Have you Ever taken one for the team?

[JustAskJulie]

Taken one for the team?

[ALilOEverything]

Nope, if I'm not attracted I don't get wet and I hate bothering with lube :rollseyes

He's never either, he's always asking afterwards... "so when do we get to see them again"

I'm pickier than he is so usually it's my decision whether or not we play with a couple. Only once has he said he wasn't attracted and to move on.

didnt know it was going to turn out that way till it was over. the guy of the cpl claimed to be very very good in bed. Well it didnt turn out that way.

[Chemistry_0518]

Yes, I (Mr. Chemistry) have done what might be considered "one for the team". While I was not totally blown away by the female of a particular couple, My Little Princess seemed to have a really great time. In this case I was so happy with that fact alone that I guess it really removed me from the "one for the team" category. So, would I do that again? In a heartbeat! Only problem is that I would never be able to tell when I am!

[funtoplay]

We are fortunate that this situation has never come up....yet. However...if we met a couple where hubby was more interested in the female than i was the male half....i would not refuse outright the possibility of taking the relationship to the next level. I would ask for a little more time....in the hopes that perhaps my initial response was a mistake. Only if the gentleman in question was severely "creeping me out" would I refuse to have anything to do with him.....if hubby REALLY wanted to be with his S/O.

[northindycpl]

I voted yes, but wouldn't do it again.

I guess at the time, I thought I could work my way through it. I did. And n the car on the way home, Mr. Indy informed me that he felt as if he did too.

That was the start of the "we don't play on the first meeting" rule and the end of ever taking one for the team again!!!

[ranchcouple3]

Although the situation has not come up, I would take one in a heartbeat if it made the Mrs. happy. An d although I never keep score I feel confident she would return the favor if the chance arose.

[FunTxCouple]

Unfortunately, yes we both have. The first time we ever played Mr. Fun took one for the team. It was soft swap, and I think we both just got caught up in the excitement of our first experience. We decided we wouldn't take one for the team again. You think we would have learned from this, but the very next time we played with a new couple, I was not attracted to the guy. We honestly have learned our lesson (the hard way) and under no circumstances will we do that again - live and learn. It's just a bad situation for everyone involved. It's unfair to the other couple too. We have since met a group of people at a monthly social we attend, and both of the above mentioned couple's are there. So it's a bit uncomfortable, but I think they understand we aren't interested.

Anyway, would not recommend the whole taking one for team situation!

[SexhoundDog]

I'm with Ranch Couple's exact description. I wouldn't want to do it often, but if the wife were blown away by some guy and his wife didn't do much for me, as long as the little head could rise to the occasion, I'd let Mama have her way. As long as our little buddies in our pants will play, I think it's a lot easier for guys to do this than the girls. But, I'd never ask my wife to take one for the team if I sensed she had no interest, and I'd still expect her to appreciate me doing her the favor.

But of course, I'd damn sure have to be watching!

[Pepper & Drew]

We both have.....and in my situation, I can't say that I wouldn't do the same again. We met this great couple that we had great conversation with, had lots of similiar interests, etc. She is TOTALLY Drew's type and he was very into her, which was exciting to me. I thought she was cute. Her husband, a really great guy, is polite and attractive, certainly not a troll, but there wasn't a great deal of sexual attraction on my part. We've played with them on more than one occassion and although we had fun, if he weren't so attracted to her, I probably wouldn't have played with them. I think I had fun partly because he was having such a good time. We probably will play with them again at some point, and I certainly won't feel like 'oh darn, we have to play with them AGAIN' We had a good time and probably would again. So, I don't consider it always being a bad thing to take one for the team. It's just that sometimes we have different levels of attraction to different people within a couple.

Did that make any sense at all?

Pepper

[txduo2000]

Our situation is regretful, on my part. My husband felt forced to take one for the team in a recent party situation. And I had had a little too much to drink and did not remain focused on his body language or his subtle hints that we should leave. I was just mesmerized by the husband of the other couple ... do not know why, he wasn't really attractive ... he was a great conversationalist, and to be completely honest, I wanted to see my husband with this guy's wife. We are just getting back into the swing of things and I guess I was rushing in with my eyes completely shut just to GET IT DONE!

I have run down the lists of "I should haves" over and over in my head, seemingly hoping to get the whole situation to have never happened.

I should have taken his third time saying, "it's late we really might ought to leave" as "Move your ass .... we are going home!"

I should have paid attention to the fact that the wife of the other couple was not in the least my husband's type and he was not into her at all.

I should have paid way more attention to my husband's feelings instead of this idiot's soliloquy. :rollseyes

Needless to say, it wasn't a good night. The husband of the other couple couldn't even keep an erection (for all his big talk!), and I was silently wishing the whole thing would end. My husband, the trooper that he is, did his part with the wife.

But, no, we have talked and agreed that taking one for the team is never an option. The whole thing is that we are in this TOGETHER and will remain as such, in every situation.

[soniadan]

We did when we were younger and inexperienced. Twice specifically that I can remember.
Now we agree that both of us have to like the other person or persons before we go any further. Of course they have to like us too.
Sexual attraction is nice, but when you have all personalities meshing it's amazing!

[Alura]

We've both "taken one for the team."

On our first swap, the man turned out to be both hung and adept. Mrs. Alura had a great time. His wife didn't really "do it for me," but — what the hell?— "gratitude is riches..." So I did my best...

On another occasion, the man was unable to hold a conversation on any subject except construction. Mrs. Alura was bored, but he never knew it; she just kept the sex going so he didn't have to talk. His wife was a nurse and quite a delight, both in and out of bed. We played with them for several years and became good friends.

"Taking one for the team" isn't all that bad.


Mr. Alura

[reed&diana]

It seems like "taking one for the team" is more a refelction of what you would like for your partner. I enjoy seeing Di having a good time and if that means that my experience isn't the best, oh well. To a limit, of course. If your partner feels the same, things will even out over time. I mean, is OK sex better than no sex??

[DaveNSheila]

IF S is into the guy or the couple and I can at least get it up then ya we can play and I will take one for the team you could say. I know that if he doesn't excite her at all it wont happen no matter what. D