Personality Types and Swinging

[magnum]

Originally Posted by BookwormsInHeat

We're curious about whether there are trends in personality types on a board like this.

Here's a link to a personality inventory called the Meyers Briggs test - most of you have probably seen it before. It's far from perfect, but might be really interesting in terms of whether there are trends here different from the population at large.

Personality Test

To break the ice here's my results (the male half)

Your Type is
INTJ
Introverted 56
Intuitive 88
Thinking 1
Judging 33


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Snakes in worms' clothing, and tired of asexual reproduction.

Interesting... I read the book awhile ago and I can not remember what my "type" is. I will have to find the book and get back to the poll.

[MB1991]

Originally Posted by MB1991

Typically the results in a general society would be:
Artisan - 40%
Guardian - 35%
Idealist - 15%
Rational - 10%

Here we're showing
Artisan - 17%
Guardian - 23%
Idealist - 27%
Rational - 33%

Updated the numbers.

[nwmifun]

I'm ESFP - doesn't look like I'm in the majority, but I'm in one of 'em.....

[djdvcmu]

Your Type is
ENTJ
Extroverted Intuitive Thinking Judging
Strength of the preferences %
78 38 1 11


ENTJ type description by D.Keirsey
ENTJ type description by J. Butt



Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:
very expressed extrovert

moderately expressed intuitive personality

slightly expressed thinking personality

slightly expressed judging personality

[driveajeepnaked]

Your Type is
ISFP
Introverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving
Strength of the preferences %
11 38 12 33

Qualitative analysis of your type formula
You are:
slightly expressed introvert
moderately expressed sensing personality
slightly expressed feeling personality
moderately expressed perceiving personality

That depressed me.. then I read about who the famous people were...

Famous ISFPs:

Marie Antoinette
Auguste Rodin

U.S. Presidents
Ulysses S. Grant
Millard Fillmore, "The American Louis Philippe"
Warren G. Harding
Fred Astaire
Marilyn Monroe
Liberace
Elizabeth Taylor
Yogi Berra, professional baseball player ("It's deja vu all over again.")
Dan Rather
Orrin Hatch, U.S. Senator
Ervin "Magic" Johnson, NBA basketball star
Patrick Duffey
Dan Quayle, U.S. Vice President, 1988-1992
Paul McCartney
Christopher Reeve
Michael Jackson
Kevin Costner
Greg Louganis, U.S. Olympic gold medalist
Brooke Shields
Britney Spears
John Travolta
Ashton Kutcher
Donald Trump

Aside form Michael Jackson, that's not a bad crowd...
V

[MB1991]

Originally Posted by MB1991

Typically the results in a general society would be:
Artisan - 40%
Guardian - 35%
Idealist - 15%
Rational - 10%

Here we're showing
Artisan - 18%
Guardian - 20%
Idealist - 29%
Rational - 34%

Updated the numbers again. It's amazing but it really is holding that Guardian and Artisan types which are by far the most common in general society are clearly NOT the majority among swingers. Very cool.

OK, as an INTP (Rational) it's nice to not be a tiny minority for once!

[deadparrot911]

Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Judging
Strength of the preferences %
78 88 62 11

You are:
very expressed extrovert

very expressed intuitive personality

distinctively expressed feeling personality

slightly expressed judging personality

[Menage_a_Trois]

Mr. Menage is:
Your Type is
ENFJ
Extroverted 56% moderately expressed extrovert
Intuitive 25% moderately expressed intuitive personality
Feeling 38% moderately expressed feeling personality
Judging 11% slightly expressed judging personality

The Other Mrs. Menage is:
Your Type is
ESFJ
Extroverted 33% moderately expressed extrovert
Sensing 50% moderately expressed sensing personality
Feeling 25% moderately expressed feeling personality
Judging 33% oderately expressed judging personality

[txduo2000]

