kissing your swap partner?

[raylynne]

I'm sure this has been a subject before in here, but when I searched I found all but what I was looking for.

What does anyone have to say about kissing your swap partner? (on the mouth) MF MF My hubby says he really doesn't enjoy it, though we haven't had much experience in the lifestyle, but because he doesn't enjoy it, he thinks that I shouldn't indulge, either. What do you all think about this subject?

[LikeMinds321]

I can't imagine not being able to kiss my swing partner!

Both Mr LM and I love kissing, it's what warms us up, it gets the juices flowing, and the lips are such a sensual place on the body...they can give and receive.

Swinging is not something I want to do merely to get to the "act" of fucking or oral or whatever else we choose to do.

I want to feel close to my fuck buddies, and kissing brings me there.

LM

[biblonde]

I voted depends on the partner. Although sex just isnt sex without kissing to us, we do have one set of playfriends that dont kiss. We continue to play because they are so much fun otherwise and great friends. But, to be honest when they first told us they never kiss I almost said nope...sorry no longer interested but our dinner had gone so well that I took a chance and loved every minute of it. But normaly if a couple doesnt kiss we pass them up. Both of us enjoy it so much it is hard not to kiss. But yes there are some that are horible kissers and I would never really want to kiss them again!!

[older-newbes]

To us that is first base and our starting point. We still might be sort of new to this 8 months. But we would have to say no play with out being close and kissing! It is a turn on to us both and will remain so. Just our point of view.

[good times]

We will no longer play with anybody that has a no kissing rule. We have ran into a couple of couples that had a no kissing rule and after interacting with them for a while we realized that the no kissing thing is often a good indicator of a couple that has more issues in their relationship than we are willing to deal with, so we would normally pass on them. We actually don't have any rules about what we can or can't do other than the things we wouldn't even do with each other, for example, we don't do anal with each other so we wouldn't do anal with a swing partner either.

[Alura]

We can't imaging having sex without kissing. For that reason, any couple who had a "no kissing" rule would probably not enjoy playing with us.

But we have a question of those who don't kiss; what do you do instead?

Alura

[JustAskJulie]

There's a previous poll that is similar and an archive on the topic as well...

Kissing!
And the Archive on Kissing ....
http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...play.php?f=108

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

It's funny because when Mr Spoo mentioned the lifestyle and we started looking into it one of our rules was going to be no kissing. I couldn't imagine seeing him kiss another woman. Our first couple we met and developed a friendship with months before we played with them would help us evaluate our rules. We ended up deciding it was going to go off our rule list and we would kiss our playmates.

After that we met a couple that didn't kiss for similar reasons we had the rule(i.e. too intimate, save for each other, etc.). Although we had fun (my first bi experience and it was a 5some with a single female joining us) we have never played with them since. Kissing is part of the foreplay and no one can make me feel the way Mr Spoo does when he kisses me so it isn't an invasion of our intimacy.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[ALilOEverything]

Kissing is too important part of foreplay for me to go without. That's what really gets me wet, more than any touching. There is a big difference between the kiss with a friend and a kiss of the person I love.

[midnight hour]

We kiss it was never one of our issues...as Mr. Midnight said if he went to the nuts and bolts of it to him giving head is more personal then kissing....

Midnight Hour

[amBIdextrous]

A couple I had a 3some with never kissed, not even each other, only on birthdays etc.
I simply could not hack that.

[CB_n_Red]

I'm sure we've said it before - for us it would be unthinkable to have sex without kissing. Red says that kissing the potential playmate is the best way for her to see if the necessary spark is there. I'm inclined to agree.

CB

[twoplayful2]

Kissing is the biggest turn-on, the best forplay for both of us. Seems like restricting kissing is sterylizing things a bit. We did a FMF once and the girl would always kiss me (if you could call it that) with her mouth completely closed and lips almost sucked in. She'd even approach me first to kiss, not like I was always going after her for it. Turned out she only did that with me, the wife got the full treatment kissing. She was married (her husband was off playing), and I guess the rule just applied to other men?

[findtime]

Kissing members of the opposite sex is something we don't do. I kiss my female playmates, though.

We play quite a bit and haven't had it be a problem. At all. We are secure, in love, very sexual and open, but kissing is more of an emotional connection for us than the sex is. Our partners don't seem to mind.

We are not jealous, have not had issues with jealousy, have become friends with playmates and have gotten together on vanilla outings etc...
Not choosing to kiss really isn't indicative of "problems" in the relationship or insecurity about swinging, it's just a preference we have.
Hasn't slowed us down a bit.

[bear_n_bunny]

Damn straight I kiss my play partner. And yes, there is something very wierd about people who don't. I'm sorry, but if I'm going to put my face between your legs and my dick inside you, betcher ass I'm going to kiss you first. You can tell a lot about a person by kissing, never mind the fact that, to me, kissing is an integral part of the sexual act, and an extremely fun and erotic part of it to boot.

-- Bear