Who would you least want to run into a club?

[Southern Lady]

We live in the same town as my Mother and not that my mother would be in a swingers club, but some of her friend might. Who would you hate to run into in a swingers club?

[two4youinswva]

We would hate to run into our parents. We would also hate to run into certain co-workers as well though. Depending on who they were, it could equal "career suicide" for us.

[ALilOEverything]

I know I wouldn't run into my mom, maybe my dad when he was alive. I wouldn't want to run into any of their friends though. Running into a co-worker would be cool, we would have something in common and something to talk about But then again I'm always optimistic. I'm going to take my sister to one as soon as our schedules mesh, she wants to try out the scene as a single female, we'll see what happens with that. Who I wouldn't want to run into is patients I've taken care of in the past. That's my fear right there. Maybe that's why we've opted to drive 4 hours the last couple times.

[oncewere]

Once we drove over an hour and a half to a party in another town and met our Pastor and Sunday school teacher there... They always drove that far so as not to meet anyone they knew. Surprise! I wrote the story up for our newsletter. If anyone is interested and I can find it, I'll scan it in and post it

[CowboynVixen]

We paniced at the thought of running in to family and aquanitances when we first started swinging too, but finally meeting some eased all the issue.

We met my wife's female cousin in a unisex change room in a club in Washington. We were both hundreds of miles from family.

There was a lot of nervous giggling through dinner, then we went on with life knowing that our secret would automaticly be kept from conservative family members as we came to the conclusion we were all in the same boat.

Who was going to go back home and tell the family who we found in a swingers club?

We still giggle when we meet, and agree, family reunions will never be the same.

We have also run into professional aquaintences and the only result was a deeper connection with that person, weither we were a mach or not.

We have heard horror stories of workplace outs, but only where there was improper workplace connections already in play, such as a husband and wife introducing one of his subordinates to the lifestyle, then having her go sideways at work and accuse him of sexual impropriety at work.

Unfortunatly, this does not need to be proven to cost a job.

Surrender

[Vespertine]

I wouldn't mind running into anyone that you have listed as poll options. My parents do not know that we swing, but my family is very open-minded and I can say absolutely it wouldn't be a big deal. Now that doesn't mean I would like to keep company with my parents in an environment like that, but I digress.....

The only people I'd feel uncomfortable seeing in a swing environment would be anyone affiliated with my chidren. I wouldn't want to see their ball coaches, teachers, friend's parents, etc.... Or especially THEM (when they're older)!

[biblonde]

I dont worry to much about family..most of mine live far away and his wouldnt go there..lol.. My co-workers I wouldnt worry to much about either although I would prefer most I work with dont know about our choices. His co-workers wouldnt be good. Then again they are there for the same reason we are but I worry that some would use it as blackmail against my hubby in the future and with his job that could do lots of damage. I agree with vespertine though anyone that is affiliated with my boys I wouldnt ever want to run into..lol.

[curiouscpl0105k]

yep, i'd have to say #1 would be the parents (more power to them if they want to play but EEWWW!)
and then would come siblings and any other family members.....again, it's their thing for sure and i wouldn't be freaked out by the fact that they were swingers.....it's just something about family members and seeing everything out in the open unexpectedly!

depending on one's line of work. co-workers could be a concern......but i really think that once something like that is out, it can't really be bad b/c BOTH of the people are there for the same reason in the end!

[energizerbunny]

I did run into some acquaintances, sorta kinda (not really)...and they were the last people I'd want to see - but for different reasons!


I ran across their ad on AFF. It was quite creepy for me, since they are the two most ravenously conservative people I know. They both had been in the seminary/convent, and met shortly after having a change of heart -- and have since left the Catholic church because it wasn't conservative enough! ha!

Anyway...he has few hygiene skills to speak of, and I shudder at the thought of them. Hate to be so blunt, but truthfully they're the only people I would say such things about. Seeing their ad made me cringe. Ew!

Now I'll know to avoid any clubs that might be near my hometown if we choose to go to them in the future, for fear of running into them! Ack! I would RATHER see my parents there than these two!

[intuition897]

Tough one. We'd hate to run into any of them. Running into family is just... gross, and running into your coworker or boss can potentially have some serious repercussions, but at least, unlike your neighbour, you don't have to live next door to them. I'd worry that they'd get the idea that, just because of the proximity, there might be some interest. Or that just because they now know us as 'one of their kind' suddenly we're all best friends or something, always dropping by unannounced, making thinly veiled 'inside jokes' in the presence of our other neighbours. Hey, we're unashamed of what we do, but whether or not we 'out' ourselves is something we'd like to maintain control of, TYVM. It's one of the reasons we tend to NOT swing locally.

[FlyBiNiter]

Well, mine isn't one of the choices.... I'd hate to run into my ex-husband. Gross... can't stand him !! As it turns out, that's why we don't go to the club anymore. He IS a member, so for me the possibility is very strong that we would encounter him there. Yuck. I only found out he was a member because I saw his ad on the club's website. Haven't been back since, although I have kept our membership up to date just in case he ever falls off the planet.

[xxoticangel]

Both of us have run into coworkers at swing clubs. Mine (male) was getting a blow job from his wife in the couples area when we walked in. Nothing was ever said about it. Her's was in a crowd standing watching while she and another girl were doing a public show. My former supervisor, still works at the same place, has an ad on Swing Lifestyle.

Our opinion is if we see someone at a swing club we are all there for the same reason and they don't want anyone to know any more than we do.

[VegasLee]

We are very open about our lifestyle so we don't worry about running into anyone but we have had two funny experiences with people at the club we host at.

Two different times our oldest daughters (in their twenties) have shown up at the club when we where there. They both know that we are swingers and they know that we host at this club but they thought they where showing up on nights that we where not there.

Each time we spotted them before they saw us and we just sat at our table waiting to see what they would do. Once they noticed us they would avoid us for about a hour, them staying in area's of the club that we where not in. Finally they would come over to our table because they knew we had seen them.

The funny part would be that after they left our table we would get guys/couples coming up to us asking us if we knew "the hot girl" that was at our table. The best part was the reaction on their faces when we told them it was our DAUGHTER!

I am glad that we have a great relationship with our kids though and that they can come talk to us about things.

[bear_n_bunny]

I think the only real problem we might have in meeting someone we know at a party would be if it were a parent. However, this is not very likely...

It so happens that I did have something like this happen a time or two. First time was at the second party I ever attended (this was with my first swing partner, an ex-fiancee, not Bunny). Before we left, my swing partner asked me "What if we meet someone we know?" I replied "It's not very likely, and besides, what can they say? "What are you doing here?"".

Anyway, we get to the party, and not ten minutes after we arrive, another couple shows up, and damned if my ex did know her, and in fact had had lunch with her just a couple of days before (they were both members of a group that had absolutely nothing to do with swinging in any way). Needless to say, all were suprised, albeit pleasantly, and we ended up having many pleasant interludes with that couple.

So if it's an acquaintance, friend, co-worker or whatever, it's not really a concern with us. Again, what can they say?...

-- Bear

[oncewere]

You might care to visit two swinger stories I just resurected from the newsletter we used to write. Both about interesting surprise meetings: "meeting our Pastor" and "accidental encounter" if Julie decides to post them. talk about meeting family and friends.