HWP

Cnj2004 · 02-29-2004, 04:13 AM

When reading adds of swingers what does HWP mean?

Thanks!

kpennink · 02-29-2004, 06:16 AM

Most commonly: height/weight proportional, presumably to one another. SB has a great dictionery; check it out.

Cnj2004 · 02-29-2004, 06:31 AM

Thank you!~

SluttyWife · 02-29-2004, 10:17 PM

Height weight proportionate....A good gauge for that is not being wider than you are tall, I think.

Slutty Wife

Weezie · 03-01-2004, 06:56 AM

We don't find this to be a very good gauge. Everyone's view of HWP is different it seems. We get exact height and weight (if they aren't lying) and ask for pictures and then decide.

kpennink · 03-01-2004, 08:00 AM

Echoing what Weezie said, take what's said in an ad/e-mail with a liberal grain of salt. If you'd like a somewhat more cynical view of personal ad "code words," take a look here and here.

***JustAskJulie*** · 03-01-2004, 11:28 AM

There are a lot of views on this and it's something that's come up on here many times. You might want to do a search here for "HWP" and read through the topics that come up.

**LikeMinds321** · 03-15-2004, 12:44 PM

I'll probably get some hate mail for writing this.

I will comment on HWP because of my experiece thus far with using the words "height-weight-proportionate" on the swinger sites we use to describe what we are looking for in couples.

It was, we felt, the diplomatic way to let people know that how others look physically--in regards to weight--does play a role in how WE are sexually attracted TO someone.

Yet, with HWP mentioned, we still kept receiving introductions from people who were considerably overweight and not well-proportioned or physically a turn-on for us. So I agree with Weezie, it doesn't do much good to use the term.

We have recently made a rewrite that says: "We are not attracted to overweight people." We'll see what happens.

Before everyone bombards me with

let me add that this is a prerequisite made soley on our sexual preferences (not friendship requirements). I would imagine some of you seek out playmates that have certain physical attributes as well.

Mrs. LM

artboy · 03-15-2004, 01:54 PM

I thought this was the lifestyle for each and everyone. WE dont like large overweight folks either, or many other things some folks may list in there "profiles". We dont like a lot of hair, or hairy areas...but that our preference and we tailor our searches to those folks in that criteria.....

We have been blatently lied to, and told things recently that were just not true. HWP to us "is what WE (Stacie and I find Height weight prop.) Not everyone is going to be or expected to be attracted to each persons they meet. HEll..Im 6'4" and 230 lbs, my wife is 5'0" and right at 100 lbs, we are not HWP to each other

, but we know what WE like.

We also look like Mutt and Jeff...hahahah

But again this is OUR preference...and those folks that dont fit into our choice of playmates, well...those are the ones we dont share with. HWP has many meaning to us..but for us physical attraction to US is what we are looking for!

**Alura** · 03-15-2004, 02:12 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by artboy

We also look like Mutt and Jeff...hahahah

We do, too. But in the opposite way.

Mr. Alura

yawanna · 03-15-2004, 03:39 PM

There is the common knowledge that it isn't the easiest thing in the world to find 2, let alone 4, socially and/or sexually compatible people.

I don't understand your not just putting an ad up and seeing who responds. You will have to send off many 'thanks but no thanks' emails anyway....

I understand the thinking that if you are very specific you will get better responses. The danger therein I believe lies in an ad coming across as shallow or pompous, as in we only want hard bodies. Raises the expectation level on the part of responders as well, as in you darn well better be Jessica and Nick at least.

Now, if you are prepared to get only a few responses to your ad, more power to you.

If, however, you are looking to get connected in this lifestyle and expand your exponential circle, then it may serve you better to leave most doors open, and decline politely and respectfully when you have no interest in a certain couple. Which may not always have anything to do with HWP. Could be their deficiencies in spelling or grammar, too. Or, they smoke. Or........

Personally.. I'm no fan of dirty talk or the C word. Is weight really as much a deal breaker for you as crass talk is for me? Because if you are hoping to get connected in the community, you kinda have to be kind and respectful to most people when they are the same to you, to be able to move on and meet more people.

Just my 8 cents.

**LikeMinds321** · 03-15-2004, 05:17 PM

Thank you for your input.

I'd like to respond to some of your comments.