ESFJ

Extroverted - 11

Sensing - 12

Feeling - 62

Judging - 1

slightly expressed extrovert

slightly expressed sensing personality

distinctively expressed feeling personality

slightly expressed judging personality

[dragonblade]

Your Type is
ENFJ
Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Judging
Strength of the preferences %
67 12 88 44

The Idealists called Teachers are abstract in their thought and speech, cooperative in their style of achieving goals, and directive and extraverted in their interpersonal relations. Learning in the young has to be beckoned forth, teased out from its hiding place, or, as suggested by the word "education," it has to be "educed." by an individual with educative capabilities. Such a one is the eNFj, thus rightly called the educative mentor or Teacher for short. The Teacher is especially capable of educing or calling forth those inner potentials each learner possesses. Even as children the Teachers may attract a gathering of other children ready to follow their lead in play or work. And they lead without seeming to do so.

Teachers expect the very best of those around them, and this expectation, usually expressed as enthusiastic encouragement, motivates action in others and the desire to live up to their expectations. Teachers have the charming characteristic of taking for granted that their expectations will be met, their implicit commands obeyed, never doubting that people will want to do what they suggest. And, more often than not, people do, because this type has extraordinary charisma.

The Teachers are found in no more than 2 or 3 percent of the population. They like to have things settled and arranged. They prefer to plan both work and social engagements ahead of time and tend to be absolutely reliable in honoring these commitments. At the same time, Teachers are very much at home in complex situations which require the juggling of much data with little pre-planning. An experienced Teacher group leader can dream up, effortlessly, and almost endlessly, activities for groups to engage in, and stimulating roles for members of the group to play. In some Teachers, inspired by the responsiveness of their students or followers, this can amount to genius which other types find hard to emulate. Such ability to preside without planning reminds us somewhat of an Provider, but the latter acts more as a master of ceremonies than as a leader of groups. Providers are natural hosts and hostesses, making sure that each guest is well looked after at social gatherings, or that the right things are expressed on traditional occasions, such as weddings, funerals, graduations, and the like. In much the same way, Teachers value harmonious human relations about all else, can handle people with charm and concern, and are usually popular wherever they are. But Teachers are not so much social as educational leaders, interested primarily in the personal growth and development of others, and less in attending to their social needs.



[ENFP] [INFP] [ENFJ] [INFJ] [ESTJ] [ISTJ] [ESFJ] [ISFJ]
[ENTP] [INTP] [ENTJ] [INTJ] [ESTP] [ISTP] [ESFP] [ISFP]

Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
by Joe Butt

Profile: ENFJ
Revision: 3.0
Date of Revision: 23 Feb 2005

ENFJs are the benevolent 'pedagogues' of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

ENFJs are, by definition, Js, with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. But they don't resemble the SJs or even the NTJs in organization of the environment nor occasional recalcitrance. ENFJs are organized in the arena of interpersonal affairs. Their offices may or may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient than those of their NFP counterparts.

ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.
TRADEMARK: "The first shall be last"

This refers to the open-door policy of ENFJs. One ENFJ colleague always welcomes me into his office regardless of his own circumstances. If another person comes to the door, he allows them to interrupt our conversation with their need. While discussing that need, the phone rings and he stops to answer it. Others drop in with a 'quick question.' I finally get up, go to my office and use the call waiting feature on the telephone. When he hangs up, I have his undivided attention!

Functional Analysis:
Extraverted Feeling

Extraverted Feeling rules the ENFJ's psyche. In the sway of this rational function, these folks are predisposed to closure in matters pertaining to people, and especially on behalf of their beloved. As extraverts, their contacts are wide ranging. Face-to-face relationships are intense, personable and warm, though they may be so infrequently achieved that intimate friendships are rare.
Introverted iNtuition

Like their INFJ cousins, ENFJs are blessed through introverted intuition with clarity of perception in the inner, unconscious world. Dominant Feeling prefers to find the silver lining in even the most beggarly perceptions of those in their expanding circle of friends and, of course, in themselves. In less balanced individuals, such mitigation of the unseemly eventually undermines the ENFJ's integrity and frequently their good name. In healthier individuals, deft use of this awareness of the inner needs and desires of others enables this astute type to win friends, influence people, and avoid compromising entanglements.

