Question on Attraction/looks

[Natasha75]

We're fairly new to this lifestyle and have a I'm a little concerned about one thing. I am fully confident in saying that I am an attractive young woman. I am in average shape and try to work out regularly. My only concern is that I have had a child and although I'm back to my prepregnancy size, etc. I am "softer" than before (and have been left with a little stretchmarks on my stomach). I am a mix of backgrounds and have naturally tanned skin. You can't notice the marks (they are white/invisible) but there it is noticeable that they are/were there. Would this make me a turn off? Honesty is appreciated.

[Vjklander]

98% of the people will adore you, the other 2% don't matter
J

[Roxysbayou]

I personally love women who have a little extra. They are so much more real, and tend to have the best personalities!

[OhioCouple]

What a great question Natasha. My opinion is that women obsess over too many perceived flaws concerning their bodies.

I have given birth to three children and have had several surgeries that have left scars. I can honestly say that my little stretch marks here and there and scars were never a hinderance in my non swinging life nor are they now. Neither my stretch marks or scars were ever a factor, my sensuality however was. Be yourself and feel good about your body, the rest will fall in place naturally.


Lori

[naughty A]

To Repeat

"98% of the people will adore you, the other 2% don't matter"

I hate it when other women get all upset about their perceived body flaws...

It bothers me more when someone points them out and then spends all this time trying to cover them up - I was actually with someone who didn't want to let us turn any lights on in the bedroom. We (the other 3 of us) gradually overcame her objection but her insecurity was much less attractive than the stretch marks.

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[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by Natasha75
I am fully confident in saying that I am an attractive young woman.

In that case, I'd say, "Don't even worry." Let your confidence in yourself carry you through.

Example: who stands out more? The unashamedly bald guy, or the guy with the bad comb-over? The one draws attention to his perceived shortfall by his efforts to hide it, and so ends up making himself feel even worse.

Point out someone who is genuinely 100% flawless. Every time you see perfection in a magazine, or on t.v., or in a cinema, remember just how much trickery went into producing that illusion.

Hold on to that self-confidence.

[fun_pairTX]

To me and the Mrs who is quite bi, real women have curves, real women are soft, and nobody is perfect. You have nothing to worry about. Swingers, we have found, tend to look much more at the whole person and less on the superficial.

[pa_chip]

My first trip to a nude resort was a challenge for me because I'd never done that before and I'm no great shakes anyway. (Self opinion - always the harshest.) There was a very large couple there and my first thought was - what are they doing here? I got to know them and regretted that first observation. They were a couple of the funnest people I've ever been around. They re-taught me an important lesson - don't judge a book by it's cover. I have a new appreciation for people too. That is, there is nothing more beautiful than a person (male or female) who has the confidence and courage to just be themselves.

Be yourself. That's when you are the most beautiful. Turn off? Never!

Respect...

[ciscosv]

Originally posted by Brit_Pair
"Don't even worry." [/i].

Word

[Sin D]

Just to reinforce the other posts here.....don't give it a second thought. The 2% that would worry about something like that don't matter anyhow.

There was a past post about women with "kid marks"....does anyone remember that?

i have to say, softness in women is REALLY sexy...women are SUPPOSED to be soft! ...and a little bit of roundness in their stomachs is also really sexy. I love women's stomachs...i think low cut jeans are the greatest thing to happen to womens fashion. i love the way it shows off their stomachs...In fact, im not really attracted to women who look too athletic or muscular.

Women, on the other hand, all think they should look like cindy crawford. My wife, who has a tiny little stomach, constantly obsesses about how it's not "flat" enough...in fact, she thinks im weird for wanting to kiss it so much...

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by Sin D

There was a past post about women with "kid marks"....does anyone remember that?

Thanks for reminding us Sin D! It was a good thread.Women with "Kid Marks"....

Lori

People have a tendency to focus on (what they see as) their flaws because they know themselves so well.

While in reality those 'flaws' are very insignifigant and don't matter to anyone except the 2% of people that just don't matter.

I know when I'm looking someone over, my eyes tend to have a way of showing me what I like not what I dislike

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by Natasha75
Would this make me a turn off? Honesty is appreciated.

And honesty is what you'll get from me, nothing but.

Anyone shallow enough to discount you for physical shortcomings, especially those as negligable as you've described, isn't worth the paper to blow their noses with. You sound like an intelligent and articulate young woman whose company would be most appreciated by any mature person, swinger or otherwise.

Dan

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by pa_chip
My first trip to a nude resort was a challenge for me because I'd never done that before and I'm no great shakes anyway. (Self opinion - always the harshest.) There was a very large couple there and my first thought was - what are they doing here? I got to know them and regretted that first observation. They were a couple of the funnest people I've ever been around. They re-taught me an important lesson - don't judge a book by it's cover. I have a new appreciation for people too. That is, there is nothing more beautiful than a person (male or female) who has the confidence and courage to just be themselves.

Be yourself. That's when you are the most beautiful. Turn off? Never!

Respect...

My wife and I are nudist camp vets, we've been going to them for 15 years now. Name the body type, we've seen it a hundred fold. Your first visit was an enlightening one for you, and made you a better person for it. Nudists are able to look past the wrinkles, folds and surgical scars to see the inner beauty of individuals, and I wish more swingers could do the same.

Dan