We do have two ads. I think it takes not only time but alot of guts to send an introduction and wait to see if you will be rejected. I always try to be kind and respectful when returning a "thanks but no thanks" reply.

I do not want to come across shallow or pompous in my ads...I truly worry about this. Yet, I feel it is best to let people know from the start what we expect. And wanting people who are not overweight is just one of the criterion we use. We have many.

Yes, I'm a particular person, but this is true in all aspects of my life.

You said, "Is weight really as much of a deal breaker for you as crass talk is for me?" If you're serious, yes it may be. I use "cock" and "cunt" (I presume these are the C words you speak of) when I am comfortable with someone and feeling cocky...ooops!...sorry Yawanna.

I learn something each day. Who knows what my perspective will be next week.

Mrs. LM

fun_pairTX · 03-15-2004, 05:27 PM

Whenever I see really exacting "qualifications" listed in an ad or as a profile for prospective playmates, I immediately dissmiss the writer(s), but I am sorely tempted to respond asking "How much does the job pay?"

Mr. Fun

**LikeMinds321** · 03-15-2004, 06:40 PM

Exacting "qualifications" isn't all about what you write, it's also about what you look for behind the lines.

Looking for fun, friends, and a good time.

That isn't enough for me to go on.

Look at it this way. You and I have saved each other from saying "Thanks, but no thanks."

Mrs. LM

yawanna · 03-15-2004, 07:54 PM

I was referring to just the one C word:

C U Next Tuesday

Even feminists couldn't pull it off as in taking back the power

And I am serious about the crass talk. Not so much on this or other boards, but definitely in person. It's a deal breaker.

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02-29-2004, 04:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
Cnj2004 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 2 Location: Bloomington, IL Status: Couple	HWP When reading adds of swingers what does HWP mean? Thanks!

02-29-2004, 10:17 PM	#4 (permalink)
SluttyWife Flying solo Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 559 Location: Austin Status: single	Height weight proportionate....A good gauge for that is not being wider than you are tall, I think. Slutty Wife __________________ "Too much of a good thing is wonderful!." -- Mae West

03-01-2004, 06:56 AM	#5 (permalink)
Weezie Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 162 Location: MS Gulf Coast Status: female half of a couple	We don't find this to be a very good gauge. Everyone's view of HWP is different it seems. We get exact height and weight (if they aren't lying) and ask for pictures and then decide. __________________ "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

03-01-2004, 11:28 AM	#7 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 24,506 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 75	There are a lot of views on this and it's something that's come up on here many times. You might want to do a search here for "HWP" and read through the topics that come up. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

02-29-2004, 06:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
kpennink Active Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 32 Location: Yet Another Ohio Couple (SW) Status: Married Couple	Most commonly: height/weight proportional, presumably to one another. SB has a great dictionery; check it out.

02-29-2004, 06:31 AM	#3 (permalink)
Cnj2004 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 2 Location: Bloomington, IL Status: Couple	Thank you!~

03-01-2004, 08:00 AM	#6 (permalink)
kpennink Active Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 32 Location: Yet Another Ohio Couple (SW) Status: Married Couple	Echoing what Weezie said, take what's said in an ad/e-mail with a liberal grain of salt. If you'd like a somewhat more cynical view of personal ad "code words," take a look here and here.

03-15-2004, 12:44 PM	#8 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 Julie's Helper Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 8,992 Location: On the couch Status: Married to MrLM	HWP I'll probably get some hate mail for writing this. I will comment on HWP because of my experiece thus far with using the words "height-weight-proportionate" on the swinger sites we use to describe what we are looking for in couples. It was, we felt, the diplomatic way to let people know that how others look physically--in regards to weight--does play a role in how WE are sexually attracted TO someone. Yet, with HWP mentioned, we still kept receiving introductions from people who were considerably overweight and not well-proportioned or physically a turn-on for us. So I agree with Weezie, it doesn't do much good to use the term. We have recently made a rewrite that says: "We are not attracted to overweight people." We'll see what happens. Before everyone bombards me with let me add that this is a prerequisite made soley on our sexual preferences (not friendship requirements). I would imagine some of you seek out playmates that have certain physical attributes as well. Mrs. LM __________________ There are so many more interesting ways to be than right. ~ Robert Rauschenberg

