Women swingers and bisexuality

CowboyBob · 01-06-2005, 01:47 PM

Just wondering, here...

In my wife's and my experience, we've noticed that most of the women in the lifestyle have at least been curious about having sex with other women, at least as much as, if not more curious about having sex with other men.

Of course, the exact opposite holds true for the men in the lifestyle. I've only met one guy who's ever even considered having sex with another man.

Without counting, I'd guess that of all the women we've encountered have gotten into swinging, about two thirds have indicated they've done so at least in part to try sex with another woman.

So, how about it, Ladies? How many of you have gotten into swinging at least in part because of the urge to have sex with another woman?

CowboyBob · 01-06-2005, 02:13 PM

For my wife, she admits it was mostly curiosity about women. She's mostly into guys, though. Happily, that includes myself.

northindycpl · 01-06-2005, 03:04 PM

Mostly interested in girls, slightly interested in guys, was my answer. facelick

Of course, I am sure Mr. Indy feels the same

We are in it to be together and from that standpoint we are. I am really not too interested in other men, unless they come with a lucious lady attached. Mr. Indy is it for me!!!

Denver2some · 01-06-2005, 03:11 PM

I voted only interested in guys. Your poll may end up surprising me ... but I usually find I'm in the minority on this topic.

I've always thought of myself as "special"

, though ... so I'm cool with that.

**good times** · 01-06-2005, 03:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Denver2some

I voted only interested in guys. Your poll may end up surprising me ... but I usually find I'm in the minority on this topic.

I've always thought of myself as "special"

, though ... so I'm cool with that.

Dito , my wife isn't interested in women for sex but I think you are about right in your observations.

HotMoCpl · 01-06-2005, 04:47 PM

Yea, my wife has already told me she's not interested in having sex with another woman.

dave110256 · 01-06-2005, 04:56 PM

My wife is mostly interested in men but enjoys the thought of having a woman present to join in with the two of us.

ALilOEverything · 01-06-2005, 05:02 PM

I have to say it was about equal for me. I had already enjoyed my bisexuality many times over before getting into swinging so we didn't do it so we could explore it since it already had been explored. To me it was about being with other people in general, male or female giving a ton of different combinations of kinky things we can do

SnozzberryBlu · 01-08-2005, 11:46 AM

My hubby and I got into swinging primarily because I am bi. Had I not been, we probably wouldn't be here. We tried for 14 years to live a vanilla life and to ignore this part of my sexuality. It was a very frustrating 14 years.

I am not interested in other guys (in general) because I have the only one I will ever need in my life. However, I do enjoy sex with men. I don't think it would be fair to get into this any other way, and I myself am not interested in soft swap as it limits my husband's activities (so unfair lol) and I feel it takes something away from my experience with a woman (explanation below). We aren't rushed, so we can both be choosy about which couples we would like to be with. My standards for a man I don't think are too high, but since they are not why I am here we will quickly cut off contact with those who we don't feel will be respectful or caring (which, strangely enough, I have not found in the males on this board.. why do you guys live so far away??? lol) For instance, one interesting couple quickly hit the black list when in the first private chat we had he started talking about my "pussy" before we had really even started talking about anything yet. Blech! Just call me a cunt why don't ya??? Maybe I'm a prudish swinger, but I just don't see why loving sex with other people means I have to be treated like a slut.

As for my explanation on soft swing... I don't mind if guys watch, in fact I am quite an exhibitionist so this fits right in. But the reasons I love being with a woman are 50 percent sexual and 50 percent emotional... give or take another 20 percent depending on the woman and the mood. I am not with women simply for show. I am not with them just because it is different (though I LOVE different, and in sex different can be amazing

I am not knocking anyone who might be into it for those reasons. But so far in this I do find that many men expect that is why the women do it... and it shows. I think sex between women is an amazingly beautiful, sensual, erotic, romantic, pleasurable experience that takes over both a mind and a spirit. If the "watching" by the men is respectful, fuels their attraction and then heightens their experience, I am immensly turned on. But if all I am going to see is two guys in the corner jacking off.. well I might as well go home and do laundry cause I lose my momentum all together.

Again, maybe I am nieve, prudish, idealistic... but for us, we believe there can be a time for down and dirty lustful sex... and a time for pleasurable, erotic interaction. We prefer the latter to dominate our swinging experience with a couple.. and we are simply turned off by anyone in which the former is their primary goal.

DBL D · 01-08-2005, 04:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Denver2some

I voted only interested in guys. Your poll may end up surprising me ... but I usually find I'm in the minority on this topic.

I've always thought of myself as "special"

, though ... so I'm cool with that.

There is always room for straight couples. I'm in the monority alot of the time too so don't think that's a bad thing!

