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Would you play with soft swingers?

Would you play with a soft swap couple?  

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  1. 1. Would you play with a soft swap couple?

    • NO. No sex not interested.
    • Maybe, but Only if we REALLY liked them.
    • Yes, but we'd talk them into sex.
    • yes, that's ok for a little while.
    • Yes. we're fine with that.
    • Yes. that's what we prefer anyway.


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My wife and I are turned on by the thought of same room sex, petting, and playing with another couple but neither of us want to have sex with someone else.

My wife is concerned that if started playing with swingers there would be alot of pressure to have sex with them or dissapointment if we didn't.

 

Would you play with a couple that would not have sex with you?

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In honesty I don't think I would. To me, it would be like a meal without the steak lol....good, but somehow not completely satisfying. I know there are people who are willing to do this. The key is letting them know up front and straight out. That way there are no expectations of full play, and then there are no dissapointments.

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My wife & I are turned on by the thought of sme room sex & petting & playing with another couple but neither of us want to have sex with someone else.

There are many things you can do with another couple during soft swing that excludes intercourse. You can enjoy kissing, touching, manual stimulation, oral, massage, etc. If 'not having sex' to you only means not having intercourse with the other couple, you can find other couples who would be comfortable with that, even full swap couples like ourselves play with soft swing couples as long as it's clear from the start that we all will engage in swapping where all of those other options will be okay.

 

If you are clear upfront (in your ad profile if you have one) as to what "soft swing" means to you, what you will do and won't do during play, then you should have no problem finding interested couples if you are open to some degree of exchange.

 

If "soft swing" to you means never interacting with the other couple then it will be very tough finding others who have the same restriction.

 

LM

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No, we have done this before and it just isn't all that fun for us. Kind of like going to the theme park when it is closed.

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Sure, why not? Some of our private sessions (just the two of us) involve sexual activity without intercourse - we have no problem following the same agenda when another couple is included.

 

When we were a soft swap couple, we encountered varying degrees of opposition from full swap couples. We can only remember one couple who didn't want to soft swap with us (they were hardened veterans). Most full swap couples were willing to stoop to our level (once they realized this was the only way they were going to get us to the bedroom).

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We would certainly play with a soft swing couple if we liked and connected with them. There's lotsa fun stuff to do depending on what the other couple's definition of soft swing is. In fact one of our first encouvers was a soft swing... and that was very interesting. Be up-front with exactly what you want and what your boundaries are.

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Soft-swing is an entity in itself (almost separate to swinging).

 

How on earth do you draw up (let alone adhere to) limits in such a situation?

 

The following is not "swing" related at all, but just an interesting anecdote that involved "soft-sex".

 

Bud met a girl when he was 21 and she 19. they hit it off and went out. A nice evening was had. It was repeated and repeated and repeated until Alison (the girl) eventually agreed to go for a night-cap at Bud's apartment.

 

A drink or two was cracked open. Music was playing. It was a warm night.

 

"It's warm, isn't it" said Bud.

 

"Maybe we've got too many clothes on" said A.

 

Both stripped buck naked and caressed on Bud's bed. A was happy to play with Bud's dick and balls and Bud was more than happy playing with A's form and pussy whilst they tongue-jousted for England.

 

A lay back and opened her legs so Bud could make love to her but at the last second twisted her hips to prevent his entrance and said "No". Not a problem, really. All foreplay. Bud and A were deep kissing and talking nice and soft to each other while Bud gripped his dick in his hand and stroked it up and down between A's pussy lips - pausng and pressing at her hood which was sending her wild. A's pussy was sopping wet but each time Bud tried to press home she twisted her hips to prevent him entering her and said "No".

 

This went on for about 2 or 3 hours (a not unpleasurable time, but not what either of them truly wanted either).

 

Bud (getting tired and irritable towards the end) said "You know, I get the feeling that you want me to fck you but you can't own up to it".

 

"I think you're probably right" she breathed "I'm a virgin" (this was not a nasty conversation, both were still getting off on each other and enjoying deep kisses and soft caresses).

 

Bud then positioned his penis at the entrance to her vagina and pushed inside about half a centimetre (waiting for her to twist her hips again). "I think you want to, but you just don't want to be seen to agree to it the first time" said Bud. "I think you want a guy to just do it, force it, even though you're saying no" he continued.

 

"I think you're right" said A. "I want it but can't agree to it at the same time. Once I lose my virginity I can never get it back, it's gone forever". Bud pressed a little more on A's hymen. "No" she said.

