Is weight a big issue?

[fun_pairTX]

We have found all shapes and sizes at on premise clubs while the off premise clubs seem to have more of your younger trimmer crowd, at least in our experience. Swingers come from all walks of life and sizes and shapes.

[Nymph an' Satyr]

There are definitely large people at the club we go to. They are in the minority- but they are there. No one snickers or makes rude comments either.

I say give it a shot. If nothing else, go and look at all the eye candy and decadence- then go home and screw each other's brains out

[mikemary945]

Unfortunately, you'll find a lot of "beautiful people" at the clubs, but that's just life. You will also find heavier people like yourselves. You will be surprised at the number. There is a large community of swingers (like me) that enjoys a softer lady. Just go have fun, and ignore those that think they are the gift to the Lifestyle.

We also realize this is much easier for the guy to say. Mary is heavy too, and shares the same concerns about her body. No amount of assurance from the guys will ever change that.

Mike (and Mary)

[theteddybear]

Ok lets talk size I am a male 6'1" I am 385lbs, My other half is 5'8 about 380lbs>We dont look as if we are as heavy as we are but I was a junior Body builder in high school and she was a horse trainer for many years.. We have both been to clubs. The only thing that I beleive even got me looked at was that I am a shaved man (no pubic hair) and a pierced tongue and she is a light DX. I have found out that if you are a person of size and you go to most (not all) clubs you have to bring in or offer something that the smaller members do not have or offer. I am not saying for you not to go to clubs but just keep in mind that some people in our lifestyle look at clubs as a way to show of what society say's we should be (barbie syndrom)I do agree with the idea of you meeting a couple and all 4 going in to the club together, it will set you all at ease. we did it and it was the best night of our life, I always say going to a club is like being the kid that just moved in the block and you are going to school for the first day,you wish you had a freind with you.
And as most people on this board will tell you people at clubs talk,(I.E) Who are the new people? Does anyone know that couple?who did they come with? and so on and so on. I do not want to change your minds about going to a club I just want you to be in the right mind set..Enjoy life and see quote

[Nymph an' Satyr]

I agree- meet a friend there. It does make a difference.

"New kid in school" is a good analogy.

[LarrySmith]

My Hanne is 5'7" and 240#, and when she wants to look sexy, rowrrrrrr! But when she is feeling down about her size and looks, it shows.

It's all attitude, and how you show off the attitude.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by Ashley
I think what you all are saying is wonderful and accepting but totally unrealistic as to what actually goes on. I hope that Wife2Love will come back after their club experience and give us their perspective. I don't consider myself an expert as I've only been to 5 different clubs but I've not seen people of that size at any of them.

It really does vary from club to club. There are some clubs where pretty much all you will find is BBW and BBM's, and others where all you will find is pretty skinny people. A lot has to do with how the club is run and who is running it.

I've been to clubs where you wouldn't find a single person over 200lbs (and if they were that heavy it was a guy), because that's the way the club owners ran the club. You had to fit their mold to be accepted. However, most clubs I've been to were more open and there was a very wide range of sizes and shapes, everything from the gorgeous blond that weighs 100lbs to the gorgous redhead that weighs 250lbs.

If you attend your first club and find that you aren't accepted don't let that stop you from attending a different club. They are all different.

[Vjklander]

Originally posted by Ashley
I think what you all are saying is wonderful and accepting but totally unrealistic as to what actually goes on.

Ashley, I'm a bit cornfused, what part of my post is unrealistic ?
J

[fun_pairTX]

At Spankees in Dallas you would have a hard time finding a woman under 175lb.

[C@YWMI]

Wife2luv, My wife is a large BBW we have been to one social dance several times we enjoyed the erotic atmoshere very much it was for the most part a well mixed room. But did noticed that people did shy away from us they were very nice and respectable but did stay there distance the first few time's we was there. We then found a group that took us under there wing they was a riot . I suspect things would of went better, but I tend not to be a social person it takes me a while to warm up. If it wasn't for me I think we would of had better succes in finding a playmate. But like in any public place there are a at least one idiot that can hurt some ones feeling's with out realizing it. And that is what happened to my wife. Someone was laughing and pointing in her direction while she was out on the dance floor, And she took it as they were making fun of her. She wouldn't tell me who it was so I could see what was going on. And since it was the end of the night we soon left. The point of this is not to scare you it is to warn you you will be in a public place. And public places sometimes bring ignorant people, just like going to the grocery store,bank or any other public place. But I bet you still go to these places, so go have a good time don't worry what other people think. But like you know the people that mean the most to you love you for who you are friends, relatives and soon to be new friends. Keep in mind that was the 5th or 6th time we was there and just one bad incident. that is pretty good in my book for being the only social dance we have been to. Good luck best wishes and go have some fun

[austxmark]

I would skip the club unless I went with another couple. Its a hard world and while some here have said that more would approach you then not I have to say I disagree. I have been to clubs and as long as a persons weight is not to far off the medical norms its not a problem (<50% ecxess)..But once you get into the severelly obese area things get different. Not saying its right but its true.

Swinging is about recreational sex and most people find there spouse attractive and are not looking for "worse". So spare yoursleves the possible rejection and find a cpl in ads and take them with you.

[Ashley]

Well just returned from a Lifestyles houseboat trip and there were some people of size there. There were also a considerable number of folks older than what I have seen at the clubs(60's and even a couple in their 70's) so I accept all the wet noodle lashes that anyone wants to meet out. But I still submit that for large sized folks there are venues that are generally more accepting than the club scene....and it sounds like a few of you agree with me.

[LarrySmith]

It sounds like the club sceen is nearly as much of a "meat market" as a bar, where the flashy get all the attention.

[Roxysbayou]

Originally posted by austxmark
Swinging is about recreational sex and most people find there spouse attractive and are not looking for "worse". So spare yoursleves the possible rejection and find a cpl in ads and take them with you.

There is no better than my husband. If I choose to be with another man then he has to have some great quality that I like. It doesn't matter if he's thick or thin as long as there is some attraction. But no matter what he will never be "better" than hubby.

[C@YWMI]

I have to disagree with austxmark enjoy youreself and the only way you are going to see if you like the atmosphere is go do it. Just make sure you take that sassy attitude with you Wif2luv. And I will also stand up and appluad Roxy The person that matter's most is the person you go to dance with.