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How did you start swinging?

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  1. 1. What got you started?

    • A friend brought up the idea of swinging to us.
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    • My partner was involved in swinging in a past relationship.
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    • We just started exploring fantasies and it came up.
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    • Something else... please explain.
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We got started by talk about our fantasies with each other. We would talk about how we would do it with, who we though would do it. So, after a few years of this we took the leap. Everyone just has to remember, this is not for everyone and if you do it, your relationship must be really strong. Remember, ALWAYS BE SAFE! :)

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We got started the same way. My wife was always saying.... "It is only a fantasy, I could never actually do it". Well, one night it all became a reality. It was the best thing that ever happened to our 10-year marriage.

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We've been talking about it, too, and are ready to move forward. Did you place an ad to find another couple?

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We were curious what first got you all talking about this lifestyle? For us, a few years ago, a friend of a friend of mrs cutecplco was visiting from out of town and we all went out together, and turns out this visitor was a bi-female and was interested in us. Anyway we got to talking about it and decided that it might be fun to explore. We didn't that night, but were curious and so started researching and decided we're finally ready to meet some other couples and see how it goes.

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I'd have to say porn movies. I would say to her "You would like to do that wouldn't you?" and she would say to me "Yes, and you would like to do that, wouldn't you!". Slowly, talk turned into more. Still looking for a couple to join us though.

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Strippers. :lol:

 

Mrs GTI would always get mad when I would go to strip clubs with my friends. She had never been and her imagination led her to believe it was a giant orgy once you got there lol. To take care of her misconceptions I took her out to one. She had a great time getting lap dances from girls. She concluded she'd like to get alot more than a lap dance from another girl and we've been looking ever since. :D

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I guess it was hearing her talk about how she had the 'hots' for my friend. I didn't mind...in fact it turned me on. Since I knew it turned her on too, I started talking dirty to her about it during sex (she likes that too ;) ) From there it became a desire to try it for real, which ultimately was a failure, as we had no idea what we were doing and scared him off.

 

I started looking around our friend the Internet, found this board, and the rest is history.... :fun:

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Well for us, it started with hubby just doing some dirty talking about having sex with another guy & him. I was pretty naive & unexperienced with sex, so at ifrst I thought he was weird & that people didn't really do that. But after a while I started being honest with myself & him, & admitting that it turned me on. After a few years of that, we were drinking with some friends & one thing led to another.

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Well it started off with me having a major crush on this really cute gal. Then I started thinking... why just have a crush? Why *can't* I act on this? What if Kermit has crushes? Why can't he act on those? talk talk talk.... and voila!

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It began with me having a HUGE fantasy to see her with another guy. Once that became a reality, the fantasy expanded to having her with someone else while I got to have my cake and eat it, too.

 

Initially, she was reluctant, afraid I was looking for greener pastures. But once I convinced her that it was absolutely NOT about looking for someone else--I love her to death and we've got 20+ years invested in one another, plus great kids and a wonder family, which I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize--she had to agree that yeah, variety at this point would be exciting. So with that, we began looking.

 

Not terribly exciting, I suppose, but honest and down-to-earth.

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It began with talk in the bedroom about how I would like to see mrs naughty take another guys cock. This talk went on for about 6 months and we decided if we did it it would have to be with someone we wouldnt see again. We had a single male friend that was moving away never to be seen again. PERFECT!!!!!

 

The night of his going away party we ended up alone with him back at his apartment. We asked him to take pics of Mrs naughty and I having sex. Which he did. But after a while he joined in. It want a full swing as he and Mrs naughty just did 4 play. But it turned us both on immensley. It was almost 2 years till our next experience and we enjoyed that one to. So we decided why wait years inbetween encounters. So we went "Active" into swinging and the rest is erotic history.....

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For us it was a mixture of porn and bedroom fantasy followed by Red "getting the hots" for a male friend of ours. One thing led to another and here we are. There was a four or five year gap between the first fantasising and actually playing.

