To fat go away!

alabamafuntonig · 10-03-2003, 03:58 PM

Lets face it people we all been there!
You get a date,you swap pics and everthing flys!
Right!
wrong!
What do ya do when the people or couple you plan a date show up with about 200 lbs more fun than expected!

10-03-2003, 04:59 PM

roll with it.

naughtygirl27 · 10-03-2003, 05:39 PM

HAHAHA "roll with it"

This has never happened to us *knock on wood*. We have been worried about it though. We have nothing against people who are bigger then us but we get really pissy when people lie. I think this is why we choose to always meet people at clubs. In our mind if they do lie we can easily lose them in the crowd without hurting thier feelings.

naughtygirl27

*come on 100 posts* Keep posting questions and comments people....naughtygirl wants to get to 100..lol

Chicup · 10-03-2003, 05:48 PM

Sending an out of date picture and not mentioning that it is out of date is basicly lying to you. We have had meet ups where photos and reallity didn't quite match, but we never have sex the first meet up anyways.

OhioCouple · 10-03-2003, 06:04 PM

I'd have to say that regardless of whether or not it is an issue with weight, age, marital status, etc...it is mis-representation, and the fact of that alone is enough for us to say, "No, Thanks". If they mis-represent themselves in the early stages, then they will probably mis-represent themselves (or lie) further down the road too. Not exactly our cup of tea.

tinceltoes · 10-03-2003, 06:11 PM

That is for sure true on having an updated pic. If they can not at least give us a recent pic then we do not swing. We figure if they have money to swing then they have money to buy a one time only digital camera. It has happened too many times when people say that the pic is so many years old and they look "Just the same" I say.. Ya Right! Once you meet in person it is a total shock.

alabamafuntonig · 10-03-2003, 06:36 PM

bingo to all
its really not a matter of being fat..its the misrepresentation..hey lets face it attraction got my wife ...and vice versa...if it was that easy for me ...hell all it would take would be a drop cloth and a bag of flour...first wet spot and bingo....

Greg & Sheryl · 10-03-2003, 08:33 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
Lets face it people we all been there!

Actually, we CAN'T say that we've ever been there! Regardless, whenever you meet a couple face-to-face for the first time, there is always a possibility that you might not be as compatible as you initially thought. In situations like that, we simply engage in a few minutes of polite conversation, then shake hands, say “Nice to meet you,” and go back home.

To minimize the possibility of getting stuck for hours with an incompatible couple, we always make sure that the first face-to-face meeting is in a public place. It’s okay to meet at a bar & grill for drinks, but we don’t recommend that you order a meal. That would take away your opportunity for a quick and graceful exit!

jcbicouple · 10-03-2003, 10:50 PM

Wouldn't matter to us if they showed up and were absolutely beautiful: If they weren't the person in the photo, or the photo was so out of date that the person was not reasonably close to resembling the photo...They lied from the start as far as we're concerned. We're not only leaving but we're going to make certain they know why we're leaving. We're open and upfront about what we enjoy, and whether or not there is a sexual attraction. We expect the same in return. Obviously not everyone is real photogetic so not everyone is going to look exactly like their photo, but it should be a reasonable resemblance.

WildFlower · 10-04-2003, 03:14 AM

I have never had that happen. But I am one of those people who is not real photogenic. I always get you are prettier than your pictures. Kind of sucks wish could take a good picture. But I have seen on peoples profile where they say they are a certain weight and height. ANd the pictures tell another tale. Such as a person will say they are 5'7 and 130 pounds. And the person will look about my weight and height. I am 5'7 and 173 pounds. Yes I would like to lose more but I am happy with who I am and if I don't lose I will be okay with that. I want to lose mostly for health reasons to avoid heart disease, strokes, and diabetes which runs in my family. People should be honest about this information. Because if a person is dishonest about something as simple as weight. Then what else are they being dishonest with you about????

Elusive BiFem · 10-04-2003, 07:45 AM

I always find these discussions interesting. I guess I've been lucky...I've never had the experience Bama described in his first post. By the time I get to the point of meeting someone, I generally have a real good idea of who they are, what they look like, and what they are about from e-mails, chat, phone conversations. I don't put a lot of stock in photo's...Glamour Shots can make even me look beautiful!!

The other thing...I honestly believe I could meet (fill in the blank with your favorite name) and not be sexually attracted to them until I got to know them. I've gone to the mall before and just sat there...watching people stroll by...and asking myself, "Am I attracted to this one...that one..." Rarely is the answer yes...I guess the attraction is as much mental for me as it is physical. Oh, well......it takes different types to make the world go 'round....

