Rate your relationship

ALilOEverything · 08-31-2004, 12:49 PM

Most people write they are very happy in their relationship and it's very strong and secure. I just wanted to attempt a poll and thought this would be a good question, too see how happy people really are. How do you rate your relationship 10 being perfect and 1 being your relationship is as bad as it gets but you're still together.

08-31-2004, 01:01 PM

I rated a 9. I did not rate 10 because it does get better than this. Every year we have been together (12 now) has been better than the last. So even though as I sit here now thinking it can't get any better, as each year passes it does. We have more experiences together, build more memories together and watch our family grow together. So each year we get to look back at all the wonderfull times, and maybe not so wonderful times, we have had in our life together and it ads to the totality of our relationship. Therefore making it better.

ALilOEverything · 08-31-2004, 01:03 PM

I didn't mark for the voters to be seen...how odd it ended up that way and no way to change it...darn. Oh well, that was my first attempt. I would say that we're at a 9... always room for a little improvement. A few years ago I would have said a 6 but we worked really hard and this is where we are now. Sometimes I think we're a little short with each other after a long grueling day with the kids but otherwise it's pretty darn good.

EvilMJ · 08-31-2004, 01:06 PM

I put a nine because there are times when we are grumpy and tired and probably should treat each other better than we did. Overall we are very happy together and even though we may not be married as long as Mr. & Mrs. Naughty (5 years) I think I can safely echo the sentiment that things get better every year.

We have managed to survive two very hard years recently and if we can do that and still come out very much in love, never once thinking of leaving each other, then I think we are doing okay.

WesternSwing · 08-31-2004, 01:09 PM

I said 9 because I'd be afraid I'd become complacent if I thought it was a 10 and not strive to make it even better or maintain it. And I love this woman way too much to do that.

Mr. WS

**good times** · 08-31-2004, 01:26 PM

I picked nine for the same reason as Mr. Naughty.

Vespertine · 08-31-2004, 01:50 PM

Dito to all of the above. Nine.

akamgaxoxo · 08-31-2004, 02:02 PM

Not to be cheesy, but Dito to all the above as well!

**Alura** · 08-31-2004, 02:21 PM

I'm the lone ten voter. When I met Mrs. Alura I didn't date. In fact, all I did was work, sleep and eat. I had absolutely given up on ever finding a woman with whom I could really be open and share everything.

I just can't imagine our marriage being better. There's nothing I'd change and no way I long for improvement in our relationship, except maybe for it to last another twenty-four years.

Mr. Alura

CB_n_Red · 08-31-2004, 02:25 PM

Well, I went for 10! We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary last week (that was part of the reason for our first club visit on Saturday) and I can only hope that the next 25 years will be as good as the last. Yes, there have been hiccups at times but we've come through them all. I find it hard to imagine it being any better. I don't think we are complacent about it - we still spend plenty of time talking about everything and anything. Some very good friends of ours gave an anniversary card in which they asked how we did it. Good question! In vanilla life as in swinging it's all about talking. IMHO anyway.

I just wish my relationship with my Transit van was as good! Wretched thing broke down on me last night (starter motor yet again) as I was about to take Red to work.....

CB

ALilOEverything · 08-31-2004, 02:31 PM

I aspire to be in your shoes Alura and CB n Red. We're at 7 years of marriage and hope to be going even stronger with each passing year. I think my mom has been a tremendous help. She takes the kids every other week so we can go out to dinner together, it really helps us feel connected while the little ones are so young.

were4fun2003 · 08-31-2004, 02:39 PM

I rated our relationship a 10

!! Dito I agree with all of you that rated it a 9 although it does seem to be sooo much better then it was years ago. I cant even imagine it any better then it is now....we are approching 30 years of marriage and together almost 32 ...we were very young when we got married so for me i have a great marriage so i stick by my 10

BradAndJanet · 08-31-2004, 08:30 PM

I'll say 9 too, because nobody's perfect.

Funny how that seems to be a common number around here, but I guess that's what I'd expect from this group. You can't swing, and do it successfully, unless you have that kind of relationship.

-B

fun_pairTX · 09-01-2004, 03:02 AM

I put down 9 for us. A 10 would be possible if Mrs Fun were triplets, but that is another kink altogether

tazzie_n_truck · 09-01-2004, 10:58 AM

Had to say with us, we would have to say 9, mainly because there is always room for improvement in our relationship, but we are doing really good.

