Things Not to do in a Picture

[biblonde]

My biggest Dont do besides those pics of just a boat,car,pool,spa,tree, bike,...is those that post just pics of other pics! or toys and not the good toys either I'm talking pics of barbie dolls and such. Yup was approving pics the other day and a guy submitted about 6 pics of barbie! Or the ones that have one pics 20 times on site. We take time to take good pics or at least I think they are good. They are sexy but not nekkid or anything. I dont mind seeing shots like that if they are more than just a crotch shot but we decided to not put any online anymore like those. Although mine are sexy and show alot!

[J & K]

LMAO...we put up a thread like this a long time ago with pics, but more toward pics men take of themselves.

If you were to look at our pics on sls one would see that we want to present ourself in good taste.

Folks ought to post pics wearing nice clothes, sexy outfits, comb hair, trimmed facial hair for men, etc.

My goodness....pics are a form of advertisment. Want to make the sale then one has to make a good presentation. First impressions count for all of us we think. K and I look at profiles every day and we know some of these folks look better in person so why do they look like crap on the profile. Women and men who looked like they just got out of bed with a bad hair day and no make-up. Pics of just their legs....come on, where is the rest of the body?

We have to remember that most of the pics that go on the sites are posted by the men. Men want to see X-rated stuff so they feel they have to also post them kind too. What is more sexy? A man in nice clothes/suit or a pic of his hairy dong? A woman in a nice sexy outfit or a pic of her boobs or her pussy? Are we swingers attracted to sex appeal? We wish to think so. Classy, not trashy is our motto. We think about 80% of all swingers need to get on that bandwagon.

Just our opinion folks.

[vividpleasures]

Originally Posted by J & K

What is more sexy? A man in nice clothes/suit or a pic of his hairy dong? A woman in a nice sexy outfit or a pic of her boobs or her pussy? Are we swingers attracted to sex appeal? We wish to think so. Classy, not trashy is our motto. We think about 80% of all swingers need to get on that bandwagon.

Just our opinion folks.

And I know this! I have said it before to my husband. :slam"
Still don't know what I was thinking. Would love to redo pics now. But I don't think a back drop of packing boxes would be a good thing. :rollseyes

[jcbicouple]

Our pet peeves are Close ups of genitals (They all look pretty much the same, and the different angles really bug us!) and people including their kids (or family/friends) in their pics. Either of those make us think twice about the people.
As for men being more visually stimulated: Ya, probably some truth there, but here's some food for thought...You're meeting a woman too! Why would we answer an ad that had only pics of her and none of him? Women, in general, may not be turned on by pics of men, but they can certainly tell whether or not they'll even consider having sex with them. We understand not putting faces on ad sites, but a full body shot shows a general physical appearance.
We took all of ours off a few months ago. None of them had faces, but you could tell we were clean and the physical condition we are in. We may consider putting them back up someday, but aren't sure yet.
We do agree with curiousagain though: If you put the pics you like up, you'll be contacted by people with similar tastes. Let them put the icky laundry there. Then we get to see it and KNOW we don't want to waste our time talking to them. Let them post the close up picks of their genitals: That's what they like, and we know we aren't interested in talking to them. It's a kind of communication of personalities without anyone even realizing it.

[ALilOEverything]

I prefer candid G rated pics which is exactly we have put up. I only have 3 up, two of me and one of my husband...fully clothed and wearing smiles. I don't mind sexy nude shots for as long as they are tasteful. Though I still think of nude pics like opening a Christmas present before it's Christmas. Crotch shots, people holding a beer in one hand and a cigarette in another, a disaster of a house behind them, blurry pictures usually makes me pass by.

[growgirl]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

blurry pictures usually makes me pass by.

oh great... c'mon santa, let's get that sleigh on the road!

our original and still our only pic on sls, is a slightly blurry head/shoulders shot of us.... obviously I'm hoping for a digital to show up in, oh... say... 27 days! You can tell it's us, it just looks like we may look after you've had your 5th drink.

[Nymph an' Satyr]

I (male half) like action shots, including "money" shots. The wife is merely indifferent to them. So maybe some classy shots mixed with sleezy shots- and make all happy

[DBL D]

That's what we did...SORTA!

