Getting Stood Up

[Lustman]

I don't necessarily agree that it is not in the single mans best interest. Perhaps I am too naive but why wouldn't it be. You are meeting a fun couple for "recreational sex" where it should be enjoyable, phycially, mentally and emotionally (perhaps even spiritualy). It is a darn right thrill to meet fellow swingers and enjoy their company. God gave women and men the sensations for bodily pleasure. Too bad man put restrictions on who should experience it with. Oops, sorry to the spirtual soap box.

Back to the topic at hand. My sincere appologies go out for those decent men who would dearly love the opportunity and experience with you wonderful couples. Please don't write us off we are out there. It is an absolute honor to not only be with you but hopefully satisfy your sexual desires and wishes. It is an absolute turn on to do the dam-dest to please you.

Truly yours,
Larry
niceswingerguy@yahoo.com

[EternallySingle]

Originally Posted by Lustman

I don't necessarily agree that it is not in the single mans best interest. Perhaps I am too naive but why wouldn't it be. You are meeting a fun couple for "recreational sex" where it should be enjoyable, phycially, mentally and emotionally (perhaps even spiritualy). It is a darn right thrill to meet fellow swingers and enjoy their company. God gave women and men the sensations for bodily pleasure. Too bad man put restrictions on who should experience it with. Oops, sorry to the spirtual soap box.

Back to the topic at hand. My sincere appologies go out for those decent men who would dearly love the opportunity and experience with you wonderful couples. Please don't write us off we are out there. It is an absolute honor to not only be with you but hopefully satisfy your sexual desires and wishes. It is an absolute turn on to do the dam-dest to please you.

Truly yours,
Larry
niceswingerguy@yahoo.com

Well, what I mean by its not in a single man's best interest is this. If a single man can convince someone's wife that she wants to have sex with him AND convince her husband to let him have sex with his wife, how much easier would it be for that guy to find single women? Single men who swing do it for only one reason: Its FUN! There can be no other reason.

But what is more fun: Meeting someone that doesn't know you and made little attempt to get to know you, or someone that you know is a friend? Yeah, the excitement of meeting strangers is great, but if it doesn't work out, what are you going to do? Either hit a club, call some friends, or go home.

What seemed to get lost in translation is that couples have to really put as much effort into connecting with single men as they do with single women. The fact that there are so many more single men than single women means they actually have to take the time to get to know the men they want to meet. I know the numbers make it seem like open season for those couples that specifically want single men, but be realistic. Is a guy that is available when you call him Friday afternoon really the kind of guy you (the wife/girlfriend) would have probably gone out with if you were single? Probably not.

Even when I don't have a date, I have SOMETHING planned for the weekend. This weekend I'm going on a community camping trip. In two weeks I'm going to a friends wedding. The weekend after that I'm going to a comedy show. Sure, next weekend I'm free, but thats probably only until tomorrow night. Either I'll think of something I want to do or someone will call and ask me to do something. Anyone that hasn't called to make plans with me by noon Friday for next weekend is S.O.L. Even if its just sitting around the coffeehouse preaching the virtues of the Libertarian party, I will be doing something. Maybe I'll go dancing, maybe I'll take a long drive until I reach half a tank, then turn around and go home (I driven my Saturn SL1 400 miles round trip on 3/4 tank of gas). Then again, I might try and find an online Delta Force game. I just don't know.

But I WILL HAVE FUN. And it is very unlikely that I will be willing to meet a couple at the last minute. A single woman, yes. A couple, no. Even if the wife's playing single, she's still part of a couple. With one exception (and they live in S. Carolina now), no couple has enough friend clout to get me to drop everything and meet them for sex. Especially if I have to drive more than an hour to see them.

Then again, I'm not every single guy. I know what I like and what I don't like, and I love sex. I just don't place it above friends or good conversation. It really isn't close unless its with a single woman that I've either had sex with before or consider a friend.

[Tat2]

OK I have to add a few words here. I think this is incredible!!! I am a single male and I would never stand up a couple or a single woman for that matter! I live in a tourist area. Any night of the week I could go to the local night club and see what I can do to "pick up" However, if I had the choice of spending the evening with a swinging couple instead there would be no contest.

#1. I already know that the swingers are active sexually and plan on having a good time.

#2. I know there is little or no danger of the girl harassing me the next week because I didn't calll her or take her out.

#3. I believe (and I could be wrong) that sexual activity with a swinger is probably likely to be safer than with someone I only just met in a night club.

#4. No nasty visits from angry husbands that just found out I had slept with their wife because she didn't tell me she was married.

Sorry I am rambling here but this drives me nuts. I think alot of you are probably right that many of the no-shows were actually married. However, why in the name of jumping jehosova (I know I spelt that wrong) would they get involved to that point anyway?

I am truely sorry for those of you that have been bitten by the asswipe single guy bug. Please know that there are good single guys out there that will not stand you up, that are good guys and that are pissed off that the fakes/flakes give the rest of us a bad name. No, scrap that, I changed my mind. The more flakes there are out there the more couples will appreciate and respect my genuinity and nicety when they find it.

My current MO is to get to know the people first and then invite them to come and join me on the island. In fact there is a wonderful couple that are planning that as we speak. I hope they make it and I am convinced after many hours of chat that we are going to hit it off and have a great time. Not only that but we are also all three of us under the understanding that if we don't hit it off sexually that we will have a great time together as friends. What can go wrong???

XXoticangel, any man who stands you up is out of his tiny litttle insignificant mind!
I looked at your profile and you are astounding!!
Stick with it and you WILL find what you are looking for.

Sorry if I went on a bit but the whole single man standing up gorgeous swinging couples thing is just incredulous to me.

My turn now to get off my soapbox, I have a flight to the UK to catch tomorrow. See you all when I get back.
Tat.

[Sweet_Candy]

Well we have not been stood up but we only do couples. We've had to reschedule our meets twice due to babbysitter canceling at last moment. We now tell our dates at the beginnging that we are at "the mercy of teenage girls" which makes it easier if something should go wrong. That line always gets a chuckle.

[lustylearning]

LOL! I wish I could say we've been stood up by a couple, but after looking at the preceding conversations more closely, we're pretty sure we were stood up by a poser single male

[4Beauty2C]

Since some swing sites have a "rating" scale on how a couples and single people are etc. they need to have one of how many times they stood people up and the reason for it. That will then show me if this is an ongoing for these people, and to decide if it is okay to swing with them or not.

[BCinIN]

Lately, we've become strictly club-goers--the online scene just has too many what-ifs for our taste. At the club, you can see, meet, and evaluate what (and who ) you're getting yourself into before anything happens, and no one gets stood up. Of course, now that we found an even better club than our old one, this is just working out as well as could be for us, in many ways.