Glove with the one you love?

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Just so you know, I have already been chided by Mrs Spoomonkey for making the poll an "all-male" poll... I wasn't thinking... I just figured - we wear the condoms, so we would answer the poll...

She has corrected my erroneous thinking and I shall never make that mistake again...

If I knew how to fix the poll, I would...



Spoomonkey

I love Mr Spoo. I merely wanted the women's vote to count for more than "see below". He's a good monkey.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Okay I just picked on my Spoo again. I noticed there was no vote for a single to say he always gloves and doesn't mind that the husband doesn't.

Maybe next time

Mrs Spoomonkey

p.s. He wanted me to tell everyone that he thinks this poll really sucks!!!

[biblonde]

ohhhhhh poor spoo...it is a good poll!! here ill send ya a banana split to cheer ya up!

[biblonde]

We havent played with singles yet so not sure how that will work but I know when we play with couples I play with both men and it hasnt been a problem for him to go from one woman to me...he takes it off and then when he is with her he puts it on. I wont play with my hubby with a comdom on...I hate them things and we dont play at home with them so not gonna do it while playing with others...It also doesnt seem to be a problem with the other man involved either...it doesnt really put any glitches in playtime at all!!

[Russ]

It was my post to "do you like to fuck filled pussy" that sparked this poll, what I meant was it's a 'double standard' and "unfair' to expose the single male to your husbands fluids in a 'cream pie' sloppy seconds situation, which that part of the poll got neglected. What you are really saying in that case is, "we as a couple" practice safe sex for ourselves but not the other members of the community, if you want me to have 'sloppy seconds' but wear a condom and play it safe for the two of you, what happens to me if the condom I'm wearing rips ....guess I'm just SOL. I was under the impression that it was responsibility of all us males to do as much as possible to prevent our fluids from coming into contact with others. The poll didn't mention that part of the MFM. ...........wait a minute...the light bulb in my head just went off...What was I thinking...the answer is obvious..sorry for all the trouble...If I'm that worried about my safty...I should just decline the offer if I'm ever in that situation but then again this whole "issue' would never come up in "the heat of the moment". Only here on net.

[Russ]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

I have no problem wearing a condom while the husband is bareback. The condom is for my protection as well as theirs, why complain??

Just a thought though. If two couples are together and going bareback with their own and wearing a condom with the other couple, what happens when you switch back and forth?? You keep changing condoms? I don't mean if you are swapping but if you are having a foursome whatever and the action is fluid??

That was another part of the issue I brought up, when my wife and I were together the group issue of each husband T'ing off bareback...then everyone waiting till round 2 to glove is the exact point, we and our friends played thru the whole party the 'safe sex' way....no 'musical condoms' changing condoms all the time because you got X's sause on the outside, and can not insert in y, that's a real pain.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Russ

That was another part of the issue I brought up, when my wife and I were together the group issue of each husband T'ing off bareback...then everyone waiting till round 2 to glove is the exact point, we and our friends played thru the whole party the 'safe sex' way....no 'musical condoms' changing condoms all the time because you got X's sause on the outside, and can not insert in y, that's a real pain.

But - if you put your condomed penis in one wife - and then remove it to put it in the other - haven't you exposed one wife to whatever the other might have?

You should never use the same condom with two women. While you may not catch a disease, you could spread one.

Spoomonkey

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

You should never use the same condom with two women. While you may not catch a disease, you could spread one.

Spoomonkey

Dito

People don't actually DO this, do they?

[Spoomonkey]

I responded to this earlier, but my computer kept losing the boards for some reason... Maybe it was the god of "better judgement" telling me not to respond, but sometimes, I can't help myself...

Originally Posted by Russ

What you are really saying in that case is, "we as a couple" practice safe sex for ourselves but not the other members of the community, if you want me to have 'sloppy seconds' but wear a condom and play it safe for the two of you.

Bingo!

Kinda!

Actually, we do practice safe sex for the members of the community...

Our rules are for the two of us. That is a very simplistic, but honest way to look at things. My foremost concern is the comfort and safety of my soulmate, my wife. Secondly - a very distant second - my concern is for my safety.

Don't get me wrong, the wonderful people that we have played with have been playmates that we want the best for - strive to make the experience mind-blowing - and hope that along with no regrets, they also take home no bugs. But - the first step in making sure that we can offer a "bug free" experience to our friends is staying "bug free" ourselves...

So we ask our friends to wear a condom.

I make no apologies for the fact that I place my wife on a higher pedastal than anyone else...

Originally Posted by Russ

what happens to me if the condom I'm wearing rips ....guess I'm just SOL.

Guess what, Russ...

