Women and Flirting

beaverz · 01-31-2005, 12:39 PM

Curious to know from women how big of a role does flirting play when you swing. Do you normally flirt with men anyway, do you flirt only in a swinging environment or do you consider yourself reserved and don’t normally flirt at all even when swinging. Have you changed since you started swinging?

I would also like to hear from men on how you view your wives when comes to flirting with other men. Has you wife always been flirtatious? Has she changed once you started swinging?

Vespertine · 01-31-2005, 12:59 PM

I've always been flirtatious. It comes naturally.

This is something that is just part of my personality. According to my mother, I've been this way since I was a little girl.

I flirt with everyone, usually I'm not even aware that I'm doing it.

LikeMinds321 · 01-31-2005, 01:23 PM

Ves's description fits me pretty well. Although I didn't start in my childhood as she did.

I find flirting has many levels. It equally has a place in a professional business setting as well as at a swing club. BUT, you have to know how to do it so that you're not coming across as a vanilla slut.

In business, men love to be flirted with. A woman can sense when she's with a man that knows how to read it for what it is, a compliment to him, without any desire for a hook-up.

An experienced flirt also knows when not to flirt with a guy who will take it all wrong. There are guys you meet who you would NEVER want to flirt with.

As a flirter, I love to be flirted with. It is a wonderful talent for a man to use with a woman. It makes life all the more fun.

LM

biblonde · 01-31-2005, 01:51 PM

For me I have always been a huge flirt. Although I do pick carefully who I flirt with since there are alot that would take it the wrong way. Hubby likes the flirty side of me so I act the same when he is there or not. I never would do or say anything when he isnt there that I wouldnt do or say when he is!

DBL D · 01-31-2005, 01:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

vanilla slut.

LM

Isn't that an oxymoron?

I love it when Fem D flirts at anytime. I want everyone to know that we don't have the usual hangups that most do. Plus, since she is the slower mover, it lets me know just who she's interested in.

I know what you mean, LM, about who to do it with. Some people just get too weird.

And Ves? You don't have to tell us--we know you are a flirt!

Male D

DBL D · 02-01-2005, 06:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by biblonde

For me I have always been a huge flirt.

Somehow...I knew this as well!

Not that you aren't a helluva lot more.

Male D

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-01-2005, 07:04 PM

I have to agree with LM. I'm a huge flirt, always have been, always will be. This has gotten me in trouble at times, with those around me who may have taken my flirting to mean that I was a slut... and well sometimes it may have been true.

Luckily, my guy doesn't have an issue with it, I don't think I could be with a guy who did.

northindycpl · 02-01-2005, 07:15 PM

yes.. I guess I am a flirt. Not like Mr. Indy though! He is quite a charmer! Makes all the girls swoon!

You do have to be careful with it in business. I have has some near-misses that have given me a scare... I like to keep my flirting contained to those cute construction workers now!

**good times** · 02-01-2005, 07:39 PM

I think this poll should be amended to include answers from men. I think you would have a hard time deciding who is the bigger flirt between Mrs. GT and myself.

Plumeria · 02-01-2005, 07:55 PM

Well I didn't choose, since the poll seemed to be more about flirting in relation to swinging, and I'm not a swinger, yet.

However, I find flirting interesting, because I think I'm "flirting challenged." LOL

My parents were pretty much on the "serious side" most of the time and they and my brother and I had to conduct ourselves accordingly while growing up. I'd like to have a dime for every time I hear my mother say, "Stop acting silly! Stop that flirting!"

I've found later in life, it really kept me from being able to flirt or to even recognize flirting from other people.

I've been with friends and they would say, "Man, he sure was flirting with you!" And I'd say, "What? He was? When?" LOL

However, I bought a self-help book on flirting a couple of years ago and so I'm not as bad as I used to be

Although it's been a long road to learning to recognize it, much less do it....it's not as easy to practice something that doesn't come naturally

**TNT** · 02-01-2005, 10:19 PM

Always have been a flirt...but have gotten much, much better at it since swinging. But like others have said I am very careful as to who I flirt with, in or out of a swinging environment.

