Do you keep track of how many swing partners you've had?

[LikeMinds321]

Do you keep track of how many people you have sex with?

Does how many fuck buddies you have on your list play a role in your swinging satisfaction?

If so, do you equate it to a score that represents how you're doing as a swinger, i.e., the more people you fuck the greater a swinger you are?

I see where some people--in their ad profiles--say they aren't looking to put notches in their bedpost. Other's profiles give me the impression that for them, the more swing partners they have, the merrier they are.

LM

[WesternSwing]

Some may, we don't. Why does it matter how many people you've had sex with? I guess if you're looking for a virgin wife it would, but It's never been an issue with us. Funny you should post this, though. We were just talking about this exact subject a couple of weeks ago with some friends. And that was their feelings too.

Some like the variety of many people, some like the comfort of just a few. All personal preference I guess.

Mr. WS

[CB_n_Red]

We don't keep count at all. Never really saw any need to. In fact I reckon both of us would be hard pushed to work out just how many we have been with. It certainly has no bearing on how successful we feel we are in the lifestyle.

CB

[Vespertine]

When I try to mentally caluculate who I've slept with (over my entire life, that is), I always manage to forget quite a few people. This selective memory tells me that it's not the quantity that makes me satisfied, but the quality that satisfies me.

As far as swinging is concerned, I keep track of the numbers now. But I think it's normal, this is new territory for us. Once the newness wears off, I'll be less inclined to keep track.

[good times]

We are kind of like everybody that has posted so far in that we don't keep score. In fact it would take a bit to sit down and come up with a number even though we haven't had that many different couples. We just don't think about it that much I guess. Our quest is centered more around finding couples we both enjoy and have fun with than the quantity of people we can have sex with.

[HotMoCpl]

Geez, those are the scary ones. We're not looking at swinging just for sex, but the friendship as well as the good times.

Cheers.

[BradAndJanet]

Yes, we have this counter in our bedroom...you know, like the one's at the deli counter..."Now serving number 69!"

Seriously though, I can't see what quantity has to do with anything. It's the quality of the experience that matters to us and we think that 'repeat performances' with people are likely to lead to better encounters. It takes time to find all the erogenous zones and what tickles people's fancies.

-B

[graygo98]

We are also very new, so like Vespertine said, its hard to not be aware of the numbers. But its certainly not the point... having a great time together is.

What came out in this thread I want to comment on is about just what you are looking for in a couple. Way back in our early days, (like say last October, ) if you asked us it would have been people sort of like us. Same education, life experience, etc. Looking for people we could be good friends with first of all.

Just yesterday we were talking about how, sort of unconsciously, that has changed. We are now drawn to people we have fun with and are attracted to physically. Period. If they become friends, fine. But if we never see them in a vanilla setting thats fine too.

[Alura]

It's just way too easy for us to count: five couples in twenty-four years, twenty-five come Easter. We're still looking for couple number six.

Mr. Alura

[confunktion]

Quality over quanitity preferred here. It's not about the prowess or the conquest or signifigance of a list to me. I'd rather fondly remember that one night of unbridled fun for all than constantly be reminded of a bunch of miserable experiences.

Mr. Funk
Already burning my list in the fireplace

[bear_and_babe]

We keep a list, but it is also our phone number and e-mail list. We don't look at it like a count keeper, but a address book. We tend to play over and over again with most couples we meet.

[ALilOEverything]

I could count our swing partners pretty easily if need be and that's the way I would like to keep it. I wouldn't want to get so lost in this lifestyle that anyone would forgotten. The quality of the experience gets better and better with the repeat experiences of the two regular couples we play with so that I have no desire to seek out first time experiences very often.

[N&G]

Originally Posted by HotMoCpl

Geez, those are the scary ones. We're not looking at swinging just for sex, but the friendship as well as the good times.

Cheers.

Friendship has nothing to do with the number of partners. We don't keep track of how many partners we have been with but we know who our friends are. Our friendships started out as just sex but evolved into a closer relationship later on.

[EvilMJ]

I don't really have that kind of energy.....I'm not in this to impress anyone with numbers of my sexual prowess....just here to have a really good time and make a fre friends.

[JustAskJulie]

I've seen some posts around here that make it obvious that some people are keeping track and that it is very important to them how many they've had as well as how many others have had. Also reminds me of one of the couples in the Sex with Strangers "documentary" that had a goal of (I think) 7 over the course of a weekend.

Numbers have never played an important factor for me. It's about fun, and math has never been fun to me.