Is swinging just for skinny people?

[onesillichic]

Both my husband and I have talked about swinging for some time and I've even gone so far as to check out the local club, join this site, etc. I think, however, that the only thing holding me back is my body image. Both of us are overweight, but confident in ourselves, meaning we're not slobs and we hold our heads high.
I'm just unsure of what to expect at a club? Is it mostly skinnier people? Average?
I'm always honest about my body...5'8" 200 lbs...but having 36K breasts make up for it
Any advice is greatly appreciated.

[Bad Sandy]

We haven't gone to a swinger club but we have been to Hedo II and a few nudist resorts where lots of swingers frequent. I can tell you that there are ALL kinds of people! My husband has often commented that ALL women are sexy in different ways. I think this mindset is common in this lifestyle.

[mickey&minnie]

I had the same concerns, as I am a big women. So far I get the impression that there is enough couples out there for everyone. I have been turned down, I have turned others down (both been politely of course) I have totally changed my attitude recently. I am not embarrassed by my weight anymore. I went and got a new sexy wardrobe and I hold my head up high. If there are those that want HWP, then thats their choice, but there are those that like a BBW. I read somewhere on here where someone said "Go to your local grocery store, thats all the different people that will be at the clubs"
Minnie

[tribbles]

Go to look. It's the only way to see who is there. And remember, each visit to a club means others are there....we have found it's important to go more than once to really get a 'feel' for a club

[meandher2go]

send me a pic and i will be the judge...

but im sure you BOTH will fit right in with everyone else there. for us it seems its more about attitude or lack of thats sexy. go in with the right attitude and enjoy it.

[She_n_Jaybee]

Typically, you'll find all shapes and sizes at the clubs. And all ages as well. Have seen everything from barely 21 to a couple that were both 72 years old. Have seen all the way from anorexic up to over 400#, both men and women. Have seen people less than 4 foot tall up to over 7 foot. Some have the looks of models, some with faces even a mother might need a few drinks to love. All types of people from all walks of life. And She (my better half) says that at that height and weight with those breasts, you're not overweight. Maybe overbalanced, though. She also says, if you were a bit closer here, she'd be more than happy to play with ya. Do you see why I love her?

[daisy girl]

I am new to the board and I have noticed a common theme in many posts- many people have questions regarding the types of people that swing. In fact, we are new to this and had questions as well.

I have always been in awe of the body diversity of swingers. I've only been to one party but I saw all sizes of people "being freaky" on the dance floor! In fact, some of the heavier women had the biggest followings!!!! So, if you want to go to a party-go, be yourself, and have a blast.

nicki

Porttasters on SLS

[DBL D]

Most of the "Playboy" images you see are of some pretty nice looking people. They do NOT reflect the general swinging population. Most people who are having fun are very average. They like sex and they are more than willing to prove it. A lot of good looking people aren't having as much fun because they are too hung up on looks instead of having sex. The average types aren't as interested in whether you have a GREAT body. If you are attractive to them that is all that matters.

Male D

[daisy girl]

and...most of the beautiful images we see are airbrushed and such.

[sapphire68]

Originally Posted by onesillichic

but having 36K breasts make up for it
Any advice is greatly appreciated.

dang, no fair You sound totally beautiful to me in all respects.

I'm slightly overweight myself and frankly, I think I would be turned off by someone who thinks they have a "perfect" body. I would much rather be with someone similar to me.

[Chicup]

A couple of things you should be aware of.

In our experiance while the clubs are diverse, there tends to be a trend in what body types are there. At 5'8" 200lbs you might be average for one club, on the thinner side at another, and the largest woman there at a third. At the LL events in Chicago I don't think I"ve seen a woman over 170, and the one who was, was about 6'0" tall, another club we go to is a mixed bag of nuts, followed by an other where the smallest woman would be 5'2" 170. I think people tend to gravitate to where they feel most comfortable to an extent.

Also people WILL reject you for you weight, but people will also reject you for your face, your hair, your income and lots of other reasons, some you won't ever figure out. The hard part is developing a thick skin and not taking it too personal. We are all attracted to certain traits. People as a whole are quite odd, and swingers have more than their share of wierdos so you can expect a fair share of odd rejections which have nothing to do with anything you can guess. We had one of those recently which leaves you thinking 'huh?'.

[TwoLittleBirds]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Also people WILL reject you for you weight, but people will also reject you for your face, your hair, your income and lots of other reasons, some you won't ever figure out. The hard part is developing a thick skin and not taking it too personal. We are all attracted to certain traits.

Oh God, Chi. Why did what you are saying suddenly remind me of dating? And I didn't like dating! Oh well, even though swinging might be a little (or a lot) like dating, it's also about meeting new people, and that I do like.

My little bird and I are "pleasently plump" and find each other's softness nice and huggable. Maybe others would, maybe they wouldn't. I think besides chemistry, one of the things I like most about a lady is a nice laugh and a nice smile and a sweet demeaner where she is nice to everyone, not just the beautiful people. I think that's "hot"!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by TwoLittleBirds

Oh God, Chi. Why did what you are saying suddenly remind me of dating? And I didn't like dating! Oh well, even though swinging might be a little (or a lot) like dating, it's also about meeting new people, and that I do like.

The critiera is different but it is a hell of a lot like dating. In some ways worse because you have 4 that have to agree not just two.

[TwoLittleBirds]

That's a good way to explain it. Jeez. Some couples have enough trouble deciding what to get on a pizza!

Well, I guess this is better than dating in at least one way: You get to go home with someone you love. (Oh God, that was mushy. Sorry!)