Metrosexuality in the Lifestyle

[Mephisto]

MetroSexual is a term that just makes me cringe.

Lets call a spade a spade. Metrosexual Mean are:

androgynous

adj : having both male and female characteristics

I am am Man's man. there is no mistaking that if you knew me., I stand straight and Tall. I also take great pride in my appearance wearing clothes that fit and are taylored, in fact my Boss refers to me as the "Dapper Mr. Mephisto".

I have in fact been mistaken for gay, I assume because i speak "properly" with out slurring or using Slang.

Metrosexual, is just another trendy word or phrase like "growing a company or thinking outside the box"

Call A spade a spade.

[Spoomonkey]

I am totally confused...

Are you a "there's no mistaking it" man's man - or are you one who is at times mistaken for being gay?

I think what this thread is really talking about is the difference between the men who give their wives flowers in an empty Miller High Life bottle and those who realize that there is a line of men's skin care products by Nivea.

I am not sure that androgeny really has anything at all to do with the term. I think the way you described yourself is what the term is referring to in it's intended sense.

Spoomonkey

[curiousagain]

Once upon a time, you could be a "man's man" and dress nice and tidy and have manners and smell good and you were called a dandy. It was sometimes used as a derogatory term by other men.

But, I have never seen a woman repelled by someone who always tried to look nice, smell nice, and act nice.

Labels can be restrictive and misleading. I can skin a buck and I can run a trotline. I have also been told I can decorate a house and match clothes well. Is there a problem with being multi talented??

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Once upon a time, you could be a "man's man" and dress nice and tidy and have manners and smell good and you were called a dandy. It was sometimes used as a derogatory term by other men.

My father was always referred to as a 'dandy' by his old cronies. Wow, I didn't think anyone under 70 years-old knew that term!

He took great pride in wearing custom-made suits, silk ties and beautiful jewlery & watches. He was always immaculate, and I think he owned every cologne there was, and he owned more shoes than all of his daughter's shoes put together. He trimmed his nose hairs, ear hairs and eyebrows. He regularly got manicures... clear coat, of course.

He was definitely straight. He LOVED women, and women LOVED my father.

My father loved clasical music, beautiful art and appreciated the finer things in life.

I think metrosexuality has been around a long, long time.

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by frenzb4sex

I will often accompany my wife on shopping for my clothes and even have say in what we buy,

That is a good line! Don't let that slip to the other husbands, or anarchy will ensue!

To tell you the truth, there are just some things that Mr. Indy wouldn't do... Like hair gel, or tanning beds. But all in all, I think that it can be said that I have noticed many men making a change, after the join the lifestyle.

I wonder how much human nature plays a part in it? Once you become an outwardly sexual person, Shouldn't you display yourself in the best light?

I watched a show on DIS about animals with many mates. These animals will take on many partners throughout their lives. These animals spent 30% of their time seaching and hunting for food, 30% of their time mating, and 40% of their time grooming themselves to be attractive to others.

I think in a nutsheel we are the same, and it is just human nature to be as appealing as we possibly can be. I think it is a perfect example of Darwin in Action (Survival of the fitest)

[SnozzberryBlu]

I love this thread!

My hubby might be considered one of these metros... now he doesn't like girly movies, but dare I get groceries without him and I am in trouble! He cooks, he cleans, he has perfect toilet bowl aim, and ooooo I love his cologne! He can talk football AND cake decorating nearly at the same time! Multitasking? He is everywhere! And the boy takes longer to get dressed than I do, not to mention talks up a storm. I swear, had I not met a guy like him I would have just been a bisexual in a lesbian world.

Seriously, tho... As much as I absolutely HATE fads, and labels imposed by others (I like being a swinger, I think I imposed that on me I do like the trend I am seeing here. Men today are not like my father ... or grandfather... Scientists say men's brains do not use both sides at the same time, whereas women do (hence women multitask) and that men are primarily left brained (logical, practical, etc) yet I also know that people's brains which are damaged cross over to the other side to compensate for the loss.. male and female alike. So.... I am beginning to think that this "men are trapped with half a brain" is not set in concrete, but more a education, or lack thereof... and that is something that I see is changing.