Male D

xxoticangel · 01-10-2005, 11:22 AM

We started swinging so that Angel could be with other women. She had bi expierences in high school and college and expressed a desire to open her bi side again. The situation we run into is that when she is with another woman she wants to devote 100% of her attention to the woman and vice versa. For some reason she finds it difficult to be with a guy and a girl at the same time. When we play with a bi fem couple I try to give the girls their time before the guys join in as it tends to end the bi play.
Also, over the last few years we have drifted further and further away from couples and more towards single men. The time and effort required to find a compatable couple is just too much for us at this point in our lives. If we could find an attractive couple that was interested in sex first and friendship second that would be great but most couples want to meet a couple of times first to see if things click and we just don't have the time for that right now. Maybe after the kids are gone away to college it will be easier.

confunktion · 01-10-2005, 07:42 PM

Our situation is a little different than those already posted - the Mrs. was already in tune with her bisexuality, and she had sexual experiences with women before I ever met her. We began swinging together as a way for her to experience women, yet not leave me out in the cold. With the two of us on the same wavelength as far as the separation between sex and lovemaking, it was an easy transition to slip into...pardon the pun...no, wait, don't pardon it.

Mr. Funk
I am a very fortunate man

BiDrywallChick · 04-08-2005, 05:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SnozzberryBlu

As for my explanation on soft swing... I don't mind if guys watch, in fact I am quite an exhibitionist so this fits right in. But the reasons I love being with a woman are 50 percent sexual and 50 percent emotional... give or take another 20 percent depending on the woman and the mood. I am not with women simply for show. I am not with them just because it is different (though I LOVE different, and in sex different can be amazing

I am not knocking anyone who might be into it for those reasons. But so far in this I do find that many men expect that is why the women do it... and it shows. I think sex between women is an amazingly beautiful, sensual, erotic, romantic, pleasurable experience that takes over both a mind and a spirit. If the "watching" by the men is respectful, fuels their attraction and then heightens their experience, I am immensly turned on. But if all I am going to see is two guys in the corner jacking off.. well I might as well go home and do laundry cause I lose my momentum all together.

Again, maybe I am nieve, prudish, idealistic... but for us, we believe there can be a time for down and dirty lustful sex... and a time for pleasurable, erotic interaction. We prefer the latter to dominate our swinging experience with a couple.. and we are simply turned off by anyone in which the former is their primary goal.

I just needed to see that part again. I find it rare in that someone else has the same views just about as I do with regard to bi women and swinging. excellent post!

BiDrywallChick · 04-08-2005, 05:26 PM

My first swing experience was with my ex. I did it more out of a feeling that I had to and there was no play for me.. one of the reasons he is an ex.. Now when my husband and I started talking about swinging the right way... I was more inclined to give it a try because of my BI-ness. Needless to say.. i stuck with it!

wisxxxfun · 04-17-2005, 04:23 AM

I did it for the men, the woman were a bonus down the road, most couples are straight swaps, but one in a while, I'll play with the woman. But that's not the main goal for me, it's the man, I guess you can say I'm Bi on occasion

Christine

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View Poll Results: How many ladies got into swinging to have or try sex with other women?
Exclusively--only interested in girls to swing with	43	6.94%
Mostly interested in girls, a little interested in guys	121	19.52%
Partly interested in girls, partly interested in guys	319	51.45%
None-only interested in guys to swing with	137	22.10%
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01-06-2005, 01:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
CowboyBob Active Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 27 Location: Colorado Status: M. Male	Women swingers and bisexuality Just wondering, here... In my wife's and my experience, we've noticed that most of the women in the lifestyle have at least been curious about having sex with other women, at least as much as, if not more curious about having sex with other men. Of course, the exact opposite holds true for the men in the lifestyle. I've only met one guy who's ever even considered having sex with another man. Without counting, I'd guess that of all the women we've encountered have gotten into swinging, about two thirds have indicated they've done so at least in part to try sex with another woman. So, how about it, Ladies? How many of you have gotten into swinging at least in part because of the urge to have sex with another woman?

01-06-2005, 02:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
CowboyBob Active Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 27 Location: Colorado Status: M. Male	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality For my wife, she admits it was mostly curiosity about women. She's mostly into guys, though. Happily, that includes myself.

01-06-2005, 03:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
northindycpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,425 Location: Indiana Status: Blissfull SITCOM Swing Lifestyle Name:northindycpl	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality Mostly interested in girls, slightly interested in guys, was my answer. facelick Of course, I am sure Mr. Indy feels the same We are in it to be together and from that standpoint we are. I am really not too interested in other men, unless they come with a lucious lady attached. Mr. Indy is it for me!!!
	__________________ Mrs. Indy Last edited by northindycpl; 01-06-2005 at 03:28 PM. Reason: Momentarily confused on Question-lol

01-06-2005, 03:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
Denver2some Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 261 Location: Denver, CO	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality I voted only interested in guys. Your poll may end up surprising me ... but I usually find I'm in the minority on this topic. I've always thought of myself as "special" , though ... so I'm cool with that.

01-06-2005, 04:47 PM	#6 (permalink)
HotMoCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 402 Location: Missouri Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:HotMo	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality Yea, my wife has already told me she's not interested in having sex with another woman.
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01-06-2005, 04:56 PM	#7 (permalink)
dave110256 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 308 Location: Maine Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:dave110256	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality My wife is mostly interested in men but enjoys the thought of having a woman present to join in with the two of us.