 

"I can't do it as long as you say NO. I just can't. You'll have to find someone else" said Bud, not unkindly and with no nastiness as he could understand her dilemna.

 

Bud and Alison parted as friends, but never got passed "soft-sex". They remained friends for a good year and a half. Bud even visited Alison at her home and Alison came and stayed with Bud again at his but whilst they would kiss and hold each other no further nakedness ever ensued. Bud always used to ask if she wanted some fun and Alison always just said "Sorry, I'm not ready".

 

Bud and A became penpals and one day Bud received a letter from A in which she exclaimed excitedly that she'd "done it" with a number one guy who was a friend, lover, counsellor the lot. Bud sent a warm letter of congratulations (not without a little sadness on his part that it hadn't been him). Bud wrote again on three occasions but never heard back from Alison (sad eh?).

 

Bud related this story to a Detective Inspector in the Police Force many years later who said he could state categorically that under such circumstance Bud would never have been convicted of rape.

 

But Bud's got no regrets (well maybe it would have been fun to screw Alison) . But as long as she says no - it's no-go.

 

Soft-Swinging would drive us up the wall!

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We get off in all kinds of ways. We like everthing from watching another cpl while they watch us to swapping up for an all nighter and everything in between. (well, almost)...lol

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I guess you can call me a soft swapper. I rather give head and just not bother with all out sex. I love giving head. facelick

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We have in the past, but it is really not why we are there. It can be fun, it can add a different dimension to the whole thing, but it just isn't our gig.

 

Mr. WS

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As an additional comment to this, you will be able to find other couples that feel like you do; there are many that soft-swing only. You'll just have to search harder.

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Well, up to me this is like asking "would you appreciate foreplay even if you won't have intercourse later on?", and the answer is "yes".

 

In the last case, my wife would say "thank you guys to heat the pot for me to drink the tea".

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In the last case, my wife would say "thank you guys to heat the pot for me to drink the tea".

 

 

Mr.Telly2 says:

 

Well Said!! :claps::bowing:

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When you choose to eliminate soft swap from consideration, you are defacto separating yourself from a large subset of the swinging community - including some people who you may regard as very attractive.

 

When we were a soft swap couple, we encountered several full swap couples who were willing to play with us - not because they preferred soft swap, but because they were highly attracted to us (or so they said :) ).

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Mr.Telly2 here.

 

I don't see why not.For me watching others or even watching the Mrs. give oral to another man is quite erotic,especially if another woman is doing the same to me. :D

 

Play comes in many forms,but it's all for fun.

 

Just my opinnion.

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When you choose to eliminate soft swap from consideration, you are defacto separating yourself from a large subset of the swinging community - including some people who you may regard as very attractive.

 

We choose to eliminate soft swap due to the drama we've encountered with soft swap couples. Has nothing to do with how attractive a couple is.

 

Lets add non-smoking, hwp, no gog play and no soft swap and our choices are greatly reduced but in our area there are lots of swingers and we still get to choose those we play with. Too many choices and not enough time to play with all those we find compatible.

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We choose to eliminate soft swap due to the drama we've encountered with soft swap couples. Has nothing to do with how attractive a couple is.

 

Lets add non-smoking, hwp, no gog play and no soft swap and our choices are greatly reduced but in our area there are lots of swingers and we still get to choose those we play with. Too many choices and not enough time to play with all those we find compatible.

 

Understood. If you have alot of first rate options, there is less of a need to experiment with second rate possibilities. Good for you! :)

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Perhaps soft isn't as well favored as full because it requires time and learning how to pleasure your partner?

 

It's not just a case of getting it on immediately...it's extended foreplay with other options of how to orgasm other than the slambang method. I can see some people resisting as usually the cuddling and intimacy it generates is reserved for each other.

 

We heard of a couple who claimed 'soft' but when the husband left the room for a smoke, the wife threw all that to the wind and went for the gusto. Of course when he came back in, he flipped out as she was definitely not doing anything soft and called an immediate end to the session.

 

I think sometimes people's definition of soft involves too many explanations of what to do and can't do to be worth the hassle.

 

Now to do a 'soft' night as a variation with regular full swap friends might make a nice change. ;)

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Perhaps soft isn't as well favored as full because it requires time and learning how to pleasure your partner? It's not just a case of getting it on immediately...it's extended foreplay with other options of how to orgasm other than the slambang method.