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By chance, a series of programmes on a UK adult satellite channel opened Lady B's eyes to her desire for sex with women ... which happily tied into latent fantasies I'd been silently nurturing for several years. It took a good deal of talking and fantasising (years, not months) for us to reach the point where we were ready to try and make it happen for real. Everything since has happened at an easy, comfortable pace. And it was definitely worth the wait.

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For me and my ex we got started talking about it when we were contacted on AOL by another swinger couple. I guess because we had a profile on AOL as a couple and listed "sex" as an interest they took a chance that we were swingers. To that point we really hadn't even talked about it but it started some new conversations :)

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Some of you have seen this before, however.....

 

Once a year, the kids all go to camp for a week and we get to run away for a day or two. We had stayed up and watched "Sex in the City" . That night Mrs had a wonderful dream involving me, her and "Mr. Big". The sheets were soaked. I've always been the open one, so when she told me about it I asked if she was interested.Her word was intrigued (a word we have found usually means a newbie is really ready). Within about 2 weeks we found someone to play with (MMF) and the rest is history!!

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We have always been open with our past sexual adventures and I am turned on by Angel's stories of same room and bi expierences from high school. We were with another couple on a long weekend and having sex in seperate beds. One thing led to another and here we are.

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It's hard to say how it all started. When "nikkisguy" and I started dating 5 years ago, he knew I was a freak. I think that after all these years of being 100% sexual open with each other we started talking about our fantasies, and finally decided we are in love enough and secure enough in each other to fulfill our fantasies. We have had a 3some with another woman (it sucked :( due to her selfishness), but we have not has another couple yet. We are so ready for it though we CAN'T wait for our first 4some.

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I had to pick something else because non of the above seemed to fit.

 

We started thinking about swinging when some of our vanilla friends would get a little touchy/feely with us at parties, camping trips and get togethers.Mrs. GT and I started discussing it and decided we both got kind of turned on by it. I did what I normally do and started researching what we had been doing which eventually led to this sight. Then I told my wife that what we had been doing appears to be called soft swinging. After about a year of more research and discussion we went to an on premise club and dove right in.

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We have friends who are swingers, we havn't swapped with them, but Tazzie has had a couple threesomes with them in the past, and they told us about them being swingers and we wanted to give it a try.

 

Have to say for the most part it has been a very enjoyable expiriences. We have had our bad expiriences also.

 

:8-0:::bj::fun:

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I started voicing my fantasy to explore my bi-curious side. We talked about it and I decided that I'd be more comfortable with a couple rather than a single female (just in case I didn't like it-at least we'd all have a partner). After about 4 months of talking about it I started doing some research on sites and we joined one to start meeting people. So far it's been great!

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I went with the choice of exploring fantasies and then conversation came up....but to tell you the truth....it really got the ball rolling when my Mom insinuated that a friend of mine and her boyfriend were swingers.....LMAO! She still makes jokes to this day about me "having boyfriends" :hahaha: From there, hubby and I talked about that, and went with fantasies more and more and then found this site and researched everything we could think of....it's been fairly enjoyable since!

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Oddly enough, it goes back to my early teen years. I lived with my grandparents at the time and my uncle stayed there some of the time while he was in college. He evidently was involved in the lifestyle as I had found his swinger magazines and some letters that he had received from a couple he had met via the magazine and had apparently engaged in a threesome with. From that point on, my mind wandered to threesomes and group sex as the source of my fantasies. When Mrs F and I married I was seventeen (she was 15) and after two children and 4 years of marriage, I finally talked her into trying our first threeway... it was fantastic. I enjoyed it thoroughly as did she, from that point on we have had infrequent encounters with friends over the past 30 years. Now we've discovered swingers on the internet... my my what a source of entertainment and possiblities.

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We had pillow-talked about "what-if" scenarios with other men and women, but never actively sought to live it out. Then we went to a Mardi Gras party where things were pretty wild - not swinger wild, but there were allot of swingers there. A woman there asked if she could kiss my wife, they did (the first time my wife had even thought about a woman), and we ended-up getting to know them outside the party. A side of us that was there and we were never able to live was realized.