The dynamic nature of their intuition moves ENFJs from one project to another with the assurance that the next one will be perfect, or much more nearly so than the last. ENFJs are continually looking for newer and better solutions to benefit their extensive family, staff, or organization.
Extraverted Sensing

Sensing is extraverted. ENFJs can manage details, particularly those necessary to implement the prevailing vision. These data have, however, a magical flexible quality. Something to be bought can be had for a song; the same something is invaluable when it's time to sell. (We are not certain, but we suspect that such is the influence of the primary function.) This wavering of sensory perception is made possible by the weaker and less mature status with which the tertiary is endowed.
Introverted Thinking

Introverted Thinking is least apparent and most enigmatic in this type. In fact, it often appears only when summoned by Feeling. At times only in jest, but in earnest if need be, Thinking entertains as logical only those conclusions which support Feeling's values. Other scenarios can be shown invalid or at best significantly inferior. Such "Thinking in the service of Feeling" has the appearance of logic, but somehow it never quite adds up.

Introverted Thinking is frequently the focus of the spiritual quest of ENFJs. David's lengthiest psalm, 119, pays it homage. "Law," "precept," "commandment," "statute:" these essences of inner thinking are the mysteries of Deity for which this great Feeler's soul searched.
Famous ENFJs:

David, King of Israel
U.S. Presidents:
Abraham Lincoln
Ronald Reagan

William Cullen Bryant, poet
Abraham Maslow, psychologist and proponent of self-actualization
Ross Perot
Sean Connery
Elizabeth Dole
Francois Mitterand
Dick Van Dyke
Andy Griffith
James Garner
William Aramony, former president of United Way
Gene Hackman (Superman, Antz)
Dennis Hopper (Speed)
Brenda Vaccaro
Craig T. Nelson (Coach)
Diane Sawyer (Good Morning America)
Randy Quaid (Bye Bye, Love; Independence Day)
Tommy Lee Jones (The Fugitive)
Kirstie Alley ("Cheers," Look Who's Talking movies)
Michael Jordan, NBA basketball player
Johnny Depp (Pirates of the Caribbean)
Oprah Winfrey
Bob Saget America's Funniest Home Videos, Full House
Julia Louis-Dreyfus ("Seinfeld")
Ben Stiller (The Royal Tenenbaums)
Peyton Manning, Indianapolis Colts quarterback
Matthew McConaughey (The Wedding Planner)
Pete Sampras, Tennis Champion
Lauren Graham ("Gilmore Girls")
Ben Affleck (The Sum Of All Fears)
John Cusack (High Fidelity)

[hfire269]

Your Type is
ISFJ
Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging
Strength of the preferences %
67 12 12 44

[djjwp]

INTJ.

Nailed me pretty good. I had to think about my personality when I was done and was surprised how well the definition fit!

[MB1991]

It's pretty amazing that INTJ is the most common type here. INTJs in the general population are the rarest type making up only about 1% of the population.

[djjwp]

I sent the test on to others and I received INTJ amd ISTJ back from two people in the lifestyle. It appears we flock together!

It states that we INTJ's are the Master Minds". Hummm, what can we think up next? <EG>

[MB1991]

And since my wife is an unreported (in this survey) INTJ that's really getting silly. That makes INTJs 18% of the swinging population and 1.1% of the general population.

INTJs may be the rarest type but they're certainly not the most conventionally inhibited. Based on the best estimates on the number of couples in the Lifestyle, I'd have to guess that a third of all INTJs swing. Perhaps even the majority. For a fairly uncommon "hobby" with so much social stigma, that's nothing short of amazing.