Ted is a big flirt himself...most women just love him to death as he is real good at flirting and never makes a woman feel like he has stepped over the line.

A good flirt is always sincere in the way they flirt. Flirting is suppose to make you and the other person feel good.

So yep, we're both big flirts and enjoy watching the other flirting.

Teresa

Mrs Spoomonkey · 02-01-2005, 10:29 PM

I'm a flirt pretty much all the time. Mr Spoo says I even flirt with people at work, but I don't always know that I am really doing it, it's just sort of my personality.

I actually don't flirt as much at the club because I sort of have my guard up with all the singles there. When we first got into swinging if I wasn't careful it was misinterpreted so now I am selective with who I flirt with in swinging situations but outside of that . . . . it sort of pours out

Mrs Spoomonkey

SnozzberryBlu · 02-02-2005, 12:57 AM

I have also always been a flirt... often getting in trouble, mostly with women who think I want their guy. Thing is, when I am not trying to flirt, I still seem to be doing it and don't know that I am. Hubby finally explained to me a few years back that men are so used to being snubbed by women that if any woman pays them some attention for ANY reason, they assume she likes them. Silly me, I thought I was making polite conversation! LOL

funny thing.. as long as I have known I was bi, I have a hell of a time flirting with women... and the more attracted to a woman I am, the quieter I get. Must be why I didn't have more girlfriends than I did! LOL At this rate, if I were to fall in love, she would probably assume I hated her!

Ms.Trackerjane · 02-02-2005, 01:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Ves's description fits me pretty well. Although I didn't start in my childhood as she did.

I find flirting has many levels. It equally has a place in a professional business setting as well as at a swing club. BUT, you have to know how to do it so that you're not coming across as a vanilla slut.

In business, men love to be flirted with. A woman can sense when she's with a man that knows how to read it for what it is, a compliment to him, without any desire for a hook-up.

An experienced flirt also knows when not to flirt with a guy who will take it all wrong. There are guys you meet who you would NEVER want to flirt with.

As a flirter, I love to be flirted with. It is a wonderful talent for a man to use with a woman. It makes life all the more fun.

LM

I couldn't have said it better....ditto!

sweetswing · 02-09-2005, 01:55 AM

i too have always been a flirt. the girls at work call me the freak,lol

because i will say anything. and i am always flirty.

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View Poll Results: Women: How Flirtatious Are You?
Openly flirtatious all the time	71	50.00%
Flirtatious only when swinging	23	16.20%
Reserved, not flirtatious at all even when swinging	14	9.86%
I'm more flirtatious now, since I started swinging	41	28.87%
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01-31-2005, 12:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
beaverz Eat a beaver save a tree Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 292 Location: Indy Status: Couple	Women and Flirting Curious to know from women how big of a role does flirting play when you swing. Do you normally flirt with men anyway, do you flirt only in a swinging environment or do you consider yourself reserved and don’t normally flirt at all even when swinging. Have you changed since you started swinging? I would also like to hear from men on how you view your wives when comes to flirting with other men. Has you wife always been flirtatious? Has she changed once you started swinging?
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01-31-2005, 12:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: Women and Flirting I've always been flirtatious. It comes naturally. This is something that is just part of my personality. According to my mother, I've been this way since I was a little girl. I flirt with everyone, usually I'm not even aware that I'm doing it.
	__________________ Ves The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral.

01-31-2005, 01:23 PM	#3 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: Women and Flirting Ves's description fits me pretty well. Although I didn't start in my childhood as she did. I find flirting has many levels. It equally has a place in a professional business setting as well as at a swing club. BUT, you have to know how to do it so that you're not coming across as a vanilla slut. In business, men love to be flirted with. A woman can sense when she's with a man that knows how to read it for what it is, a compliment to him, without any desire for a hook-up. An experienced flirt also knows when not to flirt with a guy who will take it all wrong. There are guys you meet who you would NEVER want to flirt with. As a flirter, I love to be flirted with. It is a wonderful talent for a man to use with a woman. It makes life all the more fun. LM

01-31-2005, 01:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: Women and Flirting For me I have always been a huge flirt. Although I do pick carefully who I flirt with since there are alot that would take it the wrong way. Hubby likes the flirty side of me so I act the same when he is there or not. I never would do or say anything when he isnt there that I wouldnt do or say when he is!

