How have you changed since entering the lifestyle?

[looking2swing]

We have only been the lifestyle for several months, but there have been some changes within our marriage. We go out more as a couple just to relax. Our daily sex lives are definately better. I am no longer the one wanting sex every day, all day. And now I don't feel guilty or self concious when I dress sexy to go out.

[TNT]

Nothing like being in the lifestyle to build self confidence .

One of the biggest changes Ted and I both have experienced since starting to swing is that we are both much more open and talkative when meeting strangers. He and I both will strike up conversations with anybody now, no matter where we are at. And...people seem to want to talk to us. Strangers will come up and start conversations with us, which was something that never happened before swinging. I think both of us project a friendly openess that makes people feel comfortable to approach us. Of course, it could be the silly grins we wear all the time and they are just wanting to know what the hell we're grinning about

As with everyone else, we were always very close and the sex was always great but now it's just magnified 1000x. We also appreciate each other more and are much more attentative to each other.

All in all things were great before swinging and they just keep getting better and better.

Teresa

[DBL D]

I don't masterbate as much either. Kinda miss it, but I'll survive.

I look around as much but not with the same mind set.

I have my antenna up for when I hear that a gal is a bisexer, that's for sure. Always have.

I think I have become more patient with Fem D, although it doesn't seem that way all the time. I find that I have been much more sensitive to her concerns, and will try to help out with them if I can. Some things she has said that she can only deal with herself.

The communication between us is a lot better than it ever has been.

Porn is still very interesting to me though.

I think the sex between us is superior to any time in our history together. facelick

Male D

[Avril & Dec]

Hi since we are relatively new to the scene - its good to read all the responses. For us we have experience both emotional and physical differences.
The emotional side is we are a lot more happy and content in our new lifestyle and always look on the bright side of life now.
Physically - I masturbate more by myself now while Dec dosent - yet it was the otherway round. Also after man years of a good sex life I actually didnt orgasm thru penetration alone and needed oral or toys. Now I have been doing so - not only with my new partners but also with Dec - we dont know why - ( perhaps someone could answer this) because nothing physical has changed except I seem to be much more sensitive and feel everything.
Finally , just talking about our different partners when we swap and comparing notes has made our sex life so horny now - I even smile at work now thinking about what we did the night previous and what we will do the next time.
Another Finally, yes perhaps we may seem boring but its true - as a couple we actually talk more about a lot more.

Avril & Dec

[JustAskJulie]

This is an interesting question. It's been so long since I started I can't remember how I've changed, and much of the ways I've changed (I believe) have come with age more than from swinging. I've always been openly flirtatious and sexual.

Would love to see some more input to this thread from other members.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Wow...we've been in it now for quite a while I almost forget who I was before

Seriously, Spoo and I have always had a great relationship and sex life. In fact I probably changed more from who I was before meeting Spoo then I have from the lifestyle. I came out of a bad marriage and strict religious background, with Spoo I could be myself.

That said I come out of my shell so to speak after meeting, dating and ultimately marrying this man of my dreams. He continued to encourage me and we talked about everything and tried everything Then he brought up swinging....

I guess if you can add to perfection the changes have all been very positive. I love being able to have a place to go where I can dress sexy. The flirting and fun we have (even on a no play night) at the club is like throwing gasoline on a burning building...we barely make it home let alone get in the door before we are all over each other. I think it has helped open us up in our comfort level socially. It has definitely encourage better fitness and much more primping and preening.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

It has definitely encourage better fitness and much more primping and preening.

Among other positive changes, this one is a biggie. When we started discussing swinging, I lost 25 pounds over about five months and became much more fit. I also pay more attention to certain primping stuff (for instance, I never used to do my nails). I like to dress better and more attractively than before we started swinging -- except at work, where I still dress like a dork.

[Fantasy01]

It has really changed our life for the better....we are presently caming with another couple and plan to meet soon...I love the fact that My wife is a show off on camera...This I feel is the starting of a great life..and we are meeting with another couple that looks alot like us....Physically that is....

[RandyKris]

Absolutely for the better. I (Mrs) am much more outgoing and not as shy as I was when we were first married. He is also...

Swinging is something we will never give up.

[ViSexual]

We got into swinging after being married for three years. That was the best two year period of my life.

We got back into it about ten years ago for a year or so.

That was the second best, if not tied for best, period of my life.

[xyzzy07]

Like others have said, we are primping and going out more -- far more. Also, however, we've often been getting a very pleasant, walking on air, feeling because others come on to us. Even just having women flirt with me at a club (not to mention other things...) makes me feel great on Sunday!

[Bama0468]

Wow .. lemme think.. if you have read my blogs you kinda know, but for those that have not perused the blogs..

I (among other folks, no related, and no well known to me) I would be VERY shy, I didn't think I looked all that great, and had a lack of confidence.
Now I can chat a bit, am still some what shy (in person) am a lil more confident and if I know I NEED to be a lil more agressive (Flirty, touchy feelie) I can be and have enough confidence to pull it off.
it added extra excitement that we didn't know existed (we were both virgins and taught each other, What a class :P )

[foozballnow]

Life is so much better for both of us since we started swinging. It's not just the sex that is better either. I mean we have so much fun now. The swingers we hang out with are a trip. We have never had so much fun. Some of the swingers have kids our age lol and we still have so much to talk to them about.

We are more carefree now. Not in a bad way. In a good way. Carefree in the sense that we don't care what other people think. We do what makes us happy and we have a good time doing it. We only live ONCE!!

[Frognlisa]

Swinging has made me more self confidant and shown me, that not all people judge all books by the cover.

[sweet_tna]

I've gained more self confidence. Mr. Sweet and I are so much closer and communicate better. And of course, I have a lot more sex these days!

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