-EBF

PrtyinDuo · 10-04-2003, 08:56 AM

We have to agree with the majority here on this one.Mis-representation is only a polite word for a lie,and honesty is a
#1 rule in our book.We both cary some xtra pounds

,but between pics and talk,the folks we would like to meet allways know that be4 hand.And,we have the pleasure of owning a webcam so 'outdated'pics are a thing of the past.Although a webcam doesn't show a persons true personality,it is kinda tuff to hide the physical side on a live camera.As stated in previous replies,not everyone is gonna be compatible with all they meet,but,if someone tries to start a relationship based on one lie,when will you be able to know when they are speaking the truth?We don't judge others bi appearance alone,but,lie to us once and you wont get another chance.Hows that go?"Fool me once shame on you...fool me twice,shame on me"

ENJOY!!

alabamafuntonig · 10-04-2003, 09:25 AM

I see the majority here thinks this issue is a misrepresentation a lie so to speak!
i would agree with all in whole..take the weight issue or age issue it dont matter to me from the start , you can write me ,im me ,cam me but if it aint what i like i wont go any further than that!

how true a statement ! i know scores of people on this site ! many i never seen a picture or have any concept what they look like i my head. now if any one of the regulars would like to meet up! NO problem , it wouldnt matter if you were 600 lbs and green! or over 100 years old...you see a freindship has been developed.. but if you are swapping pics and emails etc. with a mid 30 couple 115 pound on the female and 175 on the male.shaved clean and they state (no ken and barbie) they are athletic...but when they show up there in there 40s 300 lbs the only sports they play are ...all you can eat buffets and they have more hair than bigfoot , lets just say mr bama is going to be a little rude!

JnM_Pgh · 10-04-2003, 12:59 PM

The first time we met a couple for some fun, we met for dinner at a location in between where we lived. When we all got out of our cars, we noticed that the wife was a bit heavier (maybe 30 lbs) than they had advertised. She had in their ad that she was 5'2 125, it looked more like 5'2 155-160 (they still use the same pic and that was 4 years ago!). We decided we'd go and eat dinner anyway and see how things went. Dinner was great and the guy actually turned out to be much better looking than his picture. We decided to give it a try and it worked out very well for me. She had he extra weight in the right places (thighs and butt), and was still very attractive. Turns out she was like dynamite in bed, she was multi orgasmic, she loved to suck me and was great as far as intercourse goes too. She really wore me out and I was very satisfied in the end (as was she)! The wife didn't have as good a time. Seems the guy couldn't get off with his wife around, so finally after finding this out, his wife and I went and showered and my wife said he really came then! I guess in the end if it happens again (meet folks who are heavier than their pics) we'd go thru the same process. Dinner and chat and see what we think after that.

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10-03-2003, 03:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	To fat go away! Lets face it people we all been there! You get a date,you swap pics and everthing flys! Right! wrong! What do ya do when the people or couple you plan a date show up with about 200 lbs more fun than expected!

10-03-2003, 05:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
naughtygirl27 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 36 Location: Ontario, Canada Status: Couple	HAHAHA "roll with it" This has never happened to us knock on wood. We have been worried about it though. We have nothing against people who are bigger then us but we get really pissy when people lie. I think this is why we choose to always meet people at clubs. In our mind if they do lie we can easily lose them in the crowd without hurting thier feelings. naughtygirl27 come on 100 posts Keep posting questions and comments people....naughtygirl wants to get to 100..lol __________________ To Each His Own...

10-03-2003, 06:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
OhioCouple Retired Mod Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I'd have to say that regardless of whether or not it is an issue with weight, age, marital status, etc...it is mis-representation, and the fact of that alone is enough for us to say, "No, Thanks". If they mis-represent themselves in the early stages, then they will probably mis-represent themselves (or lie) further down the road too. Not exactly our cup of tea. __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

10-03-2003, 06:11 PM	#6 (permalink)
tinceltoes Active Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 20 Location: Boston Status: Couple	RE: That is for sure true on having an updated pic. If they can not at least give us a recent pic then we do not swing. We figure if they have money to swing then they have money to buy a one time only digital camera. It has happened too many times when people say that the pic is so many years old and they look "Just the same" I say.. Ya Right! Once you meet in person it is a total shock. __________________ 4Beauty2C

10-03-2003, 04:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
Tom Paine Posts: n/a	roll with it.

10-03-2003, 05:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,888 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired Blog Entries: 3	Sending an out of date picture and not mentioning that it is out of date is basicly lying to you. We have had meet ups where photos and reallity didn't quite match, but we never have sex the first meet up anyways.

10-03-2003, 06:36 PM	#7 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	bingo to all its really not a matter of being fat..its the misrepresentation..hey lets face it attraction got my wife ...and vice versa...if it was that easy for me ...hell all it would take would be a drop cloth and a bag of flour...first wet spot and bingo....

