posted by TNT

That is so touching Our youngest daughter donated her hair a couple of years ago...she had over 12" cut off. Kudos to 18 and the cheerleader.

Teresa

Thanks, Teresa! I'll tell Eighteen you said that.

His hair has only caused him trouble once. A campus cop wanted to know why a student was driving a Porsche to school and had long hair. I guess it screamed "Drug Dealer!!" to him. Eighteen gave him permission right away to search his car.

After the fruitless search, the campus cop learned that the car is a 1987 model that cost $3,400 (with two sets of wheels and tires) and the reason for the long hair. He hasn't hassled Eighteen since.


Mr. Alura

[Pepper & Drew]

Long hair, short hair, no hair--I'm an equal opportunity woman.

I think that is the husbands' views. Drew lets me speak for myself in terms of attraction, or not.

Pepper

[gv_couple4fun]

OK, so I never post, but this topic is close to my heart! My husband has had long hair ever since we met...when my mother-in-law told him he should cut his hair I decided to take the flak and tell her there was no way I would "allow him" to cut his hair. Her reaction was I should make him cut it to fit in with society, my statement was he was no longer her son but my husband (didn't really sit well with her!) In the end I won and I gravitate to guys with long hair but still really love men, long hair, short hair, no hair, military cut, etc....All men are wonderful weather or not they have long, short, really short or no hair. They either have the personality to fit their choice or not. Live and let be! Mrs. GV