 

Well, I can't say that I agree with this. Now, given this is not coming from experience, only opinion. But, I don't think that soft necessarily takes more time and learning as full play at all. I think that us, for instance, we are in this to fulfill fantasies. I don't know how to explain it I guess, but soft is not for us. Now, slambang is good sometimes, I'll give you that. But, I don't think all full play is 2 minutes and done at all.

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I'm sorry, I didn't mean to indicate a short session with 'slambang' but rather soft swap couples don't want penetration at all by other. Agreed, a well paced slambang can be very very good! Especially when the guy can recover with a little TLC to enjoy another slower round.

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If we met in person, were interested, and you were a soft swap couple, we'd probably play, as soft swap is fun at times, but if you were to contact us online, we'd probably pass, just because it's not what we're seeking out. We've played with soft only couples, and while it's fun, there does tend to be some hesitation on our part because usually you get mixed signals. You start playing, and a lot of times, one member of the couple give signals that they want to go further, when what they've said at the beginning of the night may be something different. We're not against soft swap, but we'd really have to be interested first.

 

Pepper

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Even though it is not our first choice we are open to the idea of soft swap. We went through a soft swap stage early in the lifestyle and had a great time with it.

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I voted yes, but we would try and talk them into it ;)

 

We have played with soft swing couples, and it hasn't been bad. Typically, we will soft play for a bit, then the wives will go to their own husband for intercourse. It seems that soft is a way to break into swapping. Or atleast from what we have experienced.

 

It seems to me that, soft swing, is usually at the wives insistance more then the husbands. It seems to me that wives have no issue with feeling comfortable seeing their husbands get blown, or whatever, but the minute that swapping is mentioned, it isn't that they don't mind the swapping for themselves, but not for their husbands.

 

What really matters is that you are comfortable and that you are happy with your decision-soft or swap.

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I voted yes, but we would try and talk them into it ;)

 

Better to pass than to try to push someone beyond their comfort zone.

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For us the SOFT-SWAP option leaves something "SPECIAL" between me and my wife. When I first brought up swinging to my wife, she cried and thought she wasn't doing something for me. On the contrary! She is the most sexiest wife and she's great at BJ's!!! I just wanted to experiement, one reason I always had this fantasy of seeing with another guy and I was never that experimental when I was younger. I felt that we had a such a trusting and loving relationship that we could try this. To me, it made more sense to try swinging when we were married and committed rather than trying it when we were dating.

 

The SOFT-SWAP agreement between us is that we can do everything but no guy goes in my wife's pussy. My wife has said that her pussy is for my cock only! That's our point in being married, trying to keep something special between us that no one else can have. And we also will not swap in separate rooms. We both "get off" so much seeing each other being pleasured by someone else that if we went into separate rooms we would always be distracted with thoughts of "what is going on in the other room".

 

Just our "philosophy" and we respect the full-swap couples. But we have felt that some couples have turned us down at a club because we weren't full-swap swingers.

 

We even have had a MFM 3-some at our place and the oher guy was very satisfied and had a great time with a soft-swap 3-some. Well, maybe it wasn't completely soft as he did anal to my wife, no DP (yet). :nono: But we figured if he couldn't go into my wife's pussy he could still slide his C*CK in her tush! :ass:

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Oh come on people we have to learn somehow and what better way than w/newbies.It's like hiring a new employee that has no experience, you teach them your way and they have no bad habits...hmmmm, that's a good idea huh.

REMEMBER you were all newbies once yourselfs

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I think the last post was harsh. I was asked my preference, so please don't get on people for being honest and saying they do not swing with soft swing couples. I have absolutely nothing against soft swingers. Would I swing with them? Honestly probably not. Not because I have anything against them or think of them less than other couples, but I just would prefer a couple who does full swap.

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Just a quick reply....No .....its a waist of time in our minds.......flirting leads to soft stuff....which leads to harder stuff...which leads to sex..... Thats what happens!

 

Thast ok if that is your type of swinging, just please be forthright about your expectations to others...no last minute suprises.

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Thast ok if that is your type of swinging, just please be forthright about your expectations to others...no last minute suprises.

This is so important, most people don't realize how important it is to tell the other couple if you have any out of the ordinary rules or limitations before you get to the playroom. It can be very uncomfortable and embarrassing for all involved if you don't.