10-03-2003, 10:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
jcbicouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 680 Location: Indiana Status: Happily Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jcbicouple	Wouldn't matter to us if they showed up and were absolutely beautiful: If they weren't the person in the photo, or the photo was so out of date that the person was not reasonably close to resembling the photo...They lied from the start as far as we're concerned. We're not only leaving but we're going to make certain they know why we're leaving. We're open and upfront about what we enjoy, and whether or not there is a sexual attraction. We expect the same in return. Obviously not everyone is real photogetic so not everyone is going to look exactly like their photo, but it should be a reasonable resemblance.

10-04-2003, 03:14 AM	#10 (permalink)
WildFlower Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 106 Location: Indiana Status: Couple	I have never had that happen. But I am one of those people who is not real photogenic. I always get you are prettier than your pictures. Kind of sucks wish could take a good picture. But I have seen on peoples profile where they say they are a certain weight and height. ANd the pictures tell another tale. Such as a person will say they are 5'7 and 130 pounds. And the person will look about my weight and height. I am 5'7 and 173 pounds. Yes I would like to lose more but I am happy with who I am and if I don't lose I will be okay with that. I want to lose mostly for health reasons to avoid heart disease, strokes, and diabetes which runs in my family. People should be honest about this information. Because if a person is dishonest about something as simple as weight. Then what else are they being dishonest with you about???? __________________ Living Life to the Fullest

10-04-2003, 07:45 AM	#11 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Retired Mod Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,401 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	I always find these discussions interesting. I guess I've been lucky...I've never had the experience Bama described in his first post. By the time I get to the point of meeting someone, I generally have a real good idea of who they are, what they look like, and what they are about from e-mails, chat, phone conversations. I don't put a lot of stock in photo's...Glamour Shots can make even me look beautiful!! The other thing...I honestly believe I could meet (fill in the blank with your favorite name) and not be sexually attracted to them until I got to know them. I've gone to the mall before and just sat there...watching people stroll by...and asking myself, "Am I attracted to this one...that one..." Rarely is the answer yes...I guess the attraction is as much mental for me as it is physical. Oh, well......it takes different types to make the world go 'round.... -EBF

10-04-2003, 08:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
PrtyinDuo Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 113 Location: NW Pa./W.NY Status: BiCpl in the hills of Pa.	We have to agree with the majority here on this one.Mis-representation is only a polite word for a lie,and honesty is a #1 rule in our book.We both cary some xtra pounds ,but between pics and talk,the folks we would like to meet allways know that be4 hand.And,we have the pleasure of owning a webcam so 'outdated'pics are a thing of the past.Although a webcam doesn't show a persons true personality,it is kinda tuff to hide the physical side on a live camera.As stated in previous replies,not everyone is gonna be compatible with all they meet,but,if someone tries to start a relationship based on one lie,when will you be able to know when they are speaking the truth?We don't judge others bi appearance alone,but,lie to us once and you wont get another chance.Hows that go?"Fool me once shame on you...fool me twice,shame on me" ENJOY!! __________________ TheDuo She is T.. He is T 2...

10-04-2003, 09:25 AM	#13 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	I see the majority here thinks this issue is a misrepresentation a lie so to speak! i would agree with all in whole..take the weight issue or age issue it dont matter to me from the start , you can write me ,im me ,cam me but if it aint what i like i wont go any further than that! how true a statement ! i know scores of people on this site ! many i never seen a picture or have any concept what they look like i my head. now if any one of the regulars would like to meet up! NO problem , it wouldnt matter if you were 600 lbs and green! or over 100 years old...you see a freindship has been developed.. but if you are swapping pics and emails etc. with a mid 30 couple 115 pound on the female and 175 on the male.shaved clean and they state (no ken and barbie) they are athletic...but when they show up there in there 40s 300 lbs the only sports they play are ...all you can eat buffets and they have more hair than bigfoot , lets just say mr bama is going to be a little rude!

10-04-2003, 12:59 PM	#14 (permalink)
JnM_Pgh Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 13 Location: East of Pittsburgh Status: Married couple	The first time we met a couple for some fun, we met for dinner at a location in between where we lived. When we all got out of our cars, we noticed that the wife was a bit heavier (maybe 30 lbs) than they had advertised. She had in their ad that she was 5'2 125, it looked more like 5'2 155-160 (they still use the same pic and that was 4 years ago!). We decided we'd go and eat dinner anyway and see how things went. Dinner was great and the guy actually turned out to be much better looking than his picture. We decided to give it a try and it worked out very well for me. She had he extra weight in the right places (thighs and butt), and was still very attractive. Turns out she was like dynamite in bed, she was multi orgasmic, she loved to suck me and was great as far as intercourse goes too. She really wore me out and I was very satisfied in the end (as was she)! The wife didn't have as good a time. Seems the guy couldn't get off with his wife around, so finally after finding this out, his wife and I went and showered and my wife said he really came then! I guess in the end if it happens again (meet folks who are heavier than their pics) we'd go thru the same process. Dinner and chat and see what we think after that.

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