Does weight really matter? - Page 5

K2 · 05-29-2002, 05:05 AM

If I was given a free ticket to do the "Wild Thing" with either Roseanne Barr or Brittany Spears guess who I would take? I may be overweight but I am not stupid.

So therein lies the cruncher. Sure, great looking people who take care of themselves and work at it deserve to be picky. But, I will gravitate towards a woman that is too hot for me every day of the week.

I could go on a diet, workout every other day, and in 6 months be hot property for a guy my age. However, I am basically lazy when it comes to being structured and having order to my life.

The only "plus" I have going for me is that I love DATY and really get off on taking a woman up to that plateau just prior to orgasm and then slipping them in an out of the big "O" as long as they can take it.

Maybe next month I will go on a diet and work out. Don't know if I could handle all of the pressure of being desired though. I am used to groveling and have it down to a science.

**Alura** · 05-29-2002, 07:56 PM

Hey, Paul!

What the hell is DATY? Do I love it, too?

Mr. Alura

gourmet cook · 05-30-2002, 01:56 AM

Hi all! Just a couple of questions to you folks.Thre is a lot of talk on size, how about drinking and smoking? Do Str8cpl smoke/drink? How about MI folks? Nybody else?? MMMM? IF we ever CHOOSE to get banged TOGETHER by anyone else, to be sure your hygienic habits will be considered. A simple mouth washing and soaping HARDLY cures the FOUL aroma of smoking. An overweight person that doesn't smoke carries alot more weight (bad pun sorry) in a search for companionship.
And speaking of companionship and relationships, some board speakers CONSTNATLY refer to personality. How much can you know about a person or want to if your goal is to fuck them anyway? Call me shallow, but I'd rather fuck Brittany than Roseanne anyday simply because Roseanne is a loud mouth not beacause she is overweight alone.
My wife is hanging over my shoulder as we read this board and she wonders. How old are you people out there (rhetorical we really don't care) waht is this talk of, the BIG "O" and I had the "V" thing done, etc? Is this the manner of communication that we might expect from meeting a potential fuck mate? C'mon folks, it's called a VASECTOMY and ORGASM, all together now...

Boy am I gonna get flamed!!!!
GC&C

Greekgod · 05-30-2002, 09:01 AM

It really is a preference,Im not attracted to larger women (200+) simply because it doesn't turn me on. I had a sexual experience with one and it was really awful. I know it's going to sound shallow but that's the way things are. I workout five times a week to keep myself in shape so I'm looking for women with thin athletic maybe even average build. There's a personals ads I visit which mostly has BBW in a 20 mile radius from where I live. Believe me these women probably get dozens of emails a day. There's no shortage of guys that'll fuck any woman no matter what shape she's in. :p

K2 · 05-31-2002, 06:48 AM

DATY???

Generally refered to as "Dining at the Y"

I know, the world has enough acyronms...

Sorry

06-02-2002, 08:58 PM

I once was "queen size." Recently, I have lost weight to become just a "larger woman". My husband is also heavy.

I feel that it is all a matter of personal taste. My husband told me when we first started dating that he liked the fact i was bigger - that he's afraid he will 'break' really small/thin women. We tend to look for couples that are somewhere in the average range - not way too light or way too heavy.

I feel much less confortable with my body if I am with the proverbial "Barbie & Ken". I know this is one issue I need learn to deal with (and have been working on it.)

The whole idea of swinging is to have fun with other people that "do it for you." [Fun]

I am not bothered when people state that they want only hwp's - any more than by those that state a specific race only or sexual preference only (bi,str8, etc.)

I do take major offense to those that use the term "fatties". But again, just like in any group of people you will find the ignorant, biased, and racists.

Happily Married & Swinging in Florida.

06-02-2002, 09:27 PM

quote:
Originally posted by <dreamofme69@hotmial.com>:
I do take major offense to those that use the term "fatties". But again, just like in any group of people you will find the ignorant, biased, and racists.

I did not mean to imply that people who are not attracted to others based on their weight fall in the above categories, just that those who use derogatory terms in their ads are.

To each his/her own! [Angel or Devil]

Happily Married & Swinging in Florida.

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-05-2002, 04:11 PM

quote:
Originally posted by gourmet cook:
Hi all! Just a couple of questions to you folks.Thre is a lot of talk on size, how about drinking and smoking? Do Str8cpl smoke/drink? How about MI folks? Nybody else?? MMMM? IF we ever CHOOSE to get banged TOGETHER by anyone else, to be sure your hygienic habits will be considered. Boy am I gonna get flamed!!!!

