Do you Play Alone

[stoutgatte]

So a recent thread got me thinking... How many of us play solo???

We recently started to, and we're enjoying the extra sexual freedom immensely, but still have some rules in place to protect our relationship.

I just wanna know... Do you, don't you, or sorta???

Note that you can check more than one option...

[LikeMinds321]

Stoutgatte -

You're gonna hate me for this...but you left my answer out.

• When haven't yet, but we would consider it with certain couples we have already played with.

Polls can be a bastard to set up.

LM

[ALilOEverything]

We have just a little. I wouldn't want to make it a regular thing, just special occasions. What we little have done was mostly with another couple we have gotten to know and feel comfortable with allowing the other to play seperate. So far no issues have developed from it but it's not something I want us to do all the time.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

We don't play solo. The main thing we enjoy is being able to watch each other with another playmate. Also, at the club I don't think either of us would feel comfortable with me going it alone in a room.

It's just not really something that is an issue with us, we don't even consider it because neither of us are interesting in going solo, so it works for us.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[stoutgatte]

Riiite... OK...

LM... Thanks for that one.... Thought I had it covered... Guess not... Though you do fall mostly under: "We've considered it but we're too scared of the possible consequences " FOR NOW...

Spoo... I know u guys don't do solo... So I'm not shocked... Promise

The idea is to get an idea of how the general population (of the board) feels about it. As I said, we do play solo from time to time and we love it. I know others do too, but I've got the idea that many people out there think of solo play as a bad thing...

Thanks for your input so far...

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

I know others do too, but I've got the idea that many people out there think of solo play as a bad thing...

Stoutgatte, I think your right I get the impression that the people who don't go solo think of it as a bad thing. We don't think of it that way, it is just something that for us is not a consideration and we don't have a problem with people who do go solo as long as they don't expect us to play that way with them. The lifestyle is about establishing rules and boundaries for yourselves as a couple and then respecting what other people have decided for themselves.

Just my side note since I knew my post wouldn't "shock" you. We have had these discussions before

Mrs Spoomonkey

[friskyous]

Mrs F has had a few solo experiences over the past several years, one guy she sees semi regularly and couple more she played with briefly, I encourage the activity and find it a great turn on. She is always really hot (and ready for me) when she comes home and relays the story of her encounter in great detail, it always leads to some pretty amazing sex for days afterwards.

[da2ofusgb]

We voted we dont play solo, BUT we do seperate room swapping all the time.

To us, going solo means that one or the other is going off by themselves, like to a bar or other party and picking somebody up and doing there own thing with them. So that is why we voted we dont play solo if that makes any sense to ya guys..........

Peace....
Ed & Tammi

[LikeMinds321]

Up this morning with five cups of coffee in me and I see I couldn't spell last night - or catch my spelling error. I know everyone has it figured out, but if I don't say it you might think I don't know the difference between "When" and "We."

Now to Mrs Spoomonkey - Didn't I read somewhere about Mr Spoo looking forward to getting his FMF (which fell through ) after you earlier went off alone to be part of the couples FMF? As I recall it was a couple you have played with a number of times. I consider this one definition of playing solo which would be acceptable to me and Mr LM.

da2ofusgb has a different definition of solo; using their definition I would not swing solo.

Solo has different meanings and doing what both are comfy with is what's important.

LM

stoutgatte - "scared" ME? No way, nothing scares me...put up your fists buster.

[Pepper & Drew]

I agree with LM. We don't play solo, but Drew travels for business and there's playmates of ours that live where he goes. I would be perfectly OK with him playing while he was there, but that's because we know the couples well. But, as far as meeting a couple separately, etc., there's no way. So I guess we fall into the one where we would play solo, but only under certain rules--with the rule being that it can only be with an "approved" couple.

[mrs good times]

We decided in the beginning to never play solo but recently a situation arose in which I actually suggested Mr. play solo. A couple we play with often has a different sex time clock than us. We are both very slow and enjoy alot of forplay but this couple is very quick to get with it. So the male half and I always finish first and it is distracting to Mr. GT when we are sitting there talking while he is trying to enjoy the female and by the same token if Mr. GT doesn't walk in the room with a hard on ready to go she thinks he's not interested. During our last encounter when the male & I finished I suggested we go back into the club and leave Mr. GT and the woman alone. It didn't happen that way but I realized I was comfortable enough with Mr. and her that I could walk away.

This is not our preferred form of play but if the circumstances make it better for all involved we don't have a problem with it.

[WesternSwing]

Never had, probably never will. My wife has no interest in playing solo since this is an activity we do together. The eroticism for us is watching each other in action.

She once gave me a free pass to play solo when we first started. I was feeling left out since she was getting all the action from the other couples and I was like the spare wheel, usually left holding the camera. So when I met a single woman that turned me on she gave me the "get some free" pass. But I didn't use it. I really didn't want to play without her. Besides, I wanted a FFM and this wasn't it.

Mr. WS

[akamgaxoxo]

Yep, I have played solo, and as you guys have read in other posts, we play under a set of rules. My hubby knows the guy, likes him, is involved in the "planning process" and is completely cool with it. I tell him all the details that I can remember, and that makes for fun playtime later. We have decided MAYBE once a month kinda thing, otherwise all of us can go out and enjoy a vanilla time at the clubs together or on special occasions where hubby might be out of town...my hope is one day I can bring him over for a MFM.

[EvilMJ]

We agreed to never play solo. It is just not for us.
We tried separate rooms and it was okay, but we both decided same room suites us best.

I know personally I don't think I could handel him going off to play alone...my mind would be working over time...maybe a failing of mine but I am perfectly fine admitting it.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Now to Mrs Spoomonkey - Didn't I read somewhere about Mr Spoo looking forward to getting his FMF (which fell through ) after you earlier went off alone to be part of the couples FMF? As I recall it was a couple you have played with a number of times. I consider this one definition of playing solo which would be acceptable to me and Mr LM.

da2ofusgb has a different definition of solo; using their definition I would not swing solo.

LikeMinds we do have a couple that we are lifestyle friends with and took the opportunity of the relationship to fantasy fulfill. We invited the Mrs half over (with the husband's eagar consent) to have a FMF for Mr Spoo and then returned the fantasy favor the other way with me joining them. I think everyone enjoyed it especially the guys
Mr Spoo and I discussed it and though it was very hot for all and fun to have a couple we were comfortable with to do some fantasy fulfillments. I still prefer being in a play situation with Mr Spoo present and vice versa.
That was the only time we/I went solo by that type of definintion and I would be willing to go there again with that couple.

We wouldn't however play solo by the definition that da2ofusgb used and we don't do separate rooms

Mrs Spoomonkey