Male D

[jcbicouple]

At one time, for a short while, we had a "butt" pic of the wife on our profile (a close up of her bent over kind of thing). What we found was that it attracted people that we did not connect with.....at all! We did not talk to a single person during that time that we would have any interest in meeting. We switched our picture (Yahoo) to something more to our taste and what do you know! We start talking to people we have interest in again! We still think it's a reflection of personality, and characteristic of the couple or individual. The butt pic wasn't something we would normally put out there to represent us, but thought we'd do it for fun. Mr. JC loves showing off my butt. lol However, We think we'll leave his showing off for after we talk awhile or as we normally do: Showing it off in person (clubs are great for that!).

[DBL D]

You know, I really think that people place too much emphasis on the type of photos in an ad. What's important is if you can see a good view of their faces. You know that we all have our own type of photo that we like. A butt shot, a pussy with cum on it, good pic of the erect "tool"...whatever. We are looking for those who can talk like nothing is different from when they never saw those pix. Photos can tell you alot about what you are looking for.

I apologized to a lady once in case she was offended by our photos. This is a very nice sexy couple. She wondered what all the fuss was over. She'd Never seen anything like that before...Not.

As long as the photos reflect what you want them to, even if they may be a bit more "hardcore" than they'd like, and they are tastefully done I don't see the problem.

So what was it about the butt shot that attracted the "wrong" people? Was that the only nude photo you showed them. We show ourselves in a variety of scenarios. We hope that they would expect that they would end up in some of those same scenarios.

One thing that bothers me. When I see photos of a couple not using a condom having intercourse (Clearly not the hubby) and they tell you in their profile that they want "safe" sex. What up wid dat?

I'm not sure if I made any sense at all!

Male D

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by DBL D

As long as the photos reflect what you want them to, even if they may be a bit more "hardcore" than they'd like, and they are tastefully done I don't see the problem.

We don't either. Our point wasn't that people shouldn't put hardcore, or close ups, or faces or whatever you are comfortable with on their ads/profiles. Our point was that the pictures and styles of pictures that you like the best will attract other individuals that like them. Therefore, The type of photo can and does attract those with similar tastes. Our point in every post we've added to this thread has been that people should put what they want in their pictures. We don't think there was anything wrong with the butt picture we had on our profile (Frankly, It was quite the cute butt. lol) However, It's not a picture, if we found an ad or profile, with a similar style of picture on it, that would make us say "Hey, We should write them.", or "That's attractive". The only reason that particular one was attractive to us was because we have a personal interest in the owner. It's not that we're offended by them. It's just not our preferance. We tend to like discreet full body pictures (clothed is perfectly fine with us, and probably prefered if given a choice), and then a face picture, but understand not putting faces on profiles/ads.

[DBL D]

I feel like I'm beating a dead horse or something. Regardless...

I think what you have to do is put something on your ad that is definitive. If you say you are 6'2" and 200#'s then it's nice to have a photo to prove that you are. That is what people are looking for. Honesty in advertising. If you say that you are 45 then let's have a photo that shows you at 45, not 40. Etc.

The rest is eye candy. The idea is to put as much out there as possible to show what you look like and have it be current. How long should you have a photo on the site just because You like it? And...If you just happen to be doing other things that show other sides of you then that's just the way it is.

End of Rap. (For me anyway.)

Male D

[dave110256]

I agree with most of the other people here.....
Genital shots don't do anything for us
We just registered on the site a few weeks go and did include a few pictures, how else can anyone tell if there is any attraction? I also agree that both people in the couple should be included in the picture or pictures. We include no nude shot, don't have any and wouldn't post them if we did. If someone is interested and we talk a little, then we might share some more photos, but not to total strangers.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

At one time, for a short while, we had a "butt" pic of the wife on our profile (a close up of her bent over kind of thing). What we found was that it attracted people that we did not connect with.....at all!

So that's the reason I only get PMs from weirdos on this board.


dialing....dialing....dialing....


"Hi honey, when you get home from work tonight, will you take some pics of me with the digital camera? I need a new avatar for the board. Thanks sweetie. Luv ya. Bye. "

LM

[DBL D]

Well I ain't no weirdo and I love your photo!

M.D.