 

An example (sorry, a bit long),

 

We met a couple at the club that were pretty new, but they came to the club almost every weekend and we got to know them pretty well after several months, but since we go real slow with newbie’s, it took that long before we all decided we wanted to play together.

 

On the night we finally decided to get a room, they approached us and suggested we play and we agreed. Since we had known each other for some time and it is no secret that we are a straight full swap couple that is what we were expecting. As we were going to the room one of our friends asked what we were doing, and when I told her we were going to a room she jokingly said, "See you in two minutes". My wife and the other couple proceeded to go to the room but I stopped to use the restroom on the way. A couple minutes later I walk into the room to see my wife saying to the guy, "No way, we aren't doing that”, she then headed out of the room collecting a very surprised me on the way saying, "we are going to the hot tub". When we showed up in the hot tub room, our friend was very surprised that we had indeed been gone for around two minutes.

 

Turns out that when my wife and the other couple got in the room and started preparing for some play, the guy said to her, "Oh, by the way, your husband can go all the way with my wife, but you and I can only soft swap". Funny thing is if they had discussed this with us ahead of time, it probably would have been fine with us if they just played with me, turns out they prefer MFM. But as it was, what he said to my wife took her so by surprise that in retrospect we could have handled it better than we did, and it was extremely embarrassing and uncomfortable for all involved.

 

As a footnote, in case anyone has read this far and wonders how it all turned out. We have since had a chance to clear the air with this couple and remain good friends, and they have even said that should they change their minds and decide that he is allowed to play in the future, they wood like another chance with us.

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should they change their minds and decide that he is allowed to play in the future, they wood like another chance with us.

 

Am I the only one that this bothers? I mean, I read your post and I agree with everything your wife did, they should have been more forthcoming. But I don't understand how one is "allowed" to go all the way, and the other may be "allowed" if they decide. I don't know, but that always seems selfish to me.

However, thats jmo.

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Am I the only one that this bothers? I mean, I read your post and I agree with everything your wife did, they should have been more forthcoming. But I don't understand how one is "allowed" to go all the way, and the other may be "allowed" if they decide. I don't know, but that always seems selfish to me.

However, thats jmo.

Yea and nay. It would be nice to know up front. We've run into the same with newbies but it has been the other way around for us. Since we do play solo as well, we don't have to be with the same couple or both members of the couple for that matter. So there have been times when Mrs. WS has been with another man and down the road I have been blocked from playing with his wife even though she really wants to play with me.

 

Sometimes it's just preference, other times it's newbie insecurity. Either way, it's annoying, and from what I can see it builds resentment in the member of the couple that is not allowed to play with those of the opposite sex. It all seems fine at first, but down the road they finally want the playing field level.

 

Mr. WS

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We became friends with this really nice and attractive virgin married couple. We had been sharing XXX movies for several weeks when they brought up the idea of doing soft swing. All they wanted to do was give everybody massages. We invited them over to our house. Spread blankets out in front of the fireplace, turned the lights down low, had a few glasses of wine and got naked. We massaged everything but no oral or intercourse. We ended the evening with the girls jerking off the guys. We agreed that we would meet them for another session in two weeks. Two days before we were to meet them the other wife called and said that they couldn't wait to see us and tell about their adventure. We met and they began telling us about how they had gone to a lifestyle convention in Nevada and had done full swap with 2 different couples. The kicker was that the wife said that they didn't use condoms with total strangers and now they were ready to do full swap with us. My wife got mad and said no because she didn't want to take a chance of getting an STD and two she wanted to pop the cherry of a new couple. Since we had introduced them to swinging, they could have at least been loyal enough to give us their first full swap. For me, I sure missed not getting to score that good looking wife. So we don't play soft swing.

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For me, I sure missed not getting to score that good looking wife. So we don't play soft swing.

 

Hello. Now, I want to tell you that I agree with most of your post. It would have probably irritated me that they are soft only with us and go full throttle with strangers.

 

However, I have to tell you that I don't like the "score" comment. I KNOW you meant nothing demeaning about it. But I'm not a score on a tally. I am a woman, and I would hate to think of a man thinking of me as just a "score", something that was just conquered.

 

But, thats jmo.

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For MrVan and I, we both realize that there are going to be couples we meet that are going to be new like we once were and that sometimes you have to be patient. If we met a couple that it was their first time, we will let them know that we are not into soft swap all the time and that we would like to see things progress with no pressure to a full swap. If they do not feel like this would happen for them and that soft swap is all they could do, then we would not play.