 

A couple of weeks later for my wife's birthday we went to a casino with this couple, got the suite with a huge hot tub, gambled, drank, and then my wife got what she wanted for her birthday present... them (and in particular her)! The rest is history.

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We got our start because of our friends/neighbors. We were hosting a block party and our friends showed up with another couple who we had never met. As in intro they said, "this is so and so and they are our couple". Well, Bear and I had no idea what they were talking about. We had to ask several times what they ment. After several long talks with our friends and doing online research (this board was a lot of help), we decided that swinging was something we would like to try. Every once and a while I thank our friends for opening our eyes, we are having a great time!

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I had to answer other because we got involved when I (Mrs. Fun) stepped out a couple of times on my husband to experiment with the bi-lifestyle. I then brought him into it, and we have been swinging ever since!

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We started after hubby 'stepped out' to explore his sexual fantasies without me! :eek: I asked him what about we both explore our fantasies and the rest as they say is history. ;)

 

It's been 8 mos now since we started and things are going great.

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Hubby and I were in bed one evening talking about our dreams and such. I told him I had dreamed of being with a woman, it took off from there. We did nothing but talk for several years though.

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Well, I am a single male, so my response may not be exactly normal. I count my first swinging experience as my first group sex experience with an ex girlfriend and another couple.

 

I think it started with alcohol, running around naked, someone squirting chocolate syrup on the others and a need to shower to get it off. The shower was pretty big, and well.....

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We had talked about her being with another woman for several years. Least be known to me how serious she was about it until one evening we were watching a porn and a girl/girl scene came on. She became extremely aroused and I asked her what that was all about. She said watching woman excited her greatly to which we began to discuss her fantasies, and mine. The rest they say is history. Nearly three years later we are having fun and not looking back.

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j was involved in fmf with her x. it proved to be a disaster for her (all his way and later a affair with the other lady) we were discussing fantasies when she told me about it (turn on for me) we talked about it and i wanted her to have a pleasant experience with me if she agreed to another try. she did. we found sls met a few couples and were about to loose our cherries when her breast cancer mestasised back to bone. everything went on hold then (2003) and still is. one day we are hoping it will go into remission. then we can go exploring our senior wild side. thanks d & j

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Well, I've been with girls since the ripe young age of 14. When hubby and I got married, I sort of blind-sided him with a female friend of mine for a wedding gift (the night after the wedding) that was his first threesome....and the rest well...it's been a fun 3 years. :D:fun::8-0::

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Blame it on Hedo. The missus and I had always been "huggy kissy" kind of people with our friends, but nowhere near any kind of swinging. We decided to let our hair down and go to Hedo back in 1996. Read up on the place and knew we'd run into some swingers down there. No big deal to us, so we went. Met a few of them, realized really quick that they were totally normal people just like us, and the ball got rolling from there.

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I saw this as a reply to another thread, and thought it'd make a great new thread.

LikeMinds321 said:
... How did you get interested in swinging?

 

Tell us more about yourself.

 

The first time I went to NYC, I went as a prize that I had won. I was supposed to fly in with lots of other good girl winners, but alas, I missed my flight. We were all going to be on the same flight and were supposed to share a taxi to the hotel, but since I was alone, I showed up a few hours latter than they did, and about $60 dollars lighter by the time I got to the hotel.

 

When I got to the hotel, I was shocked to see how long the line was for the front desk. Having worked in hotels as a front desk clerk and knowing a thing or two about group check in procedures, I thought I might try to use the white house phone to call the operator and ask for a security guard to meet me in the lobby.

 

A few minutes later, a sexy, hazel eyed, muscular guy walks up to me and says, "Are you ____?" I said yes, he checked my ID, and we got on the next elevator.

 

He was hot, and as we made our way to the room number he had indicated was our destination, I looked out of the corner of my eyes and noticed that he was looking at me out of the corner of his eyes.

 

When we got to the room I was staying in, he said, "Enjoy your stay in New York City!"

 

I said, "Can I ask you a question?" He nodded his head yes, while he kept his foot in the door. I said, "Close the door."

