Things Not to do in a Picture

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by NaughtyKatt

I did take a really great pic of him the other day, just a really cute and casual pic of him with our dog. I don't think it's really the right kind of pic for SLS, though.

I think that type of picture is the perfect kind to include on your online add.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Something to keep in mind regarding the "no pics of the guy" comments.

It's well documented that men are the more visually aroused of the sexes, while women tend to be drawn more to personalities. It follows then, that profile pics would tend to favor the female, while the textual description (which reveals personality) would more likely be written by the man. That also explains why a couple is likely to possess more pics of the woman than of the man...because he's the one who's interested in pics, not her.

All you have to do to prove this is to look at the magazine rack at the local bookstore. How many are dedicated to the female body? Literally dozens. How many to the male? A few, perhaps. Playgirl, and...??? Women are drawn to beautiful words, while men are drawn to beautiful bodies.

It's how guys like me get laid.

There are other reasons why a male may not post pics. In our case, I was the primary breadwinner. At the time, I was probably making 5X what my wife was, and carrying the health insurance. It made no sense to jeopardize all that just to catch the eye of another couple. Besides, we never went to bed with anybody until after they'd seen me in person. I'd hate to think I was responsible for too many women having to "take a bullet" for their husbands benefit.

True, an ugly man is more likely to have a beautiful wife, than an ugly woman is to have a beautiful husband, but that's more a reflection of how wealth is distributed in our society, especially among people over 50. I suppose that's not much consolation to an attractive couple who's meeting what they think is going to be another attractive couple, but find that she's the only one with any looks, while he's the one with the Mercedes.

In most swinging situations, its not going to be beautiful words that starts things going.

The bread winner thing does have merit, and I've thought the same myself, but thats where blocked out face pictures come in handy, so at least the other couple has SOME idea of what they are getting into.

[easygoin]

i agree with just about everything...the crotch shots are pretty what desperate dont get me wrong ill look..cuz yes us men are way more visual in most cases then our women...but still i like to get to know the person first..and rather see a face...and if you happen to get to the "R" pics later so be it but not right away ya know...

[DBL D]

Very interesting thread. As I have lots of experience in photography we definitely wanted to have "classy" shots. However, we love sex and have included a couple of all the types. We've taken some off and put others on. We warn people that we have some pretty explicit ones and if they are squimish then we'd just send one each with a mail reply. We've been told that we have the best photos on the site.

Can't please everyone so you have to please yourself.

Where have I heard that before? facelick

Male D

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by DBL D

Can't please everyone so you have to please yourself.

Where have I heard that before? facelick

Male D

And if you put up pics that are pleasing to you, they will be pleasing to people that think like you do!! And, isn't that who you'e trying to find/attract?

[DBL D]

Hey curiousagain,

To some degree you are right. We have met and become interested in couples that don't post that many photos or have real sexy ones, per se. The point is that they aren't scared away by them. They understand. And then we can understand each other better and jump past a hurdle.

We did meet a couple once and the lady had not seen all of our photos. Now that was a surprise. We do expect that each party will view all of them at least once. Otherwise, What's the point?

Male D

[curiousagain]

I have went to meet and greets without exchanging pics. I had become that interested in someone or a couple just by emails a/o IM a/o phone conversation. I would rather do that, than have someone or a couple send some great pics then when you meet them in person realize the pics were many years and pounds ago and/or may have been the one time they cleaned up

I know I only have the one pic up on my ad right now, but I am sort of taking a break until after the holidays, only meeting with people I already know and concentrating more on dating. I hope to make some new pics before I start back up so to speak.

[Hellboy]

That's a really good pic, NaughtyKatt. As we are still in the discussion stage of our exploration, we have not taken any pics to post on a site yet and being that we have a really active sex life right now between the two of us, there's no need to take pics (ummm, we see it in living color all the time) However, most of the things mentioned above are common sense. Obviously you want to put your best foot forward when trying to attract playmates. I have given some though to pics and because I am pretty decent with a camera, I don't think it will be a problem for us. Thinking about some nice outdoor pics out on the ranch. But its really revealing to see some of them and learn what kind of people are putting out ads. I would say I am disappointed, but then it narrows the competition. If you post superior photos with a concise, well thought out description, well, you will likely get tons of responses, but you will have your pick. Looks are a big thing, but then again, you are looking for sex and not a significant other, hence, cleanliness and style carries a little more weight in the selection process.

[midnight hour]

My huge pet peeve is kids in the pictures
A couple in our area made a picture of his wife, son and him PUBLIC
I so wanted to email them and ask them what in the world were they thinking? But at the same time did not want to draw them towards us...too new and too close to home.
Someone gave them a clue though...it is gone.
All our pics are pretty g-rated....IMHO everyone knows what the private parts look like..a little bigger a little smaller a little hairy a little smooth... but the basics are there on all couples...
I also hate to look at pics where there is trash and dirt everywhere...I am not Mrs. Clean but I do not need a shovel to travel to room to room :rollseyes Makes one wonder how clean they keep themselves.
The pics of couples on bikes etc do not bother us because we have a connection there...a bike/car by itself..don't do a thing.

Mrs. Midnight

[vividpleasures]

Okay! Now i'm a bit nervous. Somebody check out my ad at Adult Friend Finders. Please. I only have 2 photos. i don t really like eigther one. I really do not photograph well ever, let alone during sex. Tell me how to fix this.
Hawkshunny at adult friend finders.

[northindycpl]

I agree that men are more stimulated by photos... it seems that whenever we post photos its of me, and boobs... As a women it is entirely more stimulating to see pictures of others that leave a littel to the imagination.

That said... the photos we have posted are photos that are important to us. Of course we have removed our faces from the general public, but all of the pictures were taken during times of great passion we had for each other, not just photos to post. To me (the wife) it is very erotic to see the photo and instantly remember the day or the time the photo was taken.

We always look at the background. It is such a turn off to see a man taking a picture of his own penis while sitting at the computer screen, with beer cans surrounding. How much thought was given to the actual picture? I certainly am not interested in someone who give such little thought to their first impression!

[vividpleasures]

As mentioned, I did not like the pics I have posted for our ad. After reading every ones thoughts and opinions, i will be working on ours. Oddly enough I am guilty of doing the same thing that I complain about. I posted pics of me instead of us. When I see other couples only post the female half, that bothers me.

We will be working on this once we are settled in our new house. I shouldn't have posted pics that I was not happy with in the first place! What was I thinking?
Oh well, I look forward to a new photo shoot in the future! facelick

The Mrs.

[DBL D]

Nothing like a good photo shoot! facelick

Make sure you get a good facial, I mean, face shot, I mean... facelick Make sure you're wearing a necklace, I mean, some pearls, I mean...

Male D

[vividpleasures]

I get the point!

[DBL D]

He He!

M. D.