 

We do not mind the first meet up or second to be a soft but after that, there needs to be more. I find the full swap more exciting for many reasons facelick and if I cannot finish what I started with that person then it doesn't have that same excitement for me. I can be a very flirtatious woman and when I start something with a play partner I want to be able to finish it all and being able to get the guy turned on, keep him interested and then being able to totally please him is the hightlight for me and if I cannot do that then why bother playing? :confused:

 

MrsVan

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I voted "maybe" in this poll simply because I have learned never to say never in the lifestyle. I am constantly surprised by the twists and turns in the road. Soft swap would certainly not be our first choice however. Our play times are so infrequent now that school is back in session that we want to maximize every opportunity.

 

Chip

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We met and they began telling us about how they had gone to a lifestyle convention in Nevada and had done full swap with 2 different couples. The kicker was that the wife said that they didn't use condoms with total strangers and now they were ready to do full swap with us. My wife got mad and said no because she didn't want to take a chance of getting an STD and two she wanted to pop the cherry of a new couple. Since we had introduced them to swinging, they could have at least been loyal enough to give us their first full swap. For me, I sure missed not getting to score that good looking wife. So we don't play soft swing.

 

Hi there,

 

I agree with your wife about the STD risk with them after their convention adventure. We don't ride bareback with anybody, anyway. But even moreso, after what they'd just done with strangers. You said your wife nixed it because of that. Didn't you agree? Or, were you willing to go ahead, anyway?

 

...and two she wanted to pop the cherry of a new couple. Since we had introduced them to swinging, they could have at least been loyal enough to give us their first full swap.

 

On the other point, getting mad because you two didn't get to be the ones to "pop their cherry", that seems selfish. Were you with them to swing, or were you with them just because they're newbies? That sounds like the boys in high school who only dated virgins because they were virgins, just to nail them (cold). I can understand some disappointment over that if that's why you were mainly interested in them, but to cut them off because you two weren't there first seems kind of weird to me. They don't have to be "loyal" to anybody but each other in swinging. They didn't owe you their cherry. A lifestyle convention is a really fast track, they were there, they went with it. It's their prerogative to choose when, where and with whom they'll start full swinging.

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We don't mind soft swap ... I think a lot of soft swap couples evenually become full-swap couples. It's just their way of easing into their comfort zone, and making sure there's no green headed monster hiding under the sheets.

 

Goodtimes, we would have played if we had known the rules ahead of time as well. I'm fine with different play "rules" if we know them up front; it's when they come as a surprise people's feelings may become "hurt" (for lack of a better word). I love to see Mr. Fun having fun ... and vice versa. So I wouldn't have felt "jaded" not to have played fully with the other Mr. Mr. Fun would gladly fulfill that need for me ;)

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OK girls, beat me, whip me. Pop their cherry and score were very unsensitive words to use. I should have said my wife wanted to share one of the most wonderful moments in the sexual experience and I should have said that I was extremely attracted to the other wife and wanted give her the gift of love. I just slipped off into the gutter of basic emotions and desire. It's really good to see that the participants on this forum have such lofty standards of sexual encounters. I would have been more than happy to have used a super deluxe all weather condom and bonded with the other very attractive wife.

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But I don't understand how one is "allowed" to go all the way, and the other may be "allowed" if they decide. I don't know, but that always seems selfish to me.

Yep, that is what we think about it too, and those are their words not mine. They said they tried full swap once and they were uncomfortable with him being with another woman so he was no longer "allowed" to do that.

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Susan here--Here's what I just find odd about soft swapping: Sucking a guy's cock in my mouth is fine, but having it inside my pussy is crossing some personal 'line' ? I don't get it . The truth is, if I think a man's cock is worth sucking, it's certainly worth fucking with.

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We prefer not to play with soft swingers. The thrill for both of us is watching one another have sex with someone else.

 

E

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We'd do it if it "just happened" because we're not shy about having sex.

 

Would we seek it out? No.

Would we meet with a couple just for it? No.

Would we turn it down at a club? Yes.

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OK girls, beat me, whip me. Pop their cherry and score were very unsensitive words to use. I should have said my wife wanted to share one of the most wonderful moments in the sexual experience and I should have said that I was extremely attracted to the other wife and wanted give her the gift of love. I just slipped off into the gutter of basic emotions and desire. It's really good to see that the participants on this forum have such lofty standards of sexual encounters. I would have been more than happy to have used a super deluxe all weather condom and bonded with the other very attractive wife.