 

He said, "We aren't allowed to be in the guest's rooms with the door closed."

 

I said, "But I want to ask you a question." After he let the door close, I asked him, "What would you want to see if this was your first visit from the Mid-West to the Big Apple?"

 

I was thinking that he would recommend a few velvet rope type dance clubs, that would make a mid-western girl blush.

 

He told me that he could recommend a few places. Later that night, after my roommate went to sleep, we met at the agreed upon time, in the hotel lobby near the hotel bar, listening to some really bad karaoke filtering on the air to where we sat, and we talked. It was late at night, but 20 minutes later, we went across the street to an all night pizza place for his break. All the while talking and making meaningful eye contact. We arranged to meet the next night after all the goody-goody roommates of mine went to bed. We stayed up talking most of that night, and I crept into my room, alone, just before dawn, but not after making plans to meet up again the next night.

 

The next night, after everyone was asleep, l dressed in what I thought was a hip outfit to get into any club that he might take me to, we met down the street from the hotel, back at the same pizza place. But we didn't go in, instead we walked to his car and started to drive. A few minutes later, we parked and went in to a club called La Trapeze.

 

Minutes later, we parted ways to enter their locker rooms to change into some very short towels. After locking up my clothes, I met him on the other side to take a tour of the club.

 

In the basement of this magnificent club, they had a large pool, a wet sauna and also a dry sauna. We stopped in the wet sauna, and his hands rubbed my neck, shoulders and back. After his hands got to me, and the steam got to us, we made our way upstairs for the rest of the tour.

 

The first floor was even more grand than the richly appointed basement. The 1st fl offered a very large, ceramic tiled hot tub with a large tiled 'deck' and many potted plants. A BYOB bar, a restaurant where you could order light food like sandwiches and appetizers, and a room with wall to wall mattresses and the walls were covered in mirrors, and also featured the locker rooms of course.

 

In a corner of the mattress room was a spiral staircase, leading to the 2nd floor. Which featured many open door rooms with equipment that I would be hard pressed to describe, even to this day, and a loft that over looked the mattress room with the mirrors.

 

In the bar area a couple was celebrating their marriage, and had a case of champagne which they offered to those in the bar area. After a couple of drinks, we made our way back towards the mattress room, selecting a mattress in the far corner near the spiral staircase. Eyes closed, we were kissing deeply, hands exploring each other's bodies. When I felt what I was sure were another, softer pair of hands on my thighs, working up towards my more sensitive skin. I peeked open my eyes to look in the mirror, and I saw that another woman was touching me. I sighed, closed my eyes again and gave myself over to the sensations coursing though my body.

 

A short time later, feeling yet more hands on me, I looked once more into the mirrors and saw that the entire staircase was lined with people looking on, as was the loft over looking the room, and the doorway was crowded with people looking in on the scene also. I felt as if I was in the best porno I had ever seen, come to life, with me as the star.

 

I could feel waves of pleasure washing over and over me as my orgasm drew near. Finally, I was really close. And peeking open my eyes again, looking at all those that were watching the action, I felt the throbbing deep inside, the strong waves coming closer and closer together, until finally I exploded. It was glorious.

 

Afterwards, he and I made our way to the tile lined hot tub and soaked up the steam, while in each other's arms. Eventually we made our way back to my hotel, but instead of going back up to my room, we were naughty and snuck into a room that was out of order and under going repairs. We spooned, and spoke of other things that I wanted to do during my short stay in NYC.

 

He was off the next day, so we planned to go to the Empire State Building. At the top, looking out over my now favorite city, we took in the view. I was only scheduled to stay for three days, but I postponed my trip back home another day. He took me to the town where he lived, Yonkers, and we saw a movie, The Birdcage. Afterwards, we went back to his place and had sex for hours. It was great. He gave me his address and phone number, but I never saw him again.

 

When I got back home to the Midwest, I met my regular lover for coffee, and told him of my adventures. He was so excited, that we began to swing with other couples. And since we have moved on from seeing each other, I have continued in my sexual adventures with my current partner. It has been almost ten years, but I have never forgotten my security guard/tour guide of the steamier side of Manhattan.