01-06-2005, 05:02 PM	#8 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,847 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality I have to say it was about equal for me. I had already enjoyed my bisexuality many times over before getting into swinging so we didn't do it so we could explore it since it already had been explored. To me it was about being with other people in general, male or female giving a ton of different combinations of kinky things we can do
	__________________ ~Lilo

01-08-2005, 11:46 AM	#9 (permalink)
SnozzberryBlu Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 98 Location: South Mississippi Status: M.Female Swing Lifestyle Name:http://SnozzberryBlu.swinglifestyle.com	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality My hubby and I got into swinging primarily because I am bi. Had I not been, we probably wouldn't be here. We tried for 14 years to live a vanilla life and to ignore this part of my sexuality. It was a very frustrating 14 years. I am not interested in other guys (in general) because I have the only one I will ever need in my life. However, I do enjoy sex with men. I don't think it would be fair to get into this any other way, and I myself am not interested in soft swap as it limits my husband's activities (so unfair lol) and I feel it takes something away from my experience with a woman (explanation below). We aren't rushed, so we can both be choosy about which couples we would like to be with. My standards for a man I don't think are too high, but since they are not why I am here we will quickly cut off contact with those who we don't feel will be respectful or caring (which, strangely enough, I have not found in the males on this board.. why do you guys live so far away??? lol) For instance, one interesting couple quickly hit the black list when in the first private chat we had he started talking about my "pussy" before we had really even started talking about anything yet. Blech! Just call me a cunt why don't ya??? Maybe I'm a prudish swinger, but I just don't see why loving sex with other people means I have to be treated like a slut. As for my explanation on soft swing... I don't mind if guys watch, in fact I am quite an exhibitionist so this fits right in. But the reasons I love being with a woman are 50 percent sexual and 50 percent emotional... give or take another 20 percent depending on the woman and the mood. I am not with women simply for show. I am not with them just because it is different (though I LOVE different, and in sex different can be amazing I am not knocking anyone who might be into it for those reasons. But so far in this I do find that many men expect that is why the women do it... and it shows. I think sex between women is an amazingly beautiful, sensual, erotic, romantic, pleasurable experience that takes over both a mind and a spirit. If the "watching" by the men is respectful, fuels their attraction and then heightens their experience, I am immensly turned on. But if all I am going to see is two guys in the corner jacking off.. well I might as well go home and do laundry cause I lose my momentum all together. Again, maybe I am nieve, prudish, idealistic... but for us, we believe there can be a time for down and dirty lustful sex... and a time for pleasurable, erotic interaction. We prefer the latter to dominate our swinging experience with a couple.. and we are simply turned off by anyone in which the former is their primary goal.
	__________________ ---- "Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former." - Einstein

01-10-2005, 11:22 AM	#11 (permalink)
xxoticangel Hot and Horny in ATL Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 381 Location: Atlanta, GA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:xxoticangel	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality We started swinging so that Angel could be with other women. She had bi expierences in high school and college and expressed a desire to open her bi side again. The situation we run into is that when she is with another woman she wants to devote 100% of her attention to the woman and vice versa. For some reason she finds it difficult to be with a guy and a girl at the same time. When we play with a bi fem couple I try to give the girls their time before the guys join in as it tends to end the bi play. Also, over the last few years we have drifted further and further away from couples and more towards single men. The time and effort required to find a compatable couple is just too much for us at this point in our lives. If we could find an attractive couple that was interested in sex first and friendship second that would be great but most couples want to meet a couple of times first to see if things click and we just don't have the time for that right now. Maybe after the kids are gone away to college it will be easier.
	__________________ Multiple orgasms are proof that God is a woman.

01-10-2005, 07:42 PM	#12 (permalink)
confunktion This Village's Idiot Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 358 Location: Wisconsin Status: Male, happily spoken for	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality Our situation is a little different than those already posted - the Mrs. was already in tune with her bisexuality, and she had sexual experiences with women before I ever met her. We began swinging together as a way for her to experience women, yet not leave me out in the cold. With the two of us on the same wavelength as far as the separation between sex and lovemaking, it was an easy transition to slip into...pardon the pun...no, wait, don't pardon it. Mr. Funk I am a very fortunate man
	__________________ The cool points are out the window, and I'm all twisted up in the game...

04-08-2005, 05:26 PM	#14 (permalink)
BiDrywallChick Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 484 Location: Rowland, NC Status: s1/2ly marriednfemale Swing Lifestyle Name:bidrywallchick	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality My first swing experience was with my ex. I did it more out of a feeling that I had to and there was no play for me.. one of the reasons he is an ex.. Now when my husband and I started talking about swinging the right way... I was more inclined to give it a try because of my BI-ness. Needless to say.. i stuck with it!
	__________________ Life is like Salsa. The more spices you add the better the flavor.

04-17-2005, 04:23 AM	#15 (permalink)
wisxxxfun Fun Couple Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 18 Location: Wisconsin Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:wild69jd	Re: Women swingers and bisexuality I did it for the men, the woman were a bonus down the road, most couples are straight swaps, but one in a while, I'll play with the woman. But that's not the main goal for me, it's the man, I guess you can say I'm Bi on occasion Christine

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