Are you a Top or Bottom

[fun4two]

i (female half) am a bottom..kinda like the little control but not to much of it...he would like me to be a top...but since i dont like the top to much he gets it...and even if i became a top it would end up switching because i love it when he takes control..and he does it so well

[gatorvol64]

Mr. Spoo, the Gator half of our couple says I have control issues. And he is right. I used to fight losing control to the extend I didn't enjoy (get the most possible) out of sex. Being the remarkable man he is, he made it a mission to correct that "flaw" (my term). His correction has been the best thing that could have happened for our sex life. It boiled down to trust and I realized I wasn't giving that to him. Once I did, our whole relationship grew by leaps. Now, I have no problems being his bottom. Great rewards come with the position. Control is actually one of the things that lead to our swinging. He likes to see me lose control. Likes to see me that pleasured. So, we have only had MFM thresomes so far. (Though we have a couple we are going to be meeting with as soon as our schedules permit.) So, this was his fantasy. I guess he figures 4 hands, two mouths and all would be harder for me to resist. And I really have found great pleasure in giving him, and to some extent the men we've been with, the things they want. I know he won't let anything be asked of me that I would find uncomfortable (though he will gently push against my boundaries). Yeah, my man does seem to know me. At times better than I know myself.

Congratulation in doing your first poll. I have enjoyed this board very much since we found it. I like your posts. And you know your reaction to our screen name made my day.
Vol

[sexcupid]

In our relationship I am more the bottom...there has only been a few times that the role has been reversed and that suits me just fine.

With one of my playmates though, I am definitely the top.

So my answer was that I am the bottom with my SO, because I really don't consider myself a switch.

Maria

[curiousswingers]

Hmmm, I didn't vote because I don't think I'm any of the above, err all of the above,lol Just depends on who I'm with and what needs to take place With my SO I'm definatly a bottom however, but with different playmates it can go anyway,lol.

[Randies']

I do like mrs. randies' to take the top sometimes for a change. She prefers to be on the bottom. Says she gets more pleasure that way, I am all about giving her as much pleasure as I can!!!

[driveajeepnaked]

Ok, i admit that I didn't read all the replies, since this is a really oldie but goodie resurrected post/poll.. but here goes...

Sometimes, I prefer to "top from the bottom"... this ties into my current post of dominance in bedroom life vs real/work life.

Sometimes, I like to tell him what to make me do or let him do to me.. this is a true dichotomy of the D/s lifestyle.... we are not a D/s couple, but there is always a top/bottom in every relationship, aka a switch..


Val

[bucko]

I go both ways on this question. Usually start out on top but find if the woman spends some time on top she can control where the contact is centered and will always reach the climax. I've always felt the woman should finish first because the male always/usually is able to finish anytime he wants.
If I'm on top and can make the contact the lady needs I'll stay there if not shift around and let her finish.

[joaninla]

I had to go with the Orea answer. Having two men on either side of me is so good - plus doesn't everyone like to lick the icing?
In reality I'm probably a 50/50. I do like to be on my back, "taken", as well as riding when the sex is one-on-one.

[ShellyM]

We're a little bit of everything depending on the mood lol.
My favorite is the bottom. I love it. I love the eroticism of being able to look into his eyes and rub his chest. But they are all equally yummy!
Shelly

[Spoomonkey]

Redirect folks...

This thread isn't about sexual positions, but sexual roles...

Spoomonkey

[Tia Vampire]

I'm the more submissive one and SO is always on top. That's when we are not on our sides.

[cubnamy1995]

Cool thread. Guess I missed it. Amy and I are both tops. Sex with us is 50% fucking, 50% wrestling. She is the QUEEN of tease, and loves to give just enough to drive you nuts, then pull back. I'll only take that bullshit for so long.

[sweet_tna]

Mr. Sweet is forever telling me I have control issues. But I fail to see that as an issue! I don't know if it's a lifestyle thing or what, but with most of our playmates, I've had to be the top. And I'm fine with that 'cause I looooooove to tease the ever-lovin' bejeezus out of a guy. BUT I'm just as happy being the bottom. Mr. Sweet goes whichever way the wind (or the gal in question) blows him.

=)