 

:lol: I prefer to use the words deflower and consumate :rollseyes

 

I think people are balking a bit because they wouldn't want you refering to them that way. Bang, screw, hit that, getting a piece....etc. You can think whatever you want, but people who SAY everything they think usually don't get anywhere. Just something to remember ;) .

 

Pepper

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We are a soft swing couple who have been in the lifestyle for over 10 years. We are very comfortable with our decision and are very up front with it in our ad's and when we meet new couples. My partner can make a man cum with her mouth that is as exciting as engaging in intercourse and I have been told I am very orally talented as well. We love the life we lead, the people we meet (and party with) and the fun we have but we reserve one thing for ourselves that is special. If others do not understand or are not willing to accept than they are missing out not us.

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Yes, the majority of our experience has been soft swap, and has been very enjoyable. I'm including FF, as I've just learned recently how to "f*ck like a boy" with ladies who enjoy strap-ons.

 

Mrs. D

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We have played with soft swingers a number of times and enjoy it a lot. We prefer

full swap and MMF more, but soft swinging is very nice too.

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We don't care really! Actually, starting off with a little soft swing first is good ice breaker. Then work up to the full swing! Oral play to orgasm feels so damn good!

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      I know this is long-winded and for that I apologize (and if you're still reading, thank you!). I guess my ultimate question is... is there a place out there for people like us? I know we can't be the only oddballs out there like us... but I'm beginning to think we are!
    • By OhioCouple
      All swingers have their preferences when it comes to playtime. What do you prefer?
       
      I have tried to set this poll up so that singles and couples who also swing with singles and other couples may be able to answer it.
       
      You may choose more than one option.
       
      **EDIT** Please remember to vote by preference more so than what you are willing to settle for with others.
    • By mmds
      Ideas or resources for finding people not into swapping? There seem to be a number of couples we've encountered lately who want steamy entertainment without hard core expectations.
      They are interested in watching, groping around with others, etc., just not intercourse.
       
      This may be more of an emerging trend that makes sexual variety more acceptable or something that was always a part of the lifestyle. Either way, we think it's a great way to explore fantasies and realities. Any others of similar mind (and body!) on the site?
    • By Baconheads
      It was a cold January night in Denver as we ditched our (seemingly) vanilla coworkers downtown. We each pretended to go up to our room, but we ducked out to my car for a little journey out south of town. We got to the ranch a little late, maybe even for a Friday night, eleven or so. We got some wine out of the bottle we brought and started chatting with the couples left and found a couple, had to be thirty years younger than I, my girlfriend isn't quite as old as I... I saw it in their eyes that I could be their parent's age... good luck you two!
       
      Another couple from Wyoming we started chatting with seemed very nice and after less than five minutes the dude asks if we would like to play! I must have missed the signal.
       
      We had mentioned previously that were soft although we never discussed what that meant. We headed into the private rooms/booths and started peeling clothes off. We each started playing with our own girl and I encouraged my girl to suck on Kevin's(?) cock. Those two had a little powwow in which I heard the girl ask the guy, "aren't we soft?" They whispered another thirty seconds and then it was on! We each did our own girl side by side with lots of hand and mouth interaction between couples. I asked the other girl, Elizabeth, if she liked girls.
       
      Turns out she did. They get locked in a 69 and I kind of maneuver my girl around to where I can get my cock in as she's laying on her back and the other guy puts it into his girl from behind. My girl, always the scamp, steals the other guy's cock away and starts sucking it down, and sure enough, the other girl steals her man's cock back and stuffs it in her pussy. I turned the girls over and put it to my girl from behind, alternating between my girl's pussy and the other girl's mouth. The other guy was screwing his girl kind of sideways.
       
      That was all I could take. I erupted into my girl's pussy and collapsed in a heap. The other girl finished her guy with a blowjob, and we all whispered with our own mates.
       
      Five minutes later: dressed and were like, "Hope to see you all here again sometime!"
    • By robaval
      Rob and I (Julie) were standing in line at a new popular restaurant located in town about an hour south of us. This place doesn't take reservations, so we got drinks at the bar and stood in line to wait for a table. A cute couple about my age (32) was in line behind us. They were an attractive couple, and I started visiting back and forth with them. Rob was pretty quiet but friendly, making some small talk too (Rob is 52). The other couple, Jim and Deb, live about an hour south, so both couples were not "local." When we got to the head of the line, we would have had to wait longer for a table for two, but a table for 4 was available, so Deb and Jim joined us.
       