 

 

Please share your story, about what got you stared in the lifestyle. And if you are the man in my story, you'd know who you are by reading my story, please send me a private message. We have much to catch up on, and many stories to share.

 

:kissface:

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About 6 years ago, I was seeing a guy who was in the lifestyle, though he didn't really call it so, he just had an "open" marriage.

 

Well, this was after my divorce, I was approaching 40 and feeling like I needed to do every wild thing I could think of! After seeing each other for a few weeks, I found out his wife was bi. Prior to this I had always thought that was not of any interest, even "gross" to me. However, now I was intrigued with something that was different.

 

So...I wound up talking to her one night, and went ahead and made a date with her. I was really scared, but also very curious. He found out about it after we planned our date, but we agreed he'd meet us after dinner. She and I went out for dinner and drinks and spent several hours getting to know each other. Afterward, we wound up back at my place, with him, and had a great night.

 

After that, I maintained a relationship with them for nearly a year. We experimented a bit with another guy a few times as a foursome, but I was mostly with them. We all became good friends.

 

Then, I was contacted through an online dating ad, that hinted at nothing about my alternative lifestyle, by a man who had been into this lifestyle for over 25 years! We met, our relationship grew quickly and because of this, ended the sexual aspect of my other relationship, but remained friends with this couple.

 

We were married approximately 7 months later and have remained in the lifestyle, but now we are the couple and have had several FFM liasons. We go to clubs (which I had never done before) and travel and enjoy being around many others like ourselves. After 5 years of marriage, we are moving forward in the lifestyle slowly, like a couple starting over from scratch so that we both experience every step along the way together.

 

btw...my previous feelings of ambivalence about bisexuality were all wrong. In fact, most times my husband says I'm more bi than I am hetero! Talk about being in denial! :lol:

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My wife and I were married for about seven years at the time that we got into swinging and we dated for five years before we married. Things were getting a bit stale in the sexual side of our relationship. I'd heard about swinging and I brought it up to her to get her opinion of the idea, I told her that we didn't have to do this but that I thought that she'd really like it once we got comfortable in the lifestyle.

 

To start things out I thought that it would be a good idea to get her some new cock. I wasn't in a hurry, but interested in finding more partners. I found out that my best friend from high school had a real interest in fucking her. He'd never said anything to me about it until I talked to him about this lifestyle and that we'd like to try it out with him, and that way if we didn't like it would could just forget about it after one time. He was agreeable, not to mention horny, so he and I set some surprises up for her and were ready when she got home from work. My friend was standing in the shower in his birthday best and the wife came in and as usual needed to go to the bathroom right away.

 

After finishing her nature call she heard a real soft moan. She opened the curtain and was delighted to see the ten inch hard cock that was ready for her pleasure. I was amazed at just how fast she stripped and got ready to accommodate that joystick. This was the first time that I'd had a "press box view" of my wife having sex and I was so turned on by it that I thought that my cock would poke through my pants. She enjoyed two hard cocks that nite and a lot of tongue and from there we never looked or turned back. Our relationship improved dramatically, didn't take long for us to find others, and the house parties on Saturday night, etc.

 

Now the only thing that we found missing in swinging was close bonds of friendship. The sex of course was fantastic but after a while we wanted more then that so we decided to look into a lifestyle that was more then swinging and had the potential for long close bonding friendships and we found that the term for this is polyamory. Well that's the lifestyle that we decided that we wanted to experience for the rest of our lives. We still have our swinging friends but now we also have sexual relationships that turn into close personal friendships that last forever.

 

Been in the poly lifestyle for about seven years now and loving every minute of it. We hope that all here can find the satisfaction that all look for regardless of what that is.

 

peace

 

Michael

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I answered this one under the "how much time did it take" poll, because our case doesn't fit to the provided answers.