If your condom rips we are all SOL. We don't want that happening... We really, really don't. If that happens, yes, you may be exposed to the husband's semen - but more significantly, the wife will be exposed to yours... Since we have played together (my wife and I) we know that we aren't going to be passing anything back and forth. We aren't so confident about you - which is why we suggested you putting one on in the first place...

Furthermore, if you are under the illusion that you can only catch a disease by coming in contact with semen, then you are mildly confused. Did you know that you can catch a disease from a woman who hasn't had semen inside her for a very long time? It's true... Women can carry and spread an STD just like a man's semen can...

So - our requirement about our single friends gloving up is as much for their safety and peace of mind as it is for ours.

Originally Posted by Russ

wait a minute...the light bulb in my head just went off...What was I thinking...the answer is obvious..sorry for all the trouble...If I'm that worried about my safty...I should just decline the offer if I'm ever in that situation

Bingo again!

You have the right and responsibility to yourself to only play in situations that you are comfortable with. If a playmate's rules or desires are outside of your comfort zone, you are not required to play with them. Move on. But it does not mean that they have an "unfair, double standard" - it simply means that they are being honest with what they are comfortable with. With many couples, playmates wearing a condom is a "take it or leave it" offer. I know we aren't open for debate on the subject.

And, personally, I would rather a guy say he wasn't interested in playing than spend his time bitching about it later...

Originally Posted by Russ

but then again this whole "issue' would never come up in "the heat of the moment". Only here on net.

You're right - this wouldn't come up in "the heat of the moment". Most of the single men we've played with even bring their own condoms Our desire for them to actually wear them doesn't usually come a big surprise...

Spoomonkey

[curiousagain]

Just an FYI, if a male ejaculates into his wife, the other male then has sex with a condom, changes condoms and has sex with another female, he is still exposing her due to the fluids from the male and female being around the base of the penis. In "crotch to crotch" contact there is still the possibility of spread of disease. There is still danger of spreading a disease even with a condom.

And, I am still wondering about the pay scale for a sexsitter. How much would I have to pay an hour???

[WesternSwing]

The way we see it is that we are married and it's how we have sex. And if the other guy doesn't like it, then he can find another couple. Fair? Maybe not. Our rules to play with us? Yup.

When we play with other couples I always wear a condom with the other wife, even if she tells me I don't have to. It's out of respect for the health of my wife and I, and for them. We don't know their past, they don't know ours. But we do know ours. Same would hold true for a single guy. Now out of respect when playing, my wife and I have sex last (without a condom) because they have already had their fun, and now it's our turn together to finish the evening and get "connected" again. At least so far that's how it's worked.

Mr. WS

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Just an FYI, if a male ejaculates into his wife, the other male then has sex with a condom, changes condoms and has sex with another female, he is still exposing her due to the fluids from the male and female being around the base of the penis. In "crotch to crotch" contact there is still the possibility of spread of disease. There is still danger of spreading a disease even with a condom.

Actually when we play with a couple usually Mr Spoo is shall we say occupied with the other female and vice versa. We save the time for us later at home. When we play with a single even though Mr Spoo doesn't wear a condom with me he pulls out and ejaculates on me that way the play can go on for as long as we want leaving more play options open due to no sloppy seconds etc.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[gsu22]

When playing with a couple, I'll always wear protection. In my experiences, the couples have always had a rule of the single guy wearing a condom anyway. There was one couple however, who i got comfortable with and after many times of playing together, the wife decided she was ok with me going bareback if i wanted to......and of course I was fine by it and it was great! They trusted me and I had full trust in them.

[Russ]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

Actually when we play with a couple usually Mr Spoo is shall we say occupied with the other female and vice versa. We save the time for us later at home. When we play with a single even though Mr Spoo doesn't wear a condom with me he pulls out and ejaculates on me that way the play can go on for as long as we want leaving more play options open due to no sloppy seconds etc.

Mrs Spoomonkey

boy, I sure wish you had stopped your hubby before he told me he was a "double standards" kind of husband.......on a "do you fuck filled pussy" thread.....I already knew I was expected to wear a condom, and figured the same thing you just wrote always applied in a MFM.....I mean you do have 3 wonderful attractions at the amusement park...and I know which one isn't open to me(usually never as a rule) and usually like to enjoy a light snack of snatch before going to work( but never with fresh gravy!)

[Russ]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

But - if you put your condomed penis in one wife - and then remove it to put it in the other - haven't you exposed one wife to whatever the other might have?

You should never use the same condom with two women. While you may not catch a disease, you could spread one.

Spoomonkey

Well the group we played with was small close friends in a closed living room party, all the wives were bi so we just figured that equalled out...our main concern was each other's semen.