No flaming here. I started a new topic on the subject of drinking and smoking, you'll find it HERE

JTswing · 06-06-2002, 10:13 AM

It may seem kinda shallow but, most people are who are into swinging at some point are looking for some sort of physical play [Smiley_sex]

, Right? That is not to say that there are not swingers who are just friends. But it is all about preferences. And if someone says they are not into larger people, wouldn't you want to know that from the beginning

. It is in all fairness, just being honest with them. I do however agree that there are some rude people out thaere that need to use a little tact in the way they word there likes and dislikes. To answer the initial question, size would have something to do with my decision on who to swing with. From what I've seen in the adds and board posts, almost everyone has someting that would be a no go for swinging no matter what it is, ie.size, color, st8 or bi, smokers ect. How about the others that no one seems to have a problem with ruling out"Must Be Well Endowed [Eek!]

or No Single Males

". I have yet to here anyone complain about being shot down [Sad]

for one of them.

T the male half

blkcouple5054 · 06-09-2002, 04:20 PM

Hello all. I would like to offer my humble opinion to the subject. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle a little over a year now. We find that people who do have a preference should say so and be honest. My wife is a (BBW) big beautiful woman whom I love and appreciate. It has been our experience that Some people (mostly MEN) prefer one thing but will settle for another. Once they settle, they seem to have an erection problem after seeing that what they settled for isnt exactly what they want. However we have been fortunate to find couples who dont have that problem. We have discovered that there are couples who look past appearance and enjoy our company for other reasons. So I think you should be true to your nature and if you have a preference, go for that only so as not to hurt nice people. There are plenty of people in this lifestyle to satisfy every whim. We're new kids on the block but we've learned alot.

FTnPV_Pgh · 07-02-2002, 10:15 AM

WOW! Touchy subject and lots of great chat about it. For me/us, weight isn't a critical issue as long as the people are clean, considerate, attractive and not obese. A sexy charming personality makes 20 or 30 pounds disappear real quickly! I think it also helps us to relax a bit as we're not poster children for LA Weigh loss! FT is 5'2 135-140 and I'm 6' 205. I find a little extra is much more appealing than a very thin build on a person (just personal preference). The way a person (female I guess) dresses can also enhance and subdue some of the extra weight and it is also very sexy to look at often times. Gret thread, great responses and what a great site! Thanks Julie!

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05-29-2002, 07:56 PM	#62 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,144 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Hey, Paul! What the hell is DATY? Do I love it, too? Mr. Alura
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06-02-2002, 08:58 PM	#66 (permalink)
<dreamofme69@hotmial.com> Guest Posts: n/a	I once was "queen size." Recently, I have lost weight to become just a "larger woman". My husband is also heavy. I feel that it is all a matter of personal taste. My husband told me when we first started dating that he liked the fact i was bigger - that he's afraid he will 'break' really small/thin women. We tend to look for couples that are somewhere in the average range - not way too light or way too heavy. I feel much less confortable with my body if I am with the proverbial "Barbie & Ken". I know this is one issue I need learn to deal with (and have been working on it.) The whole idea of swinging is to have fun with other people that "do it for you." I am not bothered when people state that they want only hwp's - any more than by those that state a specific race only or sexual preference only (bi,str8, etc.) I do take major offense to those that use the term "fatties". But again, just like in any group of people you will find the ignorant, biased, and racists. Happily Married & Swinging in Florida.
<dreamofme69@hotmial.com> Guest Posts: n/a

06-02-2002, 09:27 PM	#67 (permalink)
<dreamofme69> Guest Posts: n/a	quote: Originally posted by <dreamofme69@hotmial.com>: I do take major offense to those that use the term "fatties". But again, just like in any group of people you will find the ignorant, biased, and racists. I did not mean to imply that people who are not attracted to others based on their weight fall in the above categories, just that those who use derogatory terms in their ads are. To each his/her own! Happily Married & Swinging in Florida.
<dreamofme69> Guest Posts: n/a

06-05-2002, 04:11 PM	#68 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	quote: Originally posted by gourmet cook: Hi all! Just a couple of questions to you folks.Thre is a lot of talk on size, how about drinking and smoking? Do Str8cpl smoke/drink? How about MI folks? Nybody else?? MMMM? IF we ever CHOOSE to get banged TOGETHER by anyone else, to be sure your hygienic habits will be considered. Boy am I gonna get flamed!!!! No flaming here. I started a new topic on the subject of drinking and smoking, you'll find it HERE
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05-29-2002, 05:05 AM	#61 (permalink)
K2 Here to Stay Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 63 Location: Michigan, USA Status: Status Questionable Daily	If I was given a free ticket to do the "Wild Thing" with either Roseanne Barr or Brittany Spears guess who I would take? I may be overweight but I am not stupid. So therein lies the cruncher. Sure, great looking people who take care of themselves and work at it deserve to be picky. But, I will gravitate towards a woman that is too hot for me every day of the week. I could go on a diet, workout every other day, and in 6 months be hot property for a guy my age. However, I am basically lazy when it comes to being structured and having order to my life. The only "plus" I have going for me is that I love DATY and really get off on taking a woman up to that plateau just prior to orgasm and then slipping them in an out of the big "O" as long as they can take it. Maybe next month I will go on a diet and work out. Don't know if I could handle all of the pressure of being desired though. I am used to groveling and have it down to a science.

