How did you get started swinging?

[TxCpl1972]

We got started by talk about our fantasies with each other. We would talk about how we would do it with, who we though would do it. So, after a few years of this we took the leap. Everyone just has to remember, this is not for everyone and if you do it, your relationship must be really strong. Remember, ALWAYS BE SAFE! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

[posionivy]

That is the same way that my hubby and i got started.

[cNJ3sum]

We got started the same way. My wife was always saying.... "It is only a fantasy, I could never actually do it". Well, one night it all became a reality. It was the best thing that ever happened to our 10-year marriage.

[couple69]

We've been talking about it, too, and are ready to move forward. Did you place an ad to find another couple?

[JustAskJulie]

Hello TxCpl1972, Posionivy and Couple69 welcome to the board Be sure to read through the posts in our "New Swingers" forum as well as the archives for lots of helpful info for newbies. And if you ever have a question please feel free to ask

[cutecplco]

We were curious what first got you all talking about this lifestyle? For us, a few years ago, a friend of a friend of mrs cutecplco was visiting from out of town and we all went out together, and turns out this visitor was a bi-female and was interested in us. Anyway we got to talking about it and decided that it might be fun to explore. We didn't that night, but were curious and so started researching and decided we're finally ready to meet some other couples and see how it goes.

[lcjtsd]

I'd have to say porn movies. I would say to her "You would like to do that wouldn't you?" and she would say to me "Yes, and you would like to do that, wouldn't you!". Slowly, talk turned into more. Still looking for a couple to join us though.

[GTIs]

Strippers.

Mrs GTI would always get mad when I would go to strip clubs with my friends. She had never been and her imagination led her to believe it was a giant orgy once you got there lol. To take care of her misconceptions I took her out to one. She had a great time getting lap dances from girls. She concluded she'd like to get alot more than a lap dance from another girl and we've been looking ever since.

[BradAndJanet]

I guess it was hearing her talk about how she had the 'hots' for my friend. I didn't mind...in fact it turned me on. Since I knew it turned her on too, I started talking dirty to her about it during sex (she likes that too ) From there it became a desire to try it for real, which ultimately was a failure, as we had no idea what we were doing and scared him off.

I started looking around our friend Intenet, found this board, and the rest is history....

-B

[HotCoupleGnS]

Well for us, it started with hubby just doing some dirty talking about having sex with another guy & him. I was pretty naive & unexperienced with sex, so at ifrst I thought he was weird & that people didn't really do that. But after a while I started being honest with myself & him, & admitting that it turned me on. After a few years of that, we were drinking with some friends & one thing led to another.

[Miss_Piggy]

Well it started off with me having a major crush on this really cute gal. Then I started thinking... why just have a crush? Why *can't* I act on this? What if Kermit has crushes? Why can't he act on those? talk talk talk.... and voila!

[leftcoastcouple]

It began with me having a HUGE fantasy to see her with another guy. Once that became a reality, the fantasy expanded to having her with someone else while I got to have my cake and eat it, too.

Initially, she was reluctant, afraid I was looking for greener pastures. But once I convinced her that it was absolutely NOT about looking for someone else--I love her to death and we've got 20+ years invested in one another, plus great kids and a wonder family, which I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize--she had to agree that yeah, variety at this point would be exciting. So with that, we began looking.

Not terribly exciting, I suppose, but honest and down-to-earth.

It began with talk in the bedroom about how I would like to see mrs naughty take another guys cock. This talk went on for about 6 months and we decided if we did it it would have to be with someone we wouldnt see again. We had a single male friend that was moving away never to be seen again. PERFECT!!!!!

The night of his going away party we ended up alone with him back at his apartment. We asked him to take pics of Mrs naughty and I having sex. Which he did. But after a while he joined in. It want a full swing as he and Mrs naughty just did 4 play. But it turned us both on immensley. It was almost 2 years till our next experience and we enjoyed that one to. So we decided why wait years inbetween encounters. So we went "Active" into swinging and the rest is erotic history.....

[CB_n_Red]

For us it was a mixture of porn and bedroom fantasy followed by Red "getting the hots" for a male friend of ours. One thing led to another and here we are. There was a four or five year gap between the first fantasising and actually playing.

[Brit_Pair]

By chance, a series of programmes on a UK adult satellite channel opened Lady B's eyes to her desire for sex with women ... which happily tied into latent fantasies I'd been silently nurturing for several years. It took a good deal of talking and fantasising (years, not months) for us to reach the point where we were ready to try and make it happen for real. Everything since has happened at an easy, comfortable pace. And it was definitely worth the wait.