larger people

[bmw_grrl]

Hi - my and my fiancee are very interested in swinging and we've experimented with friends and enjoyed it, but I'm a larger young woman (300 lbs), and I'm very self consious about it. Aside from a few places I see in the media, they make swinger clubs out to be like everyone there is beautiful. Is this true? If we were to go would I get ignored? Anyone from CT to vouch for that?

[WA_Cple]

Welcome to the board People here are very friendly and helpful - I've really enjoyed the time that I spend here!

I do not have any experience in swinging yet - hubby and I are in the works with making it happen. I did go to one club when we were on holiday in Australia - and the guy at the front door handed me a towel and said I could leave my clothes in the locker! I was shocked... I mean... hmmm... I'm a big girl too and the thought of being in a towel was just way too intimidating.

I will be interested in what folks have to say about this subject - I don't think my size will prevent me from going to a club - I just hope my size doesn't prevent me from having fun - I want to do more then just watch other people having sex.

My hubby finds me desirable and sexy... but I have to wonder if anyone else will!

Best of luck and look forward to getting to know you!

Mwa!

[roggiesgirl]

Same here as you guys have said. I am a large woman as well. My hubby and I are also new. I am having gastric bypass in June and I am thinking I will wait to approach the swinging world until I am more fit. But that is only because I want to be more confident in the way that I look and I will feel better about myself as well. GO BBW!!!!

[MrsBliss]

Welcome

Hi! Ik think it is just very personal. I personally think that big women can be attractive, but I do not very much like larger men.

However attraction is not only physical for me, so I am not sure. I would say just go to a club and see what happens!

We have only been to one club but there were people of all shapes and sizes.

The best advice I can give to give you an idea what kind of people you will find in swingers clubs is go to personal ads. Most will have at least one or two pics posted.

You will find in the personals that there are folks from the whole spectrum and we found the same thing to be true at the club.

[a_couple_in_pa]

Swingers are not porn stars or models. They are the same people at the grocery store, mall, and the PTA. You will not find more beautiful people there than elsewhere in the world. In fact there may be less beautiful people there since the "beautiful" type people tend to be snobby.

[BettyAnnMBSC]

Well, I'm a BBW (245#) and have had no problems finding interested playmates. And I do mean "no problem" -- I get more invitations than several of my "fit" friends.

Hubby relates the following for your reading enjoyment:

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"The size or appearance of a woman is only really important for a couple minutes when you first meet. After that initial moment of first impression, everything becomes about personality and attitude.

You might look like Barbie but if you're a stuck up b*tch then I don't have enough time in my day to spend with you (also applies to BBWs with an attitude). And if I hear one more 102 pound woman say "I'm so fat" I'm gonna scream!

There are some real advantages to having a big girl as a playmate. Not the least of which is that I've often found them to be very passionate and caring women. I've also found that BBWs are often able to carry on a conversation about something other than the latest diet fad.

Now, what is a challenge is the BBW who has no confidence in her own beauty and sexual appeal. Sure, there are some guys out there that only want super-models in their bed. They're most often alone in bed.

Remember always -- "God didn't make no ugly women"

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[meowkittyhascla]

Remember always -- "God didn't make no ugly women"
Isn't that the truth? I am a bbw and I have no problems getting playmates. I find that being honest, real, and just having a "killer" smile is all that is needed to start a conversation. In my experience men like a little softness to lay upon or snuggle up to. Good Luck in finding playmates and have fun!

[sepacouple]

At the club we have gone to a few times (Club Kama Sutra in Philadelphia, PA) there are all shapes and sizes and, as I think someone else said, normal, everyday people.

At lot does have to do with attitude and personality. You are allowed to have fun no matter what size, shape, color, or age you are.

[b_and_sc]

We've never been to a club, but we did go to Hedo last year and there were people of ALL sizes having fun of all kinds. If you have a good personality, then just relax and have fun. If someone isn't interested in you, it's THEIR loss, right?? Do you have a profile on any swinger sites?? It's kind of the same thing, people are in to different things...we go months at a time without ANY interested people, and then we might get several all at once too, so don't get too frustraited if nothing happens right away

b

[WA_Cple]

The BBW Mrs here

Thanks to everyone who has posted - I have to tell you that you have alleviated a lot of my fears. I know that it is really important to be confident and outgoing - and I really understand what BettyAnn's hubby is saying about that.

I am excited to go to my first club and will share the experience when we return.

I guess my big fear was that I would walk in the door and everyone would stare and think, "What is SHE doing here?!?"
I now realize that it is my own insecurity and that I need to approach it with a totally different attitude.

I'm glad we could help you be at ease a little more.

Good luck and enjoy.

[SexhoundDog]

To all you BBW's,
Absolutely have confidence in yourself and be outgoing! A pretty smile and confident attitude go a much longer way than an "I'm prissy and my shit don't stink attitude."
Let me think. Camryn Mannheim, Queen Latifah, Oprah (when she was heavier, Becker's main assistant on the TV sitcom (not the dingaling). Hmmmm, I think all of them could sit on my face . . . and even make themselves heavy!
Any of you dirty boys out there got any other heavy hotties you'd toss into the mix?

[GirlieZ]

I have been pleasingly plump all my life. My husband loves me for who I am and considers my personality and my zest for life a turn on. You gotta love yourself...be happy in your skin no matter what size it is. People will see the "real" you.



Zgirl

[midnightpassion]

hey my wife is a little plump and to tell you the truth. i have yet, to see someone that is skin and bones. keep up with my wife or i.