Do you Play Alone

[Shoreguy67]

not with my wife, but a former girlfriend. i prefered to not play apart, mainly because i liked to watch her. this was a lot better to me than having to just hear her story later on.

[Miss_Piggy]

As many of you know already I'm sure, Kermit and I have been known to play apart every once in a while

The person has always been agreed upon by both of us and it's never been someone we had meet too too recently. With couples that we've meet together we're perfectly happy to jump into bed on the second date. With singles we've played separately with, I don't think there has been one that we didn't know for a year or so.

I must agree wtih Ves, in that the discussion can be awkward. We're better at it now but in the beginning there was a lot of, "So what did you do?" "Oh, you know..."
But the same goes for when we talked about play together. "Tell me about when he did such and such" "It was good..." And it didn't matter who was doing the asking. We were both happy to ask questions about the details but uncomfortable answering.
I think it just takes a bit of time and practice.

Also, I think we've been pretty lucky in our solo play.

[confunktion]

The ideal situation is everybody together in the same room, preferrably in the same reachable area. That being said, the Mrs. and I have had fun playing in separate rooms, joining up later for more combinations. She has also played alone with a girlfriend without any men present. Also, we had an arrangement with another couple where the ladies would trade off going to each other's house for a MFF threesome once in a great while.

In each situation, there was an established relationship with the other play partners where the rules were set and agreed upon and everyone was very much comfortable with each other. If me and the Mrs. hadn't established that together first, none of the above would have ever happened.

Mr. Funk
We play well with others...

[JustAskJulie]

I couldn't really vote with any of the options provided. We haven't played solo and don't intend to, but never say never.

[Tia Vampire]

Because it's so hard for us to find couple where the four of us are attracted to each other, we now have a new rule. We are allowed to play solo, but solo meaning seperate room play. Not meeting up with someone on our own or going out without each other on a play date.

[sweet_tna]

I had a tough time figuring out how to vote on this one. Mr. Sweet and I have discussed the possibility of solo swinging, but it has not happened yet. For us, it would have to be with a couple we knew very well and trusted. Even then, it would be with the express knowledge and consent of all involved. And of course, we'd share details aferward.

=)

[willyoats]

We have both done it alone when the other is out of town. Sometimes it is with someone we both know. Other times it is with someone we just met, like when I used to go to our club alone,with my wife's knowledge, when she was out of town. Once when I was out of town, she had an afternoon delight with a guy she just met at a nudist camp we used to go to. She told me about it later that night. It's OK with me.

More recently, I have been having a sexual meeting in our home about 6 times a year with a friend who comes in from out of state. We (the three of us) arrange it for times when my wife is out of the house with her bridge group or at some volunteer activity for several hours. Once we did it three days in a row when my wife was out of town.

Actually, it would not bother my wife if she were in the house at the same time (which she was once), but I guess the other woman was a bit uncomfortable with that arrangement. I don't quite understand that because my wife has been with her husband more than once. It's not like we don't all know what is going on.

For both of us, not having to be at all concerned with what the other is doing or how they are making out, like when we are at a club or a house party, is refreshing and relaxing. As much as we always enjoyed being together to see the other get great pleasure from a new partner, being alone has its advantages, and for us, no disadvantages.