 

The link is https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/10873-how-much-time-elapsed-between-when-you-began-discussing-swinging-and-did-it/?do=findComment&comment=191297

 

Anyway, that's the first part of the story (so, read on and come back!). Once we agreed about giving it a try, we went to a couple of clubs (*) where we felt ignored by the people. At one of these clubs (two days after we agreed to give it a try), and since we knew we had our exhibitionistic side, we went to a place with couches and started making out there... well, we went very oral, and when my fingers were busy playing between bulebu's (my wife) legs, she whispered to me "hey sereneiders... you don't have three hands, do you?" :eek:. I turned around and this guy was standing behind my back, caressing bulebu's thighs with... my supposed third hand. We freaked out! These people ignored us all nite long, no one said a word, and suddenly this guy was touching her!

 

Well, later on we knew the day we went to the club was open to people alone to make threesomes, and the place we choose to make out was one devised for people who want others to just jump into the game, so it was our fault (btw, by now we go to this club every Saturday :) ). Anyway, I just said no with my (wet) finger and the guy respectfully bowed as an apology and leave us alone.

 

The explanation of what happened was given to us in a chat room. They told us lifestylers in the club trends to avoid relate with newcomers because they're tired of people going there as if it were a zoo where to take a look of these "freak people", so you have to go there several times and let them watch the way you move around before approaching you, but that would be easier if you go there along with known people, and in fact that was what happened the next time, and everything changed for good.

 

We start going to this club and keep chatting in local sites, knowing people who took care of us. We were impressed of how respectful they were, moreover because even when they admitted they want something to happen with us, they were aseptic in their advices, telling us to find out our peace to approach the lifestyle, and to talk everything, to express every doubt and fear we may have, and to have no reservations to say "no". And so we did.

 

4 months after that, after going to the club, meeting the people we liked to hang with in the chat, in bars, going out to dinner, you know... just social activities, one night ended up with a fivesome (two couples and a single woman we used to hang with), and it was great experience.

 

Moreover, we started meeting this single woman in regular basis, and finally she turned into our girlfriend :), in a relation which exceeded the sex and turned into pure love. She almost lived with us, sleeping almost every night in our bed, shopping and hanging with bulebu, we even went to vacations together. We gave us the chance of being alone in bed with our gf sometimes, the three of us used to go to the club, and had parties involving other people acting as if the three of us were a couple, or a single entity.

 

The sexual side of this relation slowly faded out and lasted after 6 months, but the love remained. She still use to hang and go shopping with bulebu (they use to bought very funny lingerie), we still dinner together 3 or 4 times a week, and the three of us still love and care of each other. As a matter of fact, she's preparing the dinner in our kitchen right now, while I am writing this.

 

One use to think of love as something that must happen exclusively between a couple partners, it's a cultural thing, but we found out that isn't necessarily true.

 

As for the sex, bulebu and I still go to the club and have our sexual affairs, but that is the common place in here, am i wrong?

 

So, we have a nice start up, a GREAT one, and it doesn't matter how long we'll be in the lifestyle, or the paths we'll walk in our future, what already happened is something to treasure for the rest of our life.

 

(*) note: I don't know if clubs mean the same everywhere, here (at Buenos Aires) these are a mix of a disco and a motel or pubs and motel: they have a bar, a dance floor, and cubicles where to party. They use to have stripper shows, things may turn too wild in the dance floor -i even saw a gangbang there -, in some there are high class hookers, even the go with supposed partners, but always people behave way more respectfully than in any other disco or pub I visited before. May be I should start a thread on the subject, but honestly I still didn't read enough threads as to know if this was already discussed.

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She got tired of hearing me fantasize about it when we were making love, so one day she told me to "either do something about it or shut up!"

 

I did something about it! :-)

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It started in collage, age 21. A hot women (35) I worked needed a ride home. She gave me a Great BJ as a thank you. A few days lated she asked me for another ride and yes I did but this time she got naked in the car and I got to F* her on my car. She asked me over for lunch and she was naked by the backyard pool and yes we fucked all over the pool area. her Hubby came out of the house and I almost passed out. He said Don't worry it's cool. and the rest of the afternoon we made her day. I then became a 3rd for them and I met lots of people and fell in love with this life.

