Height/wieght proportional. ... yeah right......

[sc3way]

i have been looking at all kind of ads and have found tons that look like great people then those 3 little letters are thrown in: HWP. I'm not thin, but i'm not obese either. My hubby loves my breast size and I'm working on losing weight but i'm comfy with who I am. Why is it that no one bothers to see me for my personality instead of just looking at my measurements.

Thanks ... the wife.

BTW: I'm 38F-35-40 and 5"5

Because they are looking for someone to have sex with.

I know a lot of women with great personalities I wouldn't want to have sex with. If you are happy with who you are thats great, but why should you expect other people to be happy with having sex with you just because you are happy with who you are?

There seem to be a lot of couples who dont care about weight and you should look for them, many post in this forum.

[ColoCpl]

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Originally posted by sc3way:
i have been looking at all kind of ads and have found tons that look like great people then those 3 little letters are thrown in: HWP. I'm not thin, but i'm not obese either. My hubby loves my breast size and I'm working on losing weight but i'm comfy with who I am. Why is it that no one bothers to see me for my personality instead of just looking at my measurements.

Thanks ... the wife.

BTW: I'm 38F-35-40 and 5"5

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Hi ya sc3way wife.

My wife is the same hight as you and just a tiny bit smaller. Actually a lot smaller in the breasts. But hey, I think she is gorgeous. I pick her up and swing her around like she is my little doll and she squeals with delight. Your personality is the most important thing. Are you kind and fun to be with is what counts. I can picture you in my mind and I think that you would be just an awsome looking lady. Don't get all bummed out over the HWP folks. There are enough really nice folks who do not care about this issue that you shouldn't be bummed. Everybody has different tastes is all. I picture you as stunning. Someone else may not. It is their loss.

As long as you like yourself and are comfy with that. Then you are able to relax and meet others who can truly appreciate you. It is not necessary that absolutely everyone loves you is it? I didn't think so. You said "Why is it that no one bothers to see me for my personality instead of just looking at my measurements". Well I happen to believe that there are a lot of folks like my wife and I that think that personality is way way more important than measurements. (Let me throw in a disclaimer here - my mother is 5ft 2in and well over 300. I do not find that size very appealing, but there are men who love her.)

If you folks are ever planning a trip to Colorado, then give us a shout and we would love to take you to dinner and show you around.

Besides, I'll make you feel really great. That is if you don't mind a bit of drool on ya.

FYI: I am 6ft and buff but not a person that is overly concerned with HWP.

Have a lovely day. Tell hubbs hi from me. I hoped this made sense and helped.

[ 06-02-2002, 11:34 AM: Message edited by: ColoCpl ]

[jowdal]

I hate those ads that state HWP. Too bad for those folks because they are losing out on a LOT of great opportunities. I'm a size 18-20 and very comfortable with who I am. Oh well, I guess if they were looking for a life partner, it's one thing, but aren't we all in this basically for friendship and sex

I've posted on a site specifically for BBW, thinking I would get some response there. It's been 2 months and counting, and not even a nibble.
Their lose, not mine.

Keep your chin up my friend. From the posts I've read thus far, I think people here are more "liberal" in their thoughts concerning HWP and BBW. Only time will tell.

Large is unhealthy and unattractive to all except a small minority. (Ironic how the *small* minority likes the larger women.)

Why are you even asking the question? Figure out who you are. If you are actually large, then find guys who like large women. If you are small but in a large body at the moment, then get thee to the gym.

[youngswingers]

whoa killer... Swinging is very rarely a matter of black and white. There is always gray areas when you are dealing with the most subjective decision there is: Who you choose to have sex with. Now, we are HWP swingers because, by and large, we are attracted to people who value fitness like we do. But that is not to say that you have to be the uber-athlete to swing with us. Likewise, there are people who won't swing with us because we're not blond, too young, too short, ect...

[anandjeff2]

Scuse me Tommy boy..but no reason to be insulting...sometimes a person is in the large ratio due partly to weogth partly due to the fact they are built large.. muscle and bone wise. If I lose 2 sizes I will be a 14 and I will prob still weight in at about 175 or more. I have a large proprtion of muscle underneath the extra weight and am also heavy boned..I have also seen peole say they are HWp and no way are they! So the HWP ads make me laugh because I have seen people who claim it and to me are obese!

An

[Flori_DAMAN]

It kills me when people say "they don't know what they are missing". As if extra weight makes you a better lover.

I have in fact had sex with heavy women that had terrific personalities and were more than exceptional in bed, but would never seek them out.

I like thin women. I have more fun with them sex wise. I ain't missing a thing.

To tell someone to go to a gym or go on a diet is just as annoying. People do not generally choose to be heavy. There are genetic factors, metabolic factors, and some people are just large. They can't help it a bit. The gym I go to is full of them.

I happen to be just about bald and in my mid 40's. I don't expect everyone to be attracted to me or feel like they are missing out on anything if they turn me down. Maybe they like long haired young guys. Thats great.
Everyone is not for everyone. There has to be choice involved. Maybe its age, size, color, personality etc. I don't happen to like ego-maniacs that think they are better at anything than everyone else. Some people like that....to each their own. John

[OhioCouple]

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Originally posted by <TommyBoy2>:
Large is unhealthy and unattractive to all except a small minority. (Ironic how the *small* minority likes the larger women.)

Why are you even asking the question? Figure out who you are. If you are actually large, then find guys who like large women. If you are small but in a large body at the moment, then get thee to the gym.

