Clubs vs Meeting Privately

[JustAskJulie]

This is a multi-part question.

First, have you ever been to a swinger club?
Second, Do you prefer swinger clubs over meeting one on one?

[VegasLee]

We go to clubs or parties many times per month. We also hold a public "bar meet" once per month to meet people that everyone and anyone is welcome to come to.

We will NOT meet anyone, single or couple that we have not met in person before for dinner, drinks or at our home.

Most months we are at something that people can meet us at 5 to 6 times per month and figure that is good.

We talk to many people on line and do not feel comfortable meeting them just for dinner or giving them personal info. (where we live, phone numbers). so we always tell them about the parties, club or bar meet and request that they can meet us there.

We have also found that MANY people from on line do not bother to show up to meetings anyway so this way are are not left sitting around for people that we do not know.

My personal view is doing things this way is a good, no pressure way of meeting new people.

Once we have met and got to know people then we have been known to have them over to the house.

[imsnowman]

We don't really have a preference either way. We're not players on the first date so it really doesn't matter where we meet them. The club atmosphere is fun and erotic whether we play with others or not.

[Handyman69]

When going to clubs and meeting new couples you tend to avoid all the hassles of sorting out the wanna-be's, Picture collectors, cheating husbands and other game players. Not to say we don't still respond to our ad, just shooting 100 % at the club scene for real meets.
John

[imsnowman]

Originally posted by Handyman69
When going to clubs and meeting new couples you tend to avoid all the hassles of sorting out the wanna-be's, Picture collectors, cheating husbands and other game players. Not to say we don't still respond to our ad, just shooting 100 % at the club scene for real meets.
John

Really good point. We meet the only couple we've played with at a Lifestyles convention.

[hamlet]

We've met couples both ways, but (with the exception of a very nice couple from Toronto whom we met via this very board), we've had much better luck at clubs. No quantiity of exchanged pictures can make up for seeing others in the flesh (so to speak). At a club, you can also have a quick fling (if you're into that sort of thing which, sometimes, we are) with a couple whom you never would have had sex with if you had actually had to survive a conversation at dinner with them--I mean, we had a really good time like that with a couple we met at a club in Barcelona, and we not only didn't but couldn't talk to them (it was actually kind of funny to hear my wife shouting "Yes! Yes!" while the man she was with was shouting "Si! Si!"). And, as we always say, it's almost impossible for us to have a bad time at a club, since we've always got each other to play with--and, with any luck, an erotically charged atmosphere around us as we do so. We have, on the other hand, had some dreary times with couples we met on-line--and, in such cases, there's nothing else going on around you to compensate for it.

[NotsoNew]

We have been to an off premise club. We enjoy the atmosphere but also like meeting couples for the first time for drinks or dinner.

[were4fun2003]

we love going to the clubs .but if we meet a couple for the first time that we have only talked to online or the telephone before it is really hard to get to talk to them one on one at a club with others there that you know.but as far as a future meeting with the idea of playing in mind the clubs seem to be the best no pressure place.

[Spoomonkey]

We prefer clubs - but we'll do whatever works...



Spoomonkey

I prefered our club experience-I felt there was a lot less pressure there, but I cannot speak for the Mr........something tells me he will dissagree

[yawanna]

Spoo.. you Slay me lol and I agree...whatever venue works best for ya may be a combination..maybe only one venue...it's totally up to the couple

It wasnt pressure I felt it was uncomfortableness (is that even a word?? ).

After we were there for about an hour I definately lossened up.

I'm not sure if it was the captain and coke or watching Mrs naughty getting a buttery nipple shot done off of both her tits at the same time.

I definately give the club 2 thumbs up but it did take a little time to feel at ease.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

When you first go to a club it does take some time to loosen up and feel comfortable (a little captain and coke never hurts)
but you do eventually get comfortable. We have a "home club" so to speak and have quite a few friends there regardless of whether or not we've "played" so it is always just a fun night out with benefits

Mrs Spoomonkey

[lauriern]

Clubs are better, they are a social setting and if something doesn't work out there isn't that long uncomfortable silence.

[zebrahead7557]

We prefer meeting at a swinger's club. People are usually on their best behavior in a club but after we get to know them, other places may be considered.