How have you changed since entering the lifestyle?

imsherona2 · 05-11-2008, 01:20 PM

I actually started in the lifestyle as a single lady, being encouraged by a friend of mine who is very active in the lifestyle, speaks at conventions, etc. He had been telling me for several years that I should go, but at the time, I was married to a very "vanilla" man and he would have nothing to do with swinging....so, after my divorce, I was contacted again by my friend and after a long conversation with me, I decided to let my hair down and go!! I found a private home who was BBW friendly, gathered up my nerve, and off I went...and you know what? WOW, I had a very good time.

Now I am not naive by any means, but I did not realize that so many men appreciate a curvy woman, maybe because I was always talked down to during my 19 yr marriage, I don't know, but needless to say, it was a great experience for me.

Today, after meeting my SO, we both enjoy the swing lifestyle, not as often as we used to, but we dabble now and then and it has improved my self-esteem 100%. We are very open with one another, tell each other our fantasies, and explore life together...so all in all, it has been a very positive adventure!!

tittietwister · 05-11-2008, 06:19 PM

It has improved our communication but also highlighted the weaknesses in how we communicate.

The increased understanding of each other has brought us closer together but has also shown us how different we are and that differences, instead of being bad, are often a source of new energy.

Sexually, that has always been the best part of our relationship and it was somewhat disappointing to find through swinging that we had fallen into a rut. The positive side is that the sex between us has reached new heights because of the new techniques we have learned from others and the hot experiences we can now share.

Socially, while it has improved our social skills and expanded our social network it has also painfully pointed out weaknesses that we must continue to work on.

bellady · 05-12-2008, 09:53 PM

Swinging has enhanced me and hubbys relationship...we had a great one to start with... but it has only improved it. We feel even closer..sharing this with each other and having a "secret" Knowing that we can have sex with others and still want each other the most...

Also it has inspired me to take better care of myself and loose weight! What could be better than that!!

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05-11-2008, 01:20 PM	#46 (permalink)
imsherona2 Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 80 Location: Grants Pass Status: Couple SLS Name:imsherona	Re: How have you changed since entering the lifestyle? I actually started in the lifestyle as a single lady, being encouraged by a friend of mine who is very active in the lifestyle, speaks at conventions, etc. He had been telling me for several years that I should go, but at the time, I was married to a very "vanilla" man and he would have nothing to do with swinging....so, after my divorce, I was contacted again by my friend and after a long conversation with me, I decided to let my hair down and go!! I found a private home who was BBW friendly, gathered up my nerve, and off I went...and you know what? WOW, I had a very good time. Now I am not naive by any means, but I did not realize that so many men appreciate a curvy woman, maybe because I was always talked down to during my 19 yr marriage, I don't know, but needless to say, it was a great experience for me. Today, after meeting my SO, we both enjoy the swing lifestyle, not as often as we used to, but we dabble now and then and it has improved my self-esteem 100%. We are very open with one another, tell each other our fantasies, and explore life together...so all in all, it has been a very positive adventure!!

05-11-2008, 06:19 PM	#47 (permalink)
tittietwister Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 143 Location: Not at Swingers Board Status: Couple	Re: How have you changed since entering the lifestyle? It has improved our communication but also highlighted the weaknesses in how we communicate. The increased understanding of each other has brought us closer together but has also shown us how different we are and that differences, instead of being bad, are often a source of new energy. Sexually, that has always been the best part of our relationship and it was somewhat disappointing to find through swinging that we had fallen into a rut. The positive side is that the sex between us has reached new heights because of the new techniques we have learned from others and the hot experiences we can now share. Socially, while it has improved our social skills and expanded our social network it has also painfully pointed out weaknesses that we must continue to work on.

05-12-2008, 09:53 PM	#48 (permalink)
bellady Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 24 Location: mass Status: couple	Re: How have you changed since entering the lifestyle? Swinging has enhanced me and hubbys relationship...we had a great one to start with... but it has only improved it. We feel even closer..sharing this with each other and having a "secret" Knowing that we can have sex with others and still want each other the most... Also it has inspired me to take better care of myself and loose weight! What could be better than that!!

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