How many people have you had intercourse with?

[hmr]

Kind of limiting yourself here. If we count the last year alone, we would be off your scale. But, then again, we are swingers who go to parties to have sex, not just to sit around and talk about it. That is what this is about, correct?

mr.

[DuncanDoughnut]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I am going to step into traffic here and say that we didn't answer because we weren't comfortable with the "scalp collecting" nature of the question. Sure, we could add them up, but that just isn't something we are interested in. So, we had no input.

Spoomonkey

My intentions were not to make anyone uncomfortable. It's just that you hear so many stories both positive and negative and its difficult sometimes to weed truth from fantasy. It also makes one wonder what is "normal" if there is such a thing. For example there is a post "Is my husband too picky for swinging" (worded something like that) According to the stats on the poll so far, the answer would appear to be no. It seems that to have only had a few sexual partners due to pickiness, discression or whatever, is normal. On the other hand, if you are a bit "wild" that seems to be just as normal. Does that make anysense?

[Spoomonkey]

It makes perfect sense.

And I am sure that lots of folks don't have a problem answering the poll. I'm not really sure why we do - we are quirky folks, to be sure.

I think the number of partners a person will have will differ as wildly as the couples themselves. Some couples are very friendly and meet a lot of people - but rarely feel comfortable taking that big step. Some people would take that step with just about anything that moves, but are so socially uncomfortable that they cling to the bar stool all night. Sometimes I think we play rather quickly - and we talk about moving slower... Then we go to the club again - and like a drunk the morning after - find that we've "done it again."

On the other hand, sometimes I think we can be terribly picky - and have maybe hurt our chances with some couples because we wanted to chat a little too long or make a date for later.

What I would be comfortable answering is "how many wonderful couples have you met?" Lots!

Or, "How many lame-assed, weird couples have you met that make you want to wretch?" Lots!

Anyway - don't mind us - we are weird that way. The poll is appropriate and lots of folks seem to be having fun with it. I just thought I'd give a different perspective on the question, you know?

Spoomonkey

[frenzb4sex]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Sometimes I think we play rather quickly - and we talk about moving slower... Then we go to the club again - and like a drunk the morning after - find that we've "done it again."

.....And when do you think you'll be making that next trip through Illinois????



Tim

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by frenzb4sex

.....And when do you think you'll be making that next trip through Illinois????

Actually...

July 2...



If you can hit a moving target, we're all yours!

Spoomonkey

[frenzb4sex]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

If you can hit a moving target, we're all yours!

Ohhhh you such big teasah you!

LOL

So, because of this, it disqualifies you from being able to say the cliche "I don't give a flying fuck about....(insert object here)"


Tim

[lycioos]

I'm a little saddened. I thought the numbers would be higher. Maybe we're not as evil and outrageous as others may think.

[xxoticangel]

As a swinging couple for almost 6 years we have had sex (defined as mutual masterbation, oral, anal, and/or intercourse) with 8 single men, 19 couples, 3 single women, and one tranny. We have a date tonight so hopefully the numbers will be different tomorrow.

[lycioos]

What is a Tranny?

[Brit_Pair]

Originally Posted by lycioos

What is a Tranny?

It's an abbreviation, either for:

• someone who enjoys dressing themselves in clothes of the opposite sex (transvestite);
• someone who's undergone /is undergoing a procedure to change their sex (transexual);
• a small battery-powered radio (transistor radio).

Given the scope of xxoticangel's post, I'd guess that she used 'tranny' to refer to the second description.

Though I may be wrong. And that wouldn't be a new experience.

[HotMoCpl]

Let's face it. I'm 51 years old and spent 22-1/2 of those in the military and nearly 5 of those were spent in South Korea. A different working girl every month...maybe 2.

I've been a bad, bad, bad wittle boy. -Elmer Fud

[WoodyInSoCal]

I think you need to ask again with more categories for the >30 group!

[tribbles]

Was this suppose to be just since we started swinging? OMG...ok change me from > 30 to 0 since the 3 play partners fit Arkansas "it's not sex" model.
S
The orgies from my younger years don't count?

[JnCC]

Yes, I DO know the exact number, and that's only because a former girlfriend once asked about it, and I gave her my best estimate. She wasn't too happy with the number I gave her, so I started adding them up by year, then by decade. It turned out that my estimate had been about 60% of what it should have been. I only counted non-commercial, full-intercourse encounters...NOT blow jobs, hand jobs, oral sex, or bar girls I'd met while stationed overseas. I did count women I/we later met via the Lifestyle, but I differentiated them from women I'd dated (and bedded) in a conventional sense while single.

The actual number isn't as important as some of the facts I noticed when compiling the list. Overall, I remembered about 95% of their names and at least one personal detail about them. About 20% were 1 or 2 night stands, never to be seen again. Almost all of the first encounters involved alcohol to some extent, and a few involved drugs...mostly pot (in the 70's) or cocaine (the early 80's). About 5% of the total were married or in relationships with somebody else at the time. The same number holds true for me as well, mostly with my 1st and 2nd wives.

(Here comes "Intuition897" with her ruler, to spank my pee-pee for confessing to infidelities in the past. Hey, shit happened...especially in the 80's when cocaine was cheap and mandatory drug testing was still on the distant horizon)

Comparing how many different sex partners I've had as a single male to how many I had in the Lifestyle as part of a couple, the ratio is almost 4 to 1. I suspect that's because it's hard for 4 people to "click!" Besides, when you're married, there's no reason to go home with a total stranger just because you're horny. If sex were simply "a game of numbers," a couple could probably do better than a single male by hanging out at swing clubs and fucking all the other post-notchers there. Big numbers, but very few smiles. Sorry, that's just not my style...

One thing I learned from all this is that at some point, things start repeating themselves. #17 is like #2 all over again. #22 is like #5, etc etc. If you're not making some sort of personal connection to the person you're fucking, it gets as boring and monotonous as marriages sometimes do. That's why swinging doesn't work for some people...the only "connection" is through sex, and they don't consider that a connection at all.

[WoodyInSoCal]

I'm such a whore.....I stopped counting at ......Oh my.. I am afraid that if I admit to the number you won't respect me. See, some of you might be turned off by someone who's been with too many women. And I certainly don't want anyone to think bad of me - especially those of you who were thinking we might get together.

Ok, here goes. . . I stopped counting at 100...

That doesn't count oral sex. Just full on sexual intercourse.

I know I'm a whore, but am I bad??