05-30-2002, 01:56 AM	#63 (permalink)
gourmet cook Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 15 Location: Panama City FL	Hi all! Just a couple of questions to you folks.Thre is a lot of talk on size, how about drinking and smoking? Do Str8cpl smoke/drink? How about MI folks? Nybody else?? MMMM? IF we ever CHOOSE to get banged TOGETHER by anyone else, to be sure your hygienic habits will be considered. A simple mouth washing and soaping HARDLY cures the FOUL aroma of smoking. An overweight person that doesn't smoke carries alot more weight (bad pun sorry) in a search for companionship. And speaking of companionship and relationships, some board speakers CONSTNATLY refer to personality. How much can you know about a person or want to if your goal is to fuck them anyway? Call me shallow, but I'd rather fuck Brittany than Roseanne anyday simply because Roseanne is a loud mouth not beacause she is overweight alone. My wife is hanging over my shoulder as we read this board and she wonders. How old are you people out there (rhetorical we really don't care) waht is this talk of, the BIG "O" and I had the "V" thing done, etc? Is this the manner of communication that we might expect from meeting a potential fuck mate? C'mon folks, it's called a VASECTOMY and ORGASM, all together now... Boy am I gonna get flamed!!!! GC&C

05-30-2002, 09:01 AM	#64 (permalink)
Greekgod Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 26 Location: Orlando, FL	It really is a preference,Im not attracted to larger women (200+) simply because it doesn't turn me on. I had a sexual experience with one and it was really awful. I know it's going to sound shallow but that's the way things are. I workout five times a week to keep myself in shape so I'm looking for women with thin athletic maybe even average build. There's a personals ads I visit which mostly has BBW in a 20 mile radius from where I live. Believe me these women probably get dozens of emails a day. There's no shortage of guys that'll fuck any woman no matter what shape she's in. :p

05-31-2002, 06:48 AM	#65 (permalink)
K2 Here to Stay Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 63 Location: Michigan, USA Status: Status Questionable Daily	DATY??? Generally refered to as "Dining at the Y" I know, the world has enough acyronms... Sorry

06-06-2002, 10:13 AM	#69 (permalink)
JTswing Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 21 Location: Wisconsin	It may seem kinda shallow but, most people are who are into swinging at some point are looking for some sort of physical play , Right? That is not to say that there are not swingers who are just friends. But it is all about preferences. And if someone says they are not into larger people, wouldn't you want to know that from the beginning . It is in all fairness, just being honest with them. I do however agree that there are some rude people out thaere that need to use a little tact in the way they word there likes and dislikes. To answer the initial question, size would have something to do with my decision on who to swing with. From what I've seen in the adds and board posts, almost everyone has someting that would be a no go for swinging no matter what it is, ie.size, color, st8 or bi, smokers ect. How about the others that no one seems to have a problem with ruling out"Must Be Well Endowed or No Single Males ". I have yet to here anyone complain about being shot down for one of them. T the male half

06-09-2002, 04:20 PM	#70 (permalink)
blkcouple5054 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 1 Location: South Carolina	Hello all. I would like to offer my humble opinion to the subject. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle a little over a year now. We find that people who do have a preference should say so and be honest. My wife is a (BBW) big beautiful woman whom I love and appreciate. It has been our experience that Some people (mostly MEN) prefer one thing but will settle for another. Once they settle, they seem to have an erection problem after seeing that what they settled for isnt exactly what they want. However we have been fortunate to find couples who dont have that problem. We have discovered that there are couples who look past appearance and enjoy our company for other reasons. So I think you should be true to your nature and if you have a preference, go for that only so as not to hurt nice people. There are plenty of people in this lifestyle to satisfy every whim. We're new kids on the block but we've learned alot.

07-02-2002, 10:15 AM	#71 (permalink)
FTnPV_Pgh Registered Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3 Location: Pittsburgh	WOW! Touchy subject and lots of great chat about it. For me/us, weight isn't a critical issue as long as the people are clean, considerate, attractive and not obese. A sexy charming personality makes 20 or 30 pounds disappear real quickly! I think it also helps us to relax a bit as we're not poster children for LA Weigh loss! FT is 5'2 135-140 and I'm 6' 205. I find a little extra is much more appealing than a very thin build on a person (just personal preference). The way a person (female I guess) dresses can also enhance and subdue some of the extra weight and it is also very sexy to look at often times. Gret thread, great responses and what a great site! Thanks Julie!

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