Are you a Top or Bottom

[Sweet_Candy]

I'm the top and she is the bottom in sexual matters only.

Sweet

[BeautyandBeast]

I would have to say that we are 50/50, it really depends on how the wife(Beauty) or I feel. I don't really have a set way I do anything, nor does the wife, we love to try everything, so it does involve swapping roles alot.

[sutherncomfort]

I'm definite bottom and he's top. We're exploring D/s at the same time as swinging together and finding we love it. We live a pretty much 24/7 relationship butwith flexibility.

[CuriousInOregon]

I am going to say that I didnt understand the poll so I voted other But I now that I know what your talking about I say Bottom I can be agressive with my partner but Usually its him that tells me what he likes and what he wants me to do, He also does what I want and Like but I dont have to tell him

[sukrekha]

mr is definitely a bottom. After our swinging experiences we realized that I am more aggressive in bed and highly sexed and somehow that translated to our real life also. Now mr wont do anything without my permission.

[valley]

I am definately,absolutely,100% the dominant partner....when he lets me.

[intuition897]

Hmm. I think Mr. has more experience as the dominant personality, and he's much more comfortable in a position of authority, but I think with some development, I could definitely be a Domme. I rarely exercise it (probably because I'm not quite ready to explore it), but I really do enjoy shocking and discomfiting people. Knocking them somewhat off balance. Ever so subtly. I just love the reaction. I've noticed a bit of the Cougar in me emerging as I work around endearingly naiive university students all the time (no offense folks!). I like dressing sexy for the office and tormenting my poor office-mate. Nothing outrageous mind you, as I have no intention of appearing inappropriate. This is just the way I dress (halo appears over my head). Can I help it if their minds wander?

Another indication, I suppose, is this wonderful reaction I have to bad-ass 'alpha males' strutting and posturing. I feel positively predatory, like a cat toying with a mouse. And all I can think is, "SOMEbody needs his ass spanked!" <EG>

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[honeybee77]

It just depends on the moment...

[fastsporty]

M and I both switch it up. Moods tend to lead us too.
We both love having what you want when you want it but we also love just being took too. So 50/50 here.

[driveajeepnaked]

Very interesting poll, Spoo !!

I like the term "topping from the bottom"... aka I like to be the sub, but I tell the Dom what to do to me... I like the sub physical role, but the dominant mental role... go figure !!

I own an accounting business, so I am the boss there, and have the power (?) so at home, I like the submissive role, but I still like having the power, I suppose.

Mr Jeep has hinted that he would like me to be more physically aggressive, and I just feel foolish - and cant do it...

V

[twoferfun69]

Nice one Spoo!!
Initially, I responded with me being top and Mrs T being bottom, as normally this is the case........by default I guess. Let me explain...... I don't mind being mildly directed to do things to my playmate.......my technical career means I think too much all day long, I don't necessarily want to think in the bed, but I am very creative with fantasies, ideas, etc, so it all kinda works. Mrs is VERY much in control, independent, etc all day long, so she wants no part of being in control in bed. Soooooo, as is my personality, I see a need, I fill it. Someone needed to be in control, hence the "by default". Mrs is getting better at being submissive, yet telling me what she wants.
Did anyone follow that?
Anyway, my 2 pennies.

Mr. Twofer

[prettylady]

I have always been bottom. Thinking about it now, I guess it could be called bordom rather then bottom. Dog changed my out look on sex. Dog can take and reliquish the top role easily. For the first time in my life I feel comfortable letting my guy know what I want. Dog has opened my eyes to alot, and I have now started to look into things myself. I have learnt a few tricks that he didn't know about . It is fun to pull something new out of your sleeve. So I guess I am bottom by nature who likes to play top once in awhile.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I think it is interesting that 1/3 of those who have voted consider themselves tops - and have a bottom as their partner. It tells you a lot (theoretically) about who is the most involved in the boards... The "top" in a couple may have more of a desire to understand the intricacies of the lifestyle and help guide the couple's involvement... Or it could just mean that the "top" in the couple is the most likely to vocalize their thoughts and opinions...

In this sense, the communicating, I guess I would be the top in our relationship. I think I DO have more of a desire to understand the intricacies of the lifestyle.

I voted myself Oreo middle. In bed, I can go either way, but prefer equal back-and-forth sexually rather than a true top or bottom. I'm totally not into D/s, in either role - except for the occasional "game", based on the mood of the moment. If I had to choose, I'd rather my hubby be more dominant sexually than me.

I sense that he'd rather be more passive in bed more often, but I'm not interested in a passive sexual partner for the most part. I don't want to be in charge, especially in bed.

I'm bi in the right circumstances, but I don't enjoy bi-passive women at all.

[younger1]

I am definately a bottom with a beautiful and dominant wife who makes sure that I am sexually well cared for. Jealousy and humiliation are always just around the corner but love and excitement is the order of the day.

Alex the Younger1

[Boudicca]

I agree with driveajeepnaked - I "top from the bottom". I like to let my man make all the moves, but I like to direct - sometimes clearly and verbally, sometimes in a "hotter, colder" way with body language, moans, etc. I'm not a big fan of straight domination - I like to see my partner being creative, and if I'm the dom, then I have to be creative instead.