As swinging has (in my opinion) become more an activity couples agree to enter equally, and as that means women must be pleased as well as men, perhaps male swingers are simply "getting there" faster than their vanilla couterparts. Women don't just sit there anymore... and if you don't use the head on your shoulders more than the one between your legs for sex, women won't come back. There is a real incentive here for guys to learn and be more of perhaps who they were really designed to be in the first place (before religion and society changed all that).

Again, I hate fads.. yet I am all for embracing anything that will bring people into their full potential. Not only are the past generations of men (generally speaking) lacking in appearance, hygeine, sexual talent, and color coordination, but time and again to me they simply look miserable and confused. My father's and grandfather's generations seem to only understand very basic emotions in themselves.. they are reactive, not proactive.. and anything wrong in their lives comes from the outside, never from within. Though today's men are still not big on crying during "Ladder 49", hey that movie WAS a man's movie... made by men, with a ton of depth and emotion! Ahhh... wonderful! I think any man alive today, whatever age they are, now has the tools available to him to expand himself, become a new renaissance man of sorts... and better himself in all directions.

Women have now found the inner power to stand up for themselves, to ask for what they want and say no to what they don't want.. men are learning it is ok to feel, and look inside themselves for answers... that combination together means that our children have a better foundation from the get-go... and that can be nothing but great for all of us all around..

So back to the joke a few posts ago... today you guys may be metrosexuals.. but I hope this "trend" grows in depth and understanding... so our kids really could be "Geo Sexuals.." Ah, what a wonderful world!


<<< ok off my soapbox before I inflate my BA to a PhD!!!!

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

I think in a nutsheel we are the same, and it is just human nature to be as appealing as we possibly can be. I think it is a perfect example of Darwin in Action (Survival of the fitest)

I think you're absolutely right.

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

My father was always referred to as a 'dandy' by his old cronies. Wow, I didn't think anyone under 70 years-old knew that term!

He took great pride in wearing custom-made suits, silk ties and beautiful jewlery & watches. He was always immaculate, and I think he owned every cologne there was, and he owned more shoes than all of his daughter's shoes put together. He trimmed his nose hairs, ear hairs and eyebrows. He regularly got manicures... clear coat, of course.

He was definitely straight. He LOVED women, and women LOVED my father.

My father loved clasical music, beautiful art and appreciated the finer things in life.

I think metrosexuality has been around a long, long time.

My Father was the same and yes, women of all ages were attracted to him on sight, it was amazing to watch.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by NightGoddess

I'd have to agree it is refreshing to know a man (finally) who takes care of his hair, skin, muscles....all of his body with the same care women have done for years. In the past it seemed most men would ignore their feet, pores, hair follicles, ears, etc. and consider gross behavior 'normal'. Okay....I'm referring to passing gas in mixed company....something my ex thought was a hilarious, thigh-slapping joke. I was mortified.

Mr LM passes gas and I still think it's hilarious after thirty years.

But he never entertains me with his 'music' in public. Or if he absolutely has to, he's quiet about it and casts an accusatory look at the stranger next to him.

I have to admit to pointing out his outlaw nose and ear hairs for many years, but becoming a swinger has changed all that. He now does his own plucking.

I love a man who is well groomed and clean. But I also know the difference between a clean guy who'll allow himself to get dirty and a neatnick who doesn't know how to let loose and have fun.

I never like being around men who would rather look at themselves in the mirror than look at me. That would be waaay too metrosexual.

LM

[Alternatives]

I wish I had found this thread earlier in its life because now I feel like my comment is a little late but . . .

It just cracks me up when guys refer to themselves as "very" straight.

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I love a man who is well groomed and clean. But I also know the difference between a clean guy who'll allow himself to get dirty and a neatnick who doesn't know how to let loose and have fun. LM

Great statement! That sums it up for me too. There is just something about a man that can clean up but not be into himself.