Who would you least want to run into a club?

[JustAskJulie]

None of the above. If they are there, they are there for the same reason I am. If it was a parent.... 1. I know there's no way in hell that my mom would show up at one... and 2. If I were in the same town with my dad and ran into him at one, I would leave just as I would if I ran into him anywhere.

Anyone else and I would greet them and treat them as I would any other time. I just don't get what there is to fear in those situations.

[bill&sabrina]

I am only speaking for myself(Bill), but none of the scenerio's would bother me. I would leave an event if I saw my father at a swing function. I am like Julie though, and leave every event I run into my father. I share Julie's attitude, and just can't see why people are scared of seeing someone they know swinging. Why is it that when sex is brought into the mix, we are suddenly uncomfortable around comfortable people.
Bill

[invisibletouch]

For us it would be our son & daughter in law!! Now that would be a disaster!!

[sweetswing]

hello Oncewere, i was wondering if you could post the story about meeting your pastor at a party i have to read this.

[nusofties]

Any family members would be disastrous. Other friends, acquaintances, professional contacts, the cashier at the supermarket would be OK unless they wear the "lifestyle" on their sleeves and aren't discreet about seeing us. Question: has anyone ever been "outed" by formerswingers who have "reformed", in an attempt tosaveyou?

[De and Ci]

A lot of paranoia being expressed here. What if you ran into a family member, co-worker or parent? Are you going to start screaming and run out of the club like your ass is on fire? I ran into one of our company's executives at a swinger's club. He saw me first, approached me, greeted me and shook my hand. I was a little suprised to see him, but he said "hey, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas". No big deal, Later in the evening, He and his wife came and sat at our table for awhile. I know if I ran into someone I knew and they started acting all freaky-I would be very irritated! Again, remind yourself that they are most likely there for the same reasons as you.

[inbeachcouple]

Parents? Co-workers? BAH !!!! By far the last person you'd want to run into would be a grandparent. Awwww, can't even believe I let the image into my head. Okay, time to go throw up........(GP's are in thier 90's)

I know, like Julie said, they are there for the same reason, but the last thing I want/need to see is mine/wife's grandparents half naked, or being explicitly sexual.

[BiloxiCouple]

We have run into several people we know in a swingers club. The fun part is the look on their face when they realize they know someone! Especially if it is their first time. We always take them to the side and let them know we would never let anyone know at work or wherever that they were there.

I have taken my mother-in-law when she came into town to the local club. She doesn't swing, but she is a cool mother-in-law.

At my birthday party (March 9th this year) I invite almost everyone at my work to come. They know where it's held at. Last year we had 35 people from my work. This year expecting even more.

[WvCpl4Fun05]

I think running into friends of parents or friends of close relatives would kill the moment for me, which we all know we are there for the same reason but still haha we are very conservant on what we do some family knows that we are in lifestyle and some of our close friends but NOT THE PARENTS haha , and plus i couldnt' even imagine some of my parents friends umm EEEWWW NOOO haha

[rounder]

I find it interesting that (according to the poll), more people are uncomfortable with the thought of running into a coworker than with a brother or sister. Guess I shouldn't be...we have to interact with fellow workers on a daily basis...and some of them might not be as closemouthed as a sibling. Not interested in family members myself (although I did get to sleep in the same bed with a female first cousin when I was 11 years old & she was 12..."spooned" with her and rubbed her belly but stopped short of exploring upstairs or downstairs...although I got the distinct impression that she wouldn't mind), but probably that's because I had no sisters & only the 1 female cousin. I do enjoy reading fictional incest stories and have enjoyed reading some of the "close encounters" among siblings posted on this site (usually same-room/same car/in-the-dark encounters but not together). However, I would have to think that there must be a few swingers who--if the situation was right & they had a close relationship with their sibling--would actually participate in and even enjoy a swap involving their brother or sister. As I said, I am not attracted to brother (ugh!) or sister-in-law although when I was a teen I was attracted to my future wife's older sister...and I do have a grown niece in her late 30's who is really hot...and who gives long, lingering, close hugs...damn her eyes for being such a tease! I also wonder if any women here are attracted to their fathers-in-law and fantasize about them. Or if any men here would permit an encounter between their wife and father...especially if father was divorced or widower?
Sorry...this probably has little to do with the topic at hand...and most swingers are most likely turned off by the idea of incest (and those few who aren't probably aren't telling!). Guess I'm just a deviant for vicariously enjoying the prospect of consensual encounters between adult relatives.

And I do agree...sexual relations between close relatives WOULD have the potential for making holiday dinners awkward.

BTW...current fantasy involves a single (divorced & not looking for remarriage)coworker who is close friends with both me and my wife...we often do things together (traveling to cultural events, concerts, hiking, etc.) and she sometimes stays overnight at our house...she is very comfortable giving/receiving backrubs, touching, etc. with both of us...and we often joke about sharing a bed.

[BiloxiCouple]

This probably doesn't go well with this thread but here I go anyway.....

In regards to Rounders posting, the following is a variant:

What about swinging with someone and find out they have partied with other members of your family? I am sure this has happened before.

It was just a thought.

[PlayM8s]

While at a swing club a few years ago, ran into neighbors who live 4 houses away. Just so happened to have swung with them that very night. Regularly see them around town, in the supermarket, gas station and walking their dog. We laugh at ourselves knowing that we know what they look like naked! We exchange friendly hello's and such. Small world!!

No harm in running into neighbors!

[wiscpl]

Interestingly enough we found out her cousin swings through this board back when Julie had swingers ads on this site. We didn't go any further of course but we do exchange the occasional looks that say we know what you're doing.

We don't attend clubs very often but if we did run into a co-worker or a neighbor we wouldn't find ourselves heading to highlands. The are obviouesly there for the same reasons as we are. Circumstance would determine whether we played with them or not.

[lauragirlchat]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

We are very open about our lifestyle so we don't worry about running into anyone but we have had two funny experiences with people at the club we host at.

Two different times our oldest daughters (in their twenties) have shown up at the club when we where there. They both know that we are swingers and they know that we host at this club but they thought they where showing up on nights that we where not there.

Each time we spotted them before they saw us and we just sat at our table waiting to see what they would do. Once they noticed us they would avoid us for about a hour, them staying in area's of the club that we where not in. Finally they would come over to our table because they knew we had seen them.

The funny part would be that after they left our table we would get guys/couples coming up to us asking us if we knew "the hot girl" that was at our table. The best part was the reaction on their faces when we told them it was our DAUGHTER!

How would you feel about people coming over to your table and talking about how much they had enjoyed fucking "the hot girl", or of women saying they enjoyed a 69 with "the hot girl". Or a man saying "the hot girl" loves anal, have you had her.

I think that is why meeting family at a swinger event is fraught. People talk openly about sex, and some of the conversations you had that night (without you knowing) must have concerned your daughter.

[ShellyM]

You know, I thought of this before we went to a club last Sat. Not that I would run into family, because we live about 30 miles from the club. But that I would run into fellow co-workers lol, because Austin is a big city. It didn't matter to me though....if they are in the club in the first place (and the cover for clubs in Austin are like $50 per couple) they must want to be there, and are at least curious about the lifestyle...so its no big deal. I think that at least 80% of married couples are at least curious, but too scared or embarassed to say they are curious.