How do you rate attraction

[socolais]

I think this is going to be an easy question, but funny how I didn't find anything on it in the searches.

"Chemistry" or attraction is not an "on or off" kind of thing, it's much more like temperature where there's an infinite number of possibilities between hot and cold. Wife and I are discussing our reactions to couples we meet and describing our attraction in terms of hot, moderate or cold. "Moderate" means - yeah, we would most likely have plenty of fun together and "hot" means - "little socolais" was checking things out with his one good eye

So, the question has two parts - what "scale" do you use to describe the level of chemistry to your spouse and do you record this information in some "note field" for future reference?

We're both straight, but I can see where this could get complex with some interest in bi activities.

Bruce

[BradAndJanet]

Hot...or not.

Sorry, but that's they way it is with me when it comes to sex. Only two categories: Do or Not Do.

Most ladies fall in the Do category.

-B

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Hot...or not.

Sorry, but that's they way it is with me when it comes to sex. Only two categories: Do or Not Do.

Most ladies fall in the Do category.

-B

Some of us computer geeks like to call that the binary system. Instead of a scale of 1-10. It's only zeros and ones.

Mr. Truelove

[bethncole]

We basically categorize all cuples and singles into "will play with" and "won't play with".

[socolais]

Thanks for the comments. It appears I am making this more complex than it needs to be - imagine that I understand how the binary system applies so easily because when it comes to play activity, there's no middle ground - put your full effort into every play time or stay home.

I try to not judge a book by its cover, but that has to happen on some level when evaluating new acquaintenances. I extrapolate the potential for fun by their maturity, communication skills, kissing skills and my inexperienced assessment of the unlikliness of stupid drama.

I think we'll keep our ternary system for a while longer, because it seems to be working for us.

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by socolais

Thanks for the comments. It appears I am making this more complex than it needs to be - imagine that I understand how the binary system applies so easily because when it comes to play activity, there's no middle ground - put your full effort into every play time or stay home.

I try to not judge a book by its cover, but that has to happen on some level when evaluating new acquaintenances. I extrapolate the potential for fun by their maturity, communication skills, kissing skills and my inexperienced assessment of the unlikliness of stupid drama.

I think we'll keep our ternary system for a while longer, because it seems to be working for us.

I kinda like your system. I know Mr. Fun has a system that consists of "She is HOT" and "I'd do her" to "not at all" -- which isn't all that different than yours. And that is with first appearances ... someone who isn't a "looker" can easily go to the hot category with the right attitude and personality. I think my standards are more strict than is, but that's not surprising ... I think most woman have higher standards (sorry guys ... LOL). We try not to rule anyone out either without meeting them. You just ever know who you might find ...

[Chicup]

For me only two matter....

Doable and Not Doable.

The rest is just a bonus.