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It was back in the 70's. My wife and I had a great sex life together that included her doing an elaberate strip tease. This included some very exotic costumes, the type of the old burlesque days. My best friend was seperated from his wife and was over for dinner occassionaly. We would talk about my wifes strip tease and eventually she did one for the both of us. It was very hot for all of us. This went on for a couple of times until one evening my wife and I agrreed that it would go farther. Nothing was said previously to my friend, but he knew something would hapen also. My wife and I divorced many years later. I have been involved with swinging, off and on, depending on my relationships, ever since.

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We actually got started because of some new friends that we had met who we didn't know at the time were swingers. We later found out that they had met with us specifically for that which was a suprise to us. It was a good way for us to get intoduced into the idea wich peeked our interests even though we didn't perue them physically. That may have lead to our lack of communication in a long while but I'll give them credit for opening the door for us.

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Actually we got talking about it after looking at a documentary (obviously about something along the lines of swinging but I can't for the life of me remember what about exactly). As she is a very decent girl, I had always assumed, even mentioning that I was interested in swinging would end the relationship. But to my great surprise she wasn't a 100% against the idea. So I went looking for another couple secretly (while she was abroad for a few months). When I was in touch with a couple, I told her what I had done. Fortunately she wasn't angry that I had done it secretly, but she was disappointed because she would have liked to be involved in looking for a couple. Nowadays I still do the looking around and just keep her up-to-date about what I'm finding. Because we know eachother very well, I know what sort of couple she will or won't like. In a way I'm still more interested in the whole thing than she is, but I guess that one of the two in a couple is bound to be a bit more interested than the other. Any opinions about this?

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My wife introuduced me to MFF with several of her girlfriends shortly after we were married. Suprising since all females were straight... We eventually met a few couples and ended up in a long term poly relationship with one of the couples. After the children got a little older we quit until recently when they all left the nest. We have picked up again where we left off some 12 years ago and having a great time..lol

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My wife and I got our start before we were even dating. We were in college, I'd been interested in her for a while and she and her boyfriend had recently broken up. I invited her to come see my band play and was pretty bummed when she walked into the club with her supposedly ex-boyfriend. After our set, the three of us sat at the bar together and I flirted with her while he looked on, apparently cluelessly.

 

I invited "them" back to the guitarist's apartment, where the band had decided to hang out for a while. She rode with me and we kept flirting but didn't talk about her ex-, who managed to successfully follow us, though I'd hoped he'd get lost. Our flirting turned more physical as we all sat on the couch, much to the amusement of my bandmates, who accused us of being on ecstasy. After a while, the ex- completely surprised me by inviting me back to his place to watch a movie with them.

 

She rode with him and, since I was apparently completely clueless, I spent the whole drive figuing he'd try to lose me and the next hour and a half trying to figure out how to get naked with her without him finally clueing in. And watching Blue Steel on HBO. Finally, she jumped up from the living room floor, claiming she was cold, and retreived a blanket from the bedroom.

 

Under cover of the, uh, covers, I made more deliberate moves, stroking her breast and sliding my hand higher and higher up her thigh. Then it finally hit me - "hey, he's doing the same thing I am... and he knows I'm doing it, too!" Soon we were naked and no longer under the blanket. Turns out they were indeed breaking up but had long fantasized about an MMF 3some. They could have saved a hell of a lot of time by simply asking at the bar if I was interested but neither could get up the nerve.

 

Swinging has remained a permanent but relatively infrequent part of our relationship ever since. That's 15 years, for those of you scoring at home.

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A married friend of mine asked me to play with he and his wife. That was about 5 years ago...

 

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We had just celebrated new years eve....we went back to a friends house, and after determining we had no swim suits and a bottle of champagne, stuff happened. Before we knew it my wife was sucking her friend's nipples and stoking her husband's cock, while her friend was stroking me. Was a wild evening.

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It was nudist camping for us....Who would have thought people might just have SEX if everyone is naked?????

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We were at a bar one night and this other woman started hitting on me. At first my girlfriend was kind of mad. Then just jokingly I told her she could watch.

 

Her response?? "Promise?"

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