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View Poll Results: Rate your relationship
10 It doesn't get any better than this	329	37.05%
9	205	23.09%
8	142	15.99%
7	83	9.35%
6	18	2.03%
5 It's about equally bad and good	45	5.07%
4	13	1.46%
3	11	1.24%
2	2	0.23%
1 I don't know why we are even bothing	10	1.13%
I'm single, just curious about the results	30	3.38%
Voters: 888. You may not vote on this poll

08-31-2004, 12:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,847 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything	Rate your relationship Most people write they are very happy in their relationship and it's very strong and secure. I just wanted to attempt a poll and thought this would be a good question, too see how happy people really are. How do you rate your relationship 10 being perfect and 1 being your relationship is as bad as it gets but you're still together.
	__________________ ~Lilo

08-31-2004, 01:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mr&Mrs-naughty Guest Posts: n/a	Mr here I rated a 9. I did not rate 10 because it does get better than this. Every year we have been together (12 now) has been better than the last. So even though as I sit here now thinking it can't get any better, as each year passes it does. We have more experiences together, build more memories together and watch our family grow together. So each year we get to look back at all the wonderfull times, and maybe not so wonderful times, we have had in our life together and it ads to the totality of our relationship. Therefore making it better.
Mr&Mrs-naughty Guest Posts: n/a

08-31-2004, 01:03 PM	#3 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,847 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything	Re: Rate your relationship I didn't mark for the voters to be seen...how odd it ended up that way and no way to change it...darn. Oh well, that was my first attempt. I would say that we're at a 9... always room for a little improvement. A few years ago I would have said a 6 but we worked really hard and this is where we are now. Sometimes I think we're a little short with each other after a long grueling day with the kids but otherwise it's pretty darn good.
	__________________ ~Lilo

08-31-2004, 01:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
EvilMJ Pure Evil..In a cute suit Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 2,497 Location: Nova Scotia Status: Couple	Re: Rate your relationship I put a nine because there are times when we are grumpy and tired and probably should treat each other better than we did. Overall we are very happy together and even though we may not be married as long as Mr. & Mrs. Naughty (5 years) I think I can safely echo the sentiment that things get better every year. We have managed to survive two very hard years recently and if we can do that and still come out very much in love, never once thinking of leaving each other, then I think we are doing okay.
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08-31-2004, 01:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: Rate your relationship I said 9 because I'd be afraid I'd become complacent if I thought it was a 10 and not strive to make it even better or maintain it. And I love this woman way too much to do that. Mr. WS
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08-31-2004, 01:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Rate your relationship I picked nine for the same reason as Mr. Naughty.
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08-31-2004, 01:50 PM	#7 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: Rate your relationship Dito to all of the above. Nine.
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08-31-2004, 02:02 PM	#8 (permalink)
akamgaxoxo Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 221 Location: Maryland	Re: Rate your relationship Not to be cheesy, but Dito to all the above as well!

08-31-2004, 02:21 PM	#9 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,144 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Re: Rate your relationship I'm the lone ten voter. When I met Mrs. Alura I didn't date. In fact, all I did was work, sleep and eat. I had absolutely given up on ever finding a woman with whom I could really be open and share everything. I just can't imagine our marriage being better. There's nothing I'd change and no way I long for improvement in our relationship, except maybe for it to last another twenty-four years. Mr. Alura
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08-31-2004, 02:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
CB_n_Red Life's too short not to.. Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 616 Location: East Yorkshire, UK Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:CB_n_Red	Re: Rate your relationship Well, I went for 10! We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary last week (that was part of the reason for our first club visit on Saturday) and I can only hope that the next 25 years will be as good as the last. Yes, there have been hiccups at times but we've come through them all. I find it hard to imagine it being any better. I don't think we are complacent about it - we still spend plenty of time talking about everything and anything. Some very good friends of ours gave an anniversary card in which they asked how we did it. Good question! In vanilla life as in swinging it's all about talking. IMHO anyway. I just wish my relationship with my Transit van was as good! Wretched thing broke down on me last night (starter motor yet again) as I was about to take Red to work..... CB
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08-31-2004, 02:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,847 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything	Re: Rate your relationship I aspire to be in your shoes Alura and CB n Red. We're at 7 years of marriage and hope to be going even stronger with each passing year. I think my mom has been a tremendous help. She takes the kids every other week so we can go out to dinner together, it really helps us feel connected while the little ones are so young.
	__________________ ~Lilo

08-31-2004, 02:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
were4fun2003 Registered Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 7 Location: dayton ohio Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:were4fun2003	Re: Rate your relationship I rated our relationship a 10 !! Dito I agree with all of you that rated it a 9 although it does seem to be sooo much better then it was years ago. I cant even imagine it any better then it is now....we are approching 30 years of marriage and together almost 32 ...we were very young when we got married so for me i have a great marriage so i stick by my 10

08-31-2004, 08:30 PM	#13 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Rate your relationship I'll say 9 too, because nobody's perfect. Funny how that seems to be a common number around here, but I guess that's what I'd expect from this group. You can't swing, and do it successfully, unless you have that kind of relationship. -B
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