Can sex still be good if only one person orgasms?

[northindycpl]

Ok.... so your wife is really hot for you. You get her into bed, and she spends a little more than an hour slowly riding you... she reaching orgasm again and again. You haven't. She finally dismounts and is absolutely spent.

Do you look at her completely spent and satified and leave her be, or do you turn to her and say "my turn" ?

And if you say "my turn" do you do it, to get off... or do you expect her to f**k you like you have never been f**ked before?

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

she spends a little more than an hour slowly riding you... she reaching orgasm again and again. You haven't. She finally dismounts and is absolutely spent.

I am not ashamed to admit that if she spent more than an hour riding me and I didn't orgasm, I would finally truly consider myself "master of my domain".

[Spoomonkey]

During my second Christmas after my divorce (the first one was a blur of financial ruin, so I didn't notice it as much) I was on an anti-depressant... Missed the young'uns terribly...

My doctor apparently put me of the dosage intended solely for the criminally insane - and I was unable to orgasm, no matter what I did for two weeks...

The sex was great, but my wife did get tired and frustrated. So do I, honestly. We had the doctor cut back the dosage significantly and BINGO! I have the gift of the "porn style money shot", but after two weeks of frustration... Well... Let's just say wow...

Anyway - sex can be good, but there is a bit of urgency that can lead to frustration.

Spoomonkey

[popsicle]

There are many a night that I just can't get it up.Tired,work,age or whatever,but it's not about me it's about that last thing my wife remembers is the oragsm she just recieved before drifting off to sleep.I honestly don't believed I'vemissed a night in many a year.Do I orgasm? Most nights not,doesn't matter? I do it to show my love,not for payback.Many mornings she does the same in reverse to me. We've been married 35years and in the lifestyle more than 20 and it's still working.

[lovefest04]

Watching her have multiple orgamsms and drop spent after an hour, that is great sex. Generally, we will either fade off in each others arms, blissfully spent or if necessary, and it often is, I (he) will jerk off while she watches. It is often the icing on the cake.

Now, if it's important to keep track, then I just add it to the balance in the sex bank. then when I ask her to get me off, no foreplay, no reciprocation, I don't have to feel so guilty. I'm spending my savings.

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[Brynna]

Maybe this was being asked of the men but here's my .02 anyway. I rarely have a hard time asking for more if I havent gotten off. I used to in other relationships but we are very honest about our sex life. I would be upset if my guy didn't ask for more when he wanted/needed it. It can get frustrating though. My ex-husband used to be unable to get off orally. He was almost proud that my jaws were cramping and he was nowhere near orgasm. I think he just sat there thinking of inane minutia to prove he couldn't get off that way. I found it very annoying. I also was on antidepressants (prozac)in the past and developed anorgasmia. Absolutely nothing could make me come. There is NOTHING more frustrating than that it the bedroom.

[dave110256]

I have had sex a few times with my wife when I haven't had an orgasm. She was really uopset both times and felt something was wrong beteen us. I'm not afraid now to approach her doggy and give her all I have now to orgasm so this won't happen again. Besides, who doesn't want to have an orgasm......

[OpenVA]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

I am not ashamed to admit that if she spent more than an hour riding me and I didn't orgasm, I would finally truly consider myself "master of my domain".

AMEN brother.. CAN I HAVE A WITNESS??

[JnCC]

To some extent, we're all responsible for our own orgasms. If my partner were enjoying the scene and I wasn't climaxing, I'd just relax and do whatever I could to make the experience fun for her. I know it's happened to me on more than one occasion, and once I accept the fact that "it's OK for me not to cum right now," oftentimes I DO.

Even if a woman is multi-orgasmic, when they're done, they're DONE. Their eyes, breathing, body posture will all tell you when that line's been crossed. Personally, I don't understand the logic in bringing your partner to orgasm and then not letting them relax and enjoy the "post-sex" buzz.

Continuing to hump your partner wildly just to get off is both rude and selfish. I'd expect that from a dog, NOT from a lover...

[HotMoCpl]

Here's what my wife says: Women can keep on cumming and cummig all night where as a man MUST cum eventually or else this can cause problems (medically speaking) down the road. It pisses her off to no end when I get a 'whiskey stiff' and don't cum. Not just for her pleasure but mine as well, not to mention it affects my attitude also.
Cheers.

I've been a bad, bad, bad wittle boy. -Elmer Fud

[puneswings]

I would agree with JnCC here. I think it is perfectly ok for the guy to not cum once she has. Let her enjoy the post-orgasm buzz; jerk yourself off if you must cum, its what I do.

We have a pretty good unspoken deal in place. The person who rides on top has the right to cum. The other one begs for it We average about 50% either way.

[HotMoCpl]

My advise? Get on and ride. The woman I've know were never completely satisfied until they feel the guy shooting in them. The orgasms only get better.

[guitarlover]

I have been there just for her and she has been there just for me a few times. I think that the sex is still good even when I don't cum because I really love to make her feel good, and I get off from watching her orgasm. Sometimes, even when I'm spent, or physically tired late at night, the excitement of watching her will help to turn me on or up enough to want to wet my dip stick! I believe, though, that pleasuring a partner when you can't make it to the big 'O' yourself is a very generous and loving thing to do for your partner.

[hllife]

This situation comes up once or twice a month for us. With both of us having busy jobs, 4 children and life, we are not always on the same schedule as far as "wanting" sex. We have both had times where one or the other of us doesn't cum. It still feels nice and I like that I'm making my husband feel good and he likes that I'm feeling good. Of course it GREAT when we both cum, but such is life.

[JimWActg]

If this was happening all the time or the majority of times you had sex that would be bad and selfish on your partners part.

But as all of us in an ongoing sexual relationship know there is hardly ever a perfect match of desires and knwoing your partner is extra hot that night and letting them get the most they can out of it is a great satisfaction all on its own.

Of course on another day when it is your turn to have that little something extra going your partner should be just as generous!