03-15-2004, 01:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
artboy Active Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 37 Location: Lower Alabama Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:artboy	Re: HWP I thought this was the lifestyle for each and everyone. WE dont like large overweight folks either, or many other things some folks may list in there "profiles". We dont like a lot of hair, or hairy areas...but that our preference and we tailor our searches to those folks in that criteria..... We have been blatently lied to, and told things recently that were just not true. HWP to us "is what WE (Stacie and I find Height weight prop.) Not everyone is going to be or expected to be attracted to each persons they meet. HEll..Im 6'4" and 230 lbs, my wife is 5'0" and right at 100 lbs, we are not HWP to each other , but we know what WE like. We also look like Mutt and Jeff...hahahah But again this is OUR preference...and those folks that dont fit into our choice of playmates, well...those are the ones we dont share with. HWP has many meaning to us..but for us physical attraction to US is what we are looking for! __________________ Somethings are best just left unsaid..... ;)

03-15-2004, 03:39 PM	#11 (permalink)
yawanna Has Left the Building Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,176 Location: Canada Status: married female	There is the common knowledge that it isn't the easiest thing in the world to find 2, let alone 4, socially and/or sexually compatible people. I don't understand your not just putting an ad up and seeing who responds. You will have to send off many 'thanks but no thanks' emails anyway.... I understand the thinking that if you are very specific you will get better responses. The danger therein I believe lies in an ad coming across as shallow or pompous, as in we only want hard bodies. Raises the expectation level on the part of responders as well, as in you darn well better be Jessica and Nick at least. Now, if you are prepared to get only a few responses to your ad, more power to you. If, however, you are looking to get connected in this lifestyle and expand your exponential circle, then it may serve you better to leave most doors open, and decline politely and respectfully when you have no interest in a certain couple. Which may not always have anything to do with HWP. Could be their deficiencies in spelling or grammar, too. Or, they smoke. Or........ Personally.. I'm no fan of dirty talk or the C word. Is weight really as much a deal breaker for you as crass talk is for me? Because if you are hoping to get connected in the community, you kinda have to be kind and respectful to most people when they are the same to you, to be able to move on and meet more people. Just my 8 cents.

03-15-2004, 05:17 PM	#12 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 Julie's Helper Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 8,992 Location: On the couch Status: Married to MrLM	Thanks Yawanna! Thank you for your input. I'd like to respond to some of your comments. We do have two ads. I think it takes not only time but alot of guts to send an introduction and wait to see if you will be rejected. I always try to be kind and respectful when returning a "thanks but no thanks" reply. I do not want to come across shallow or pompous in my ads...I truly worry about this. Yet, I feel it is best to let people know from the start what we expect. And wanting people who are not overweight is just one of the criterion we use. We have many. Yes, I'm a particular person, but this is true in all aspects of my life. You said, "Is weight really as much of a deal breaker for you as crass talk is for me?" If you're serious, yes it may be. I use "cock" and "cunt" (I presume these are the C words you speak of) when I am comfortable with someone and feeling cocky...ooops!...sorry Yawanna. I learn something each day. Who knows what my perspective will be next week. Mrs. LM __________________ There are so many more interesting ways to be than right. ~ Robert Rauschenberg

03-15-2004, 05:27 PM	#13 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Exacting qualifications Whenever I see really exacting "qualifications" listed in an ad or as a profile for prospective playmates, I immediately dissmiss the writer(s), but I am sorely tempted to respond asking "How much does the job pay?" Mr. Fun __________________ fun_pairTX

03-15-2004, 06:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 Julie's Helper Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 8,992 Location: On the couch Status: Married to MrLM	Mr. Fun Exacting "qualifications" isn't all about what you write, it's also about what you look for behind the lines. Looking for fun, friends, and a good time. That isn't enough for me to go on. Look at it this way. You and I have saved each other from saying "Thanks, but no thanks." Mrs. LM __________________ There are so many more interesting ways to be than right. ~ Robert Rauschenberg

03-15-2004, 07:54 PM	#15 (permalink)
yawanna Has Left the Building Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,176 Location: Canada Status: married female	the C word I was referring to just the one C word: C U Next Tuesday Even feminists couldn't pull it off as in taking back the power And I am serious about the crass talk. Not so much on this or other boards, but definitely in person. It's a deal breaker.

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