Swinging and BBW's

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by Chicup
You know I always wonder why its ok to say being overweight is somehow superior to being thin on these boards, but god help you if you claim the other way around.

Is it a double standard?

I don't beleive that anyone has every been put down on this board for being thin, there is simply not the stigma attached to it as there is with being overweight. As a BBW I can confirm that it's not easy to enter this lifestyle with a negative body image. All the designer dudes and fondation garments in the world are zero help when you're climbing into a hottub in the all natural.

Face it, you never see a "I am too thin, too beautiful, too tall, too short" to swing thread. The great thing about this lifestyle, that I enjoy, is you can find all kinds of people to play with. One thing I've learned, once you've stopped worrying about what you or your partner looks like, the fun really begins. It's really hard to let go if your mind is focused on how big your butt looks verses the task at hand.

That being said, for BBWs who are comfortable with themselves enough to enter this lifestyle, then very little is going to stop them enjoying themselves. Again, it's all about attitude which always comes from within.

-- Bunny

[C@YWMI]

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I don't beleive that anyone has every been put down on this board for being thin, there is simple not the stigma attached to it as there is with being overweight. As a BBW I can confirm that it's not easy to enter this lifestyle when with a negative body image. All the designer dudes and fondations garments in the worlds are zero help when your climbing in hottub in the all natural.

Face it, you never see a "I am too thin, too beautiful, too tall, too short" to swing thread. The great thing about this lifestyle that I enjoy is you can find all kinds of people to play with. One thing I've learned, once you've stopped worrying about what you or your partner looks like, the fun really begins. It's really hard to let go if your mind is focused on how big your butt looks verses the task at hand.

That being said, for BBWs who are comfortable with themselves enough to enter this lifestyle, then very little is going to stop them enjoying themselves. Again, it's all about attitude which always comes from within.

-- Bunny


Bunny I love you'r attidude it is as fresh as a spring rain. I think we can all learn from you. Sometimes it is hard not to be supeficial but when we challange our boundries we reap new rewards. I hope Jen forgives me for using one of her euphemisms but you Rock Bunny

I find women of all shapes and sizes sexy. Maybe not someone who's really obese, but that's not what youre talking about from the sound of it.

Women with a few (or more than a few) extra pounds are really sexy. For some reason, the older i get (Im 39), the more i feel this way— and im a pretty slim guy, too.

When I was younger, I was only attracted to thin women. I guess the more experience you have with real women's bodies, the more you appreciate them.

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by C@YWMI
Bunny I love you'r attidude it is as fresh as a spring rain. I think we can all learn from you. Sometimes it is hard not to be supeficial but when we challange our boundries we reap new rewards. I hope Jen forgives me for using one of her euphemisms but you Rock Bunny

Many, many thanks C@YWMI. Entering this lifestyle has done more for my self image than I can say. There's nothing that will improve your body image more than having others enjoy the image of your body.

-- Bunny

[NNJBoomers]

Swinging has turned out to be the best motivation for losing weight and exercising that I have ever experienced. But, the motivation would not work if I did not feel attractive at my current weight. It really is all in your attitude about yourself. If you know you look and act sexy, then others will agree!

Pauline

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by NNJBoomers
Swinging has turned out to be the best motivation for losing weight and exercising that I have ever experienced. But, the motivation would not work if I did not feel attractive at my current weight. It really is all in your attitude about yourself. If you know you look and act sexy, then others will agree!

Pauline

Exactly Pauline. Being accepted and enjoyed for who I am has motivated me to get healthy so I can enjoy myself all that much more. Stamina you know. When I'd previously lost weight and gotten into the beautiful people area, I was always annoyed that men who had been content to be "friends" now wanted in my pants. The shallowness of that was down right depressing. I don't think I'd ever be comfortable romping with people who were interested in my dress size instead of everything else I bring to the table, er, bed; included my plus sized attitude and enthusiasm.

-- Bunny

[Chicup]

Originally posted by NNJBoomers
Swinging has turned out to be the best motivation for losing weight and exercising that I have ever experienced. But, the motivation would not work if I did not feel attractive at my current weight. It really is all in your attitude about yourself. If you know you look and act sexy, then others will agree!

Pauline

I agree as well, for my wife and I, it IS a good motivation to stay in shape.

Several months back, someone posted how he was out of shape and his wife was very attractive. Couples were interested in hooking up with his wife, and would become disinterested as soon as they met him.

I posted that perhaps the best course of action for him was to try to get in better shape and suggested a diet that I was on at the time. (Atkins, which btw is perfectly safe for most people, I've spent a lot of time researching it, but thats another topic) You would have sworn I told him to change race, or religion based on some of the responses to that I received. In fact I think I would have had less of a reaction if I did just that.

[bill&sabrina]

Originally posted by Bear_n_Bunny

I don't beleive that anyone has every been put down on this board for being thin, there is simply not the stigma attached to it as there is with being overweight.

Thin people might not have a stigma attached to their appearance, but they should sure as hell have it attached to the attitudes they have. Only looking at the cover to determine the quality of the person inside is just plain wrong, but noone seems to care. Even people that are themselves not the most desirable physically are infected with the same shitty attitude. I like peole as a whole. I found out recently that the misses isn't exactly like that though. She places I think to much emphasis on physical appearences. Something that is forgotten once we get to know people better, but something that I would like to see subside. Since like I said once we get to know people she wants to be with the person she once thought was un-appealling. By the way I am a thin person, 5'9" 160lbs. Bring on the BBW's and anyone else that wants to have fun with fun people.
Bill

[wolfmaiden]

I am a heavy set woman and still turn heads. Just last night some guy asked me for my phone number at work and I said sorry I am married. I asked him for his phone number but he did not give it to me. Oh well I guess there goes my mmf. lol

[skidder11]

just go for it woman of couple in minnesota who feels she is overweight. feeling good is feeling good

[skidder11]

Im not in Texas anymore. Im in Illinois. central Illinois to be exact

[frenzb4sex]

You know, reading through this really gives me a sense of enlightenment into the perspectives all of us live in different stages, both physically and mentally.

Lora and I have been overweight since the birth of our first child six years ago (sympathy weight for me), and we have battled the bulge for a while now. Fad diets, exercise, cutting back, you name it, we've been there, done that. Of course, there was little or no motivation until we did get into swinging. Since we have expanded our outreach to others in the last year quite a bit, both Lora and I have lost a combined 70 lbs. between us. We still have a way to go, but we feel good about where we are at. The lifestyle has boosted Lora's ego more than she could ever imagine, because people started accepting her for her, and not for what she looked like. This has meant a world of difference in our overall life as well.

Attitude is everything, I cannot stress that enough. I'll take someone who is happy about themselves and flaunt it anyday over just simple physical characteristics. Even if we don't lose another pound, I am pleased with who we are and what we look like. If others do not agree or have interest, it's their loss.

Tim