Who would you least want to run into a club?

[ShellyM]

BTW...current fantasy involves a single (divorced & not looking for remarriage)coworker who is close friends with both me and my wife...we often do things together (traveling to cultural events, concerts, hiking, etc.) and she sometimes stays overnight at our house...she is very comfortable giving/receiving backrubs, touching, etc. with both of us...and we often joke about sharing a bed.

May I ask what is stopping you from taking that perverbial step?

[flkeyscouple]

I, much more than my husband, was raised in a very religious, conservative home. I would never run into my parents or my siblings - they would never be there, although I don't think they'd be too terribly surprised that I - the black sheep of the family - would be there. Not happy, but not surprised. However, running into friends of my folks or friends of my siblings would be very uncomfortable for me. I know the 'if they are there it must be because they swing too' but that doesn't make me any more comfortable.

Because of this 'fear' on my part, we do not attend swingers clubs anywhere near our parents/siblings homes.

But, because of the same 'fear', I am always worried about running into coworkers too. So no swing clubs or home parties in our home area either!

I know - suck it up and deal with it - I keep telling myself that, but it doesn't do any good! I was raised WAY TOO conservatively and it just hasn't worn off completely yet!

Sarah

[sunrise_sunset]

I ran into a co-worker at the second swinger party we ever went to. We just laughed it off, our little secret......

Ms. Sun

[curiousagain]

I ran into the parents of one of my Children's friends at a group meet and greet one time. They seemed pretty uncomfortable at first but soon realized I didn't have a problem so they didn't either. They don't play with SM but when I see them out they give me a "knowing grin" now. At another, I saw a couple that the man and I knew through business and he seemed very uncomfortable with it while his wife didn't have a problem.

Personally, if I run into someone I know at a meet and greet or social, club, whatever I wouldn't mind, since they are there for the same reason. It's the ad site I am on that worries me a little as you don't have to be in the lifestyle to go there and look at photos and where I work would not be tolerant at all as evidenced by past history.

[2inthemood]

As told in other posts co-workers would be the problem for us, that could not be a good career move for her and for me i just need to keep life and work completely separate in order to survive without stressing myself and the people around me (even two cellphones numbers, one for work and one for the rest and the work one is off out of work hours).
The rest of the people wouldnt be a big deal since if they are there they can understand it.

[SandB]

We look at it this way, whomever we run into at a swingers event is there for the same reasons we are - to have fun. I have run into many people I work with and only one had a problem. It seems he was embarrassed to be seen by me (but not my partner) in the skimpy bathing suit he was wearing and did not want to be seen having sex with anyone. Now granted he was in his mid 20's and still rather shy about the lifestyle I can only assume either he has improved in his attitude or is no longer in the lifestyle. I am not interested in seeing either my parents or the parents of my friends at a club or house party.

[Tia Vampire]

Our children. Even though our children know that we swing, we would not want them to see just how freaky mommy and step- dad really are.

[roadkingklp]

we certainly understand no parents or their friends. My ex was invovlved in one particular group session at a swing club, she was into the scene and did not know she was with who she was finishing a B.J. on. It was a guy she worked with and did not like. she told me she liked his equipment and load, but he was a real jerk in the office, especially since his wife did not know he was at a swing club and not on a Government TDY trip. That was the Cottage, and from that time on she paid full attention to the players in the sessions.

[Chitowndk4u]

I wouldn't want to run into co-workers or parents, siblings I wouldn't care about too much

[HappyCpl]

An old flame or -ex.....

[EroticImaginati]

I (Mr. Erotic) has to say any member of our family would probably make us a little uncomfortable... not because of what they may see or finding out about us, but we wouldn't want to see my 60 year old Uncle Larry getting it on.

As far as the others go, we have actually taken coworkers, neighbors, and family friends with us to clubs. What is the point of having hot friends if you can't have some fun with them?

[celtic239]

I just recently told a swinger friend that the reason we don't play locally isn't because we might run into someone we know and like but rather people we know and don't like. I guess that's why I voted siblings - they could ruin a wet dream.

[junglecouple]

At The Jungle, we used to have an odd situation. Mr. and Mrs. "X" came, were fun, and informed us that their DAUGHTER was planning on attending in the near future. Well... that near future arrived and lo and behold, the Daughter was a FOX!!! Pretty young compared to the regulars, but more mature than most of them. They (she and her parents) made it a point (by pre-arrangement) to never come to the same party.. She said.. "well, that would just be weird!!"
Turned out she was 20ish.. spoke 5 languages, rode motorcycles, and had been a world traveler pretty much since birth, so was very mature for her age. I asked if it wasn't uncomfortable being at a party where the average age was twice hers and her response was: "I find most people my age are boring and self absorbed"..
go figger!!!

Also, many many folks came here from out of town.. during discussions the same, recurrent thought, came up. Folks from the local area went to Dallas, SanAntonio, Houston because they were concerned about running into folks they knew if they partied in the home town...
The irony is that by going "out of town" they had a bigger chance of running into acquaintances then if they just came here. It was not uncommon for out of towners to run into folks they knew because they also, were concerned that going locally, they would meet someone they knew. So... it seems the best thing for all of them was to party locally.

[Tina and Bob]

We wouldn't want to run into family friends or folks we have strictly a business relationship with.

[dpbklyn]

for us it would be our son our son would be horrified daughter not so sure