02-01-2005, 07:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Women and Flirting I have to agree with LM. I'm a huge flirt, always have been, always will be. This has gotten me in trouble at times, with those around me who may have taken my flirting to mean that I was a slut... and well sometimes it may have been true. Luckily, my guy doesn't have an issue with it, I don't think I could be with a guy who did.

02-01-2005, 07:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
northindycpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,425 Location: Indiana Status: Blissfull SITCOM Swing Lifestyle Name:northindycpl	Re: Women and Flirting yes.. I guess I am a flirt. Not like Mr. Indy though! He is quite a charmer! Makes all the girls swoon! You do have to be careful with it in business. I have has some near-misses that have given me a scare... I like to keep my flirting contained to those cute construction workers now!
	__________________ Mrs. Indy

02-01-2005, 07:39 PM	#9 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Women and Flirting I think this poll should be amended to include answers from men. I think you would have a hard time deciding who is the bigger flirt between Mrs. GT and myself.
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02-01-2005, 07:55 PM	#10 (permalink)
Plumeria Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Seattle Status: Single	Re: Women and Flirting Well I didn't choose, since the poll seemed to be more about flirting in relation to swinging, and I'm not a swinger, yet. However, I find flirting interesting, because I think I'm "flirting challenged." LOL My parents were pretty much on the "serious side" most of the time and they and my brother and I had to conduct ourselves accordingly while growing up. I'd like to have a dime for every time I hear my mother say, "Stop acting silly! Stop that flirting!" I've found later in life, it really kept me from being able to flirt or to even recognize flirting from other people. I've been with friends and they would say, "Man, he sure was flirting with you!" And I'd say, "What? He was? When?" LOL However, I bought a self-help book on flirting a couple of years ago and so I'm not as bad as I used to be Although it's been a long road to learning to recognize it, much less do it....it's not as easy to practice something that doesn't come naturally
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02-01-2005, 10:19 PM	#11 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Re: Women and Flirting Always have been a flirt...but have gotten much, much better at it since swinging. But like others have said I am very careful as to who I flirt with, in or out of a swinging environment. Ted is a big flirt himself...most women just love him to death as he is real good at flirting and never makes a woman feel like he has stepped over the line. A good flirt is always sincere in the way they flirt. Flirting is suppose to make you and the other person feel good. So yep, we're both big flirts and enjoy watching the other flirting. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

02-01-2005, 10:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,758 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Re: Women and Flirting I'm a flirt pretty much all the time. Mr Spoo says I even flirt with people at work, but I don't always know that I am really doing it, it's just sort of my personality. I actually don't flirt as much at the club because I sort of have my guard up with all the singles there. When we first got into swinging if I wasn't careful it was misinterpreted so now I am selective with who I flirt with in swinging situations but outside of that . . . . it sort of pours out Mrs Spoomonkey
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02-02-2005, 12:57 AM	#13 (permalink)
SnozzberryBlu Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 98 Location: South Mississippi Status: M.Female Swing Lifestyle Name:http://SnozzberryBlu.swinglifestyle.com	Re: Women and Flirting I have also always been a flirt... often getting in trouble, mostly with women who think I want their guy. Thing is, when I am not trying to flirt, I still seem to be doing it and don't know that I am. Hubby finally explained to me a few years back that men are so used to being snubbed by women that if any woman pays them some attention for ANY reason, they assume she likes them. Silly me, I thought I was making polite conversation! LOL funny thing.. as long as I have known I was bi, I have a hell of a time flirting with women... and the more attracted to a woman I am, the quieter I get. Must be why I didn't have more girlfriends than I did! LOL At this rate, if I were to fall in love, she would probably assume I hated her!
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02-09-2005, 01:55 AM	#15 (permalink)
sweetswing Active Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 20 Location: sweetwater	Re: Women and Flirting i too have always been a flirt. the girls at work call me the freak,lol because i will say anything. and i am always flirty.
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