      Deb and Jim are charming people, young professionals, and we hit it off well. Deb asked about our tans, and we told them about boating on the big river lake on the Nebraska and South Dakota border. We generally sun in the nude west of the "point." We also had been to Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico recently. It's hot south of Cancun in the summer but good for nudists. We hate going to Mexico in the hurricane season. Deb and Jim had the impression nude resorts are swinger places. We told them they can be and usually/often are not. Just like all other people, nudists can be swingers too, and swingers aren't nudists necessarily. Nudism is different than swinging. We don't consider ourselves hardcore nudists or swingers, but we have done both, which didn't seem to shock Deb or Jim.

      We learned that Jim and Deb have been married about 7 years with 2 children, They were interested to hear we were "newly" weds and asked a lot about our age differences. After dinner, Deb and I exchanged email addresses and phone numbers and briefly discussed getting together again soon.
       
      Over the next couple of weeks, Deb and I (Julie) called back and forth and visited by phone. She always was interested in the nude boating and nude resorts that we had discussed when we first met and brought the subjects up on her own. I always mentioned that nudists are not necessarily swingers and swingers aren't necessarily nudists. We always seemed to end up discussing a bit about the range of swinging activities people engage in from very soft to very hard full swap swinging. I told Deb that Rob and I are occasionally fairly soft swingers, leaning more to nudism. But, we have very special and occasional full swaps with very special people (and even then condom use is required).
       
      After the couple weeks of phone calls, I asked Deb if they would join us for dinner again. We would drive an hour south and them an hour north to meet for dinner at a sports bar in a large motel/hotel complex. After dinner, we could get a nice motel room, bring a bottle of pinot to drink, "visit," and do a little more if all agreed and were very comfortable. Deb said she would talk to Jim, but that should be ok.
       
      When we met for dinner in the middle of the week, both of us girls were dressed in sundresses and sandals (mine had high wedge heels). The guys were in shorts and sandals, all very casual. Dinner went really well with Deb and Jim in the motel's attached sports bar with a couple glasses of wine each and lots of conversation and laughter. Going to a room together and the subject of swinging never came up.
       
      When we were nearly finished with dinner, I quietly brought up getting a room and taking the visiting and party there, as Deb and I had discussed in the phone calls. Deb became much jumpier and really nervous at this point, and Jim was nearly jumping up and down with excitement. Rob was playing it cool and detached, not pushing getting a room either way. Deb looked at Jim, looked back at me, and said the boys should get a room.
       
      Jim and Rob walked out to the motel's desk and arranged for a room. When asked for the type of room, Jim decided two beds.
      Rob and I had a cooler in the car with a couple of bottles of pinot, a few beers, and bottled ice tea. Deb and I went out to the parking lot while the guys were arranging the room and got the cooler from our car. Deb was really quiet and almost shaking.
       
      We all walked from the motel lobby out to the pool area and across to the east block of rooms towards our ground floor room with the door facing the pool. Deb and Jim lagged far behind Rob and me and were in deep conversation. We just walked on ahead and waited at the door for them. When they caught up with us, the final decision must have been made because when I said shall we go in, Jim said "yes," and Deb just nodded. She was so nervous, her voice was quivering when she tried to talk. Jim was almost jumping up and down like a little kid.
       
      Once in the room, Rob set to work open the wine and pouring the little plastic glasses we brought full. I sat on the edge of one bed, Rob stood at the bed's end, and Jim and Deb sat the club chairs by the room's window.
       
      We all sipped wine and made small talk. Deb was really nervous and jumpy. Rob and I actually could have busted out laughing but carefully controlled ourselves. We all were newbies one time or another, we told them. Don't ever do something you are uncomfortable with.
       
      After a half-hour or so, as I finished my glass of wine, I got up and went to the bathroom. Thinking about what to do, I slipped out of my sundress. Then I came out of the bathroom topless, wearing just my panties and sandals. Jim about bit a chunk out of his plastic glass. Deb would stare then look away. Rob just coolly asked if I wanted a refill of wine.
       
      Rob filled my cup and rubbed a bare boob, and I sat back down on the bed edge, facing Jim and Deb to visit more.
       
