HWP

[WesternSwing]

Maybe the part of the answer is for dating sites to offer a more detailed search when it comes to weight, height, hair, boob and penis size, etc. Some do, for a premium price. Others don't at all. Then as long as everyone is honest you can easily seek out the people that interest you without offending those that are not attractive to you, but may be to others.

I don't dis anyone for looking for a certain type of person that turns them on, but some of the personal ads are downright mean in their wording. Enough so that even a GQ or Playboy model would feel inadequate.

I wonder how many responses these people get?

[fun_pairTX]

Originally posted by LikeMinds321

Look at it this way. You and I have saved each other from saying "Thanks, but no thanks."

Mrs. LM

I think this is the one point we would wholeheartedly agree upon.

Fun

[BD2]

As newbies to swinging I was really taken back by an email issue.

Just recently we received an email from a member saying they were interested. Unfortunately we weren't, for whatever reasons (our own reasons.) We responded with the standard reply, which to me is a "nice" way of saying thanks, but we are not interested at this time. (We've received a couple of these ourselves and never minded anyone being upfront. Actually prefer they are for whatever reason so none of us have wasted our time.

Unfortunately this couple did mind our reply and sent back a rather curt response. Was I pissed off? You bet! I think I was more upset that they immediately believed we were "ranking" them and did not give a thought as to whether we may have had other reasons - any reasons - that did not concern them or require explanation from us.

We are new to all of this, but this really ticked me off. Any suggestions on responding to emails that we should be aware of, or is this scenerio just out of the ordinary?

Mrs. BD@

[Vjklander]

Rude people go straight to my mental 'ignore' list. They certainly don't deserve a reponse and I have much better things to expend energy on than dealing with them. Someone said "I need not attend every argument to which I am invited" Good advice and I think the sentiment applies here.
J

[LikeMinds321]

I agree with Vjklander that if after sending a courteous "no thank you" you receive an irate response in return, don't communicate again.

These people are only looking for a fight, and writing again will only feed their anger--which I believe is what these people live for.

We have never had such an experience. Everyone has been very nice and many often write back with an e-mail that says, "Please keep us in mind."

Don't give the bugger another thought.

Mrs. LM

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by BD2
Just recently we received an email from a member saying they were interested. Unfortunately we weren't, for whatever reasons (our own reasons.) We responded with the standard reply, which to me is a "nice" way of saying thanks, but we are not interested at this time. (We've received a couple of these ourselves and never minded anyone being upfront. Actually prefer they are for whatever reason so none of us have wasted our time.

Unfortunately this couple did mind our reply and sent back a rather curt response. Was I pissed off? You bet! I think I was more upset that they immediately believed we were "ranking" them and did not give a thought as to whether we may have had other reasons - any reasons - that did not concern them or require explanation from us.

We are new to all of this, but this really ticked me off. Any suggestions on responding to emails that we should be aware of, or is this scenerio just out of the ordinary?

Mrs. BD@

While most swinging rules and definitions are up for individual interpretation, there is one that is not. No means No. I think most people send "No Thank Yous" in the same manner they would be like to be told "Thanks, but no thanks." Heck, there more reasons not to want to get together with a couple than there are reasons to get together with them. I personally find it flattering when anyone takes the time to respond to our adds, and answer in kind.

While I don't think the rude response was a one of kind event, it is, in my experience, out of the ordinary.

-- Bunny

[good times]

about the original question,

Are you all saying HWP dosen't mean "Hottie Without Pants "?

[Alura]

Some months ago some friends here on this board told us we could find a picture of them on SwappersNet or some such website. We don't do ads, but we visited the site to look at the picture. In order to do so, we had to register and in doing so, posted an ad.

We saw the picture, but began to get responses to the ad we placed. We took the time to tell each couple exactly why our ad was on there, that we don't do ads. don't care to meet folks that way and, although they seemed a nice couple, we wouldn't be interested in meeting them. We saved a copy to make replies simple, copy and paste.

Some folks we didn't hear from again, some wrote nice "thank you" notes, but we received no nasty replies from anyone.

We think, "Thanks, but no thanks," is a bit curt. Since we had placed the ad, they had no way of knowing that we didn't want to hear from folks that way. A little effort saved a lot of hurt feelings.

After a month, the free ad went away and the "challenge" was over.

Alura

[b_and_sc]

We've never had anybody respond with anger at being told 'no thanks'...but we have had a few who have written us back week after week after week.....I'm flattered, but what part of "no" don't some people get???


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