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Well Tommy Boy it is easy to see why you are just a visitor to this site. Thanks for your very biased opinion. Didn't your mother ever teach you...if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all?

I have to agree with AN and Colocpl. My husband and I definitely do not rate a couple on their HWP. As a matter of fact we refuse to even look at profiles that say "killer looks" "body to die for" and all the other self involved hoopla. It is the person inside that we want to know....that makes the difference for us.

But I suppose, just to be fair, if you are looking for a one night stand to thrill yourself....perhaps video or whatever and sell on the internet market....well then keep on being biased.

And BTW, my husband and I are both HWP....but we wouldn't even give you (tommyboy), based on your comments a second glance.

SC3WAY, hang in there, be patient....not all swingers are biased idiots!

L the female half

[nikkisix69cpl]

Hey I'm a fat girl..yeah you heard me a FAT GIRL!! And even I have my preferences when it comes to who I play with. I go to the gym 3-4 days a week silly Tommyboy. It is about sex when you get down to it and there is a certain way you must present yourself on screen to catch peoples eye. You can't tell my personality from this computer now can you?? Learn to be seductive and just have fun with it and they will cum..If this fat girl can play, then anyone can!!!

[maggie]

being a large lady ( im 300 lbs). it is very hard to feel sexy when you are being called names just beacause of your weight. i am not a goddess but i am not ugly and have found a chatroom who accepts me for who i am and not what i look like. i have had many offers for sex from both men and women. i think someone made the remark about being clean i am one of the cleanest people you will find i know some small people who could use a good bath nowe and again and they think they are sexy. fat doesnt mean unhealthy and it sure doesnt mean not sexy. if you dont like it fine but why should you make rude comments would someone like it if i made fun of their small dick?

[CanadianCouple]

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Originally posted by maggie:
being a large lady ( im 300 lbs). it is very hard to feel sexy when you are being called names just beacause of your weight. i am not a goddess but i am not ugly and have found a chatroom who accepts me for who i am and not what i look like. i have had many offers for sex from both men and women. i think someone made the remark about being clean i am one of the cleanest people you will find i know some small people who could use a good bath nowe and again and they think they are sexy. fat doesnt mean unhealthy and it sure doesnt mean not sexy. if you dont like it fine but why should you make rude comments would someone like it if i made fun of their small dick?

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Maggie --
Way back sometime last year, this very issue came up. In fact, my wife, if I remember correctly, was the one who started the thread. Being a larger woman herself, this subject is somewhat personal to her.
While it's true that not everyone is meant for everyone else, tact is certainly required when turning someone down, whether over the internet or in person. And one of the worst offenses (but one I've seen too many times in ads) is equating extra weight with being dirty. I'll once again state the analogy I've given in here several times -- if one were to refer to racial minorities using negative and perjurative terms in the same vein as those used on larger people (especially women), there'd be hell to pay. Agreed?

Personally, we NEVER respond to any ad that uses words or phrases such as "attractive" or "hot looking" to describe themselves. I doubt they'd be interested in us anyway.

Dan

[anandjeff2]

Yep Dan I think that is the right analogy..I find sometimes that people who are truly beautiful really dont want to hear it. They find that being told that they are is embarassing. A lot of people who think they are Gods gift to others usually are mostly artifice and in a few years look like hell from overuse and abuse. I will also say that the most awful things I see are the breast anhancements that are huge....give me natural everyday!

I reall ahet the fact peopel assume you can turn weight on and off. sorry to say it doesnt work that way.. having kids took my figure and I amf fighting to egt it back even after all these eyars

An

I have heard a lot of sillyness here.

"If you don't have anything nice . . ." This board, and most like it are to share *differing* opinions. If you want to hear your own opinion, you are wasting your time interacting with people. Try a mirror.

" find sometimes that people who are truly beautiful really dont want to hear it" That's a success problem. Not a problem like the one we are discussing. I don't feel sorry for people who have something GOOD. They are self interested and are not worth my discussion. I honestly hope they die because there are REAL problems in the world, and their problems take up valuable resources when they become depressed.

"Thanks for your very biased opinion" All opinions are biased (or they are not an opinion).

"People do not generally choose to be heavy. There are genetic factors, metabolic factors, and some people are just large." That's a cop out. If you take in more energy than you burn, your body stores it. Some people have a MUCH harder time than others, but it's not impossible once you understand the science. They just don't want to PLAN THE WORK AND WORK THE PLAN bad enough to be successful. They want pity. I say, I want results.

"Why is it that no one bothers to see me for my personality instead of just looking at my measurements." Did you read what you wrote. They SEE you for what you LOOK like. They may appreciate you for many other things, but when people are LOOKING, they use their eyes mostly.

[ColoCpl]

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Originally posted by <TommyBoy>:
" find sometimes that people who are truly beautiful really dont want to hear it" That's a success problem. Not a problem like the one we are discussing. I don't feel sorry for people who have something GOOD. They are self interested and are not worth my discussion. I honestly hope they die because there are REAL problems in the world, and their problems take up valuable resources when they become depressed.

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TommyBoy, The real issue here is simply a matter of sensivity. Or your lack of it to put it bluntly. Your inner self shines through in these statements: "I don't feel sorry for people" and "I honestly hope they die". Perhaps some sensivity classes would be in order here. I believe that you would benifit from them and gain a whole new perspective on life and as a result gain new meaningful relationships. Also a very excellent book to read is "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Remember my friend "You catch more flys with honey than you do with vinager". Just try to be a kinder gentler person is all I am suggesting. This is not a flame, I would love for you to become a much softer nicer person.