      Rob coolly slipped his sandals off and a bit later unbuttoned his Tommy Bahama (lucky) shirt. Sitting down next to me, we continued visiting with Deb and Jim, feeling each other up a bit. Some light kissing led to Rob slipping out of his shirt and me undoing his belt and unbuttoning his shorts. Rob runs 4 or 5 miles about 4 or more times and week and had started been lifting weights, so he is in good condition for his age (LOL). He tells me I keep him young (LOL).
       
      When I got Rob's hard cock exposed, Deb and Jim had both sat back and quietly started watching. Rob disengaged, stood up and dropped his shorts and underwear, pushed me back on the bed, and spread my legs. We made out with him on top for quite a while. Finally, I could feel his cock rubbing and very slowly teasing and pushing into my pussy, so I glanced over at Deb and Jim to see what they were doing. They were still just sitting and watching! WOW!
       
      Rob started to slowly stroke me, very full body contact, and very proper missionary style. I heard movement and opened my eyes. Jim had pulled/helped Deb to her feet and was working at getting her sundress off too. She was pretty hesitant, not helping Jim but not resisting him either.
       
      Jim had his shirt unbuttoned, and his shorts were down around his ankles. With Deb's dress finally off, Jim was giving her a full body nude hug with his hard dick pushing on her stomach.
       
      Rob continued to slowly stroke me as we both now were watching Jim and Deb get arranged to lay on their bed. Rob commented to them, "about time," and Deb's face and neck blushed the reddest red I've seen anyone blush in years. Jim was lying on top of Deb and appeared to easily slip in to start making love.
       
      At this point, I got Rob to roll off, and I got on top to "do him cowboy." I could really watch Jim and Deb screw that way. They were a bit distracted, watching my boobs bounce. When I asked them if they had been hitting the tanning beds, Deb, eyes tightly closed, said yes, ever since they had met us, they had been going to tan every other day.
       
      Everyone quieted down and really screwed away for awhile. I got off Rob, and he got me over on my hands and knees to do me doggie style. Deb and Jim lay still for a bit and watched us pretty closely as Rob bumped my butt. Rob finally pulled my hips back, thrust deep, and came. He held still quite a while and then pulled out and laid back down next to me.
       
      As we lay there, we watched Jim continue to bang Deb. Rob's right arm was under my shoulder and neck, and his hand was holding my right arm and hand in place. He used his left hand to start to fingerbang my cum-filled pussy and flick my clit as we watched Deb and Jim screw in the next bed. I lost interest in Jim and Deb as Rob worked my clit, and I came really loud and hard. Rob was proud of himself as I distracted Deb and Jim with all the noise and thrashing about. Jim said to us that he was having trouble coming and wondered if it was a performance issue due to us watching them.
       
      I moved away from Rob and stepped out of bed. I then laid next to Jim and Deb as he pumped her. When I touched her left breast, she stiffened then relaxed as I caressed and rubbed. Rob moved to the other side and Deb didn't stiffen when he started sucking her right nipple.
       
      Jim continued to stroke Deb. I felt Jim tense up and knew he was coming. Rob moved away from Deb and asked me if I wanted another glass of wine? I took it as a hint from Rob not to push Deb too much, so I moved away, sat up, and said yes.
       
      Jim rolled off Deb and laid next to her. I sat next to them and sipped the wine Rob handed me. He filled glasses for Jim and Deb too.
      Rob sat on our bed, and I sat with Jim and Deb on their bed, and we all sipped wine and visited, never commenting on all the sex, nudity, etc. Deb said that this was her first experience with watching another couple have sex. And, it was absolutely was the first time another couple had ever watched them.
       
      After a while, Deb said they should get going as it was the middle of the week, a workday the next day, and their babysitter had an hour's drive home.
       
      Deb went to the bathroom to clean up first. She didn't seem self-conscience about being nude and freshly fucked. When she came out, I went in. When I got out, Deb already had her dress back on (too quickly?). The guys were dressing, so I got dressed last with Deb and Jim each getting an eyeful.
       
      We all checked the room to be sure nothing was being left and pulled the covers up over the sheets. Rob carried our mostly empty cooler, and we walked out past the pool, bypassing the hotel lobby (Deb said she was embarrassed to be walking past the desk clerks).
       
      At our cars, we all said good night and hugged, and cheek air-kissed. Surprise of surprises, Deb told us that we should get together for dinner again sometime and do this again. Rob and I drove the hour north and home with big smiles on our faces. From what I saw, I think I might really enjoy Jim, and I know Deb is the type to get Rob going too.
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