If Swinging is just for SEX...why is age and weight such a factor?

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by ManwithChica

So why does a man's age stop women from having fun?
Why does a real woman comfortable with herself and knows she can please a man--stop men?
When the only thing in common is having a great time having sex with others.

You can't have a great time having sex with someone if you arent' attracted to them. If their age is a turn-off to you (they remind you of your parents - or your children), or if their looks (for whatever reason) don't attract you, then you most likely aren't going to be that into having sex with them - know matter how experienced they are or how good they are in bed.

[lovedoctor]

I think it's just different strokes for different folks.

The hubby and I are less about what people look like physically than who they are as people. I couldn't be with someone who was (and I know this sounds unkind) simple or stupid. If someone who is not on an intellectual par close to me, I am ususally just not interested. And trust me, I am not God's gift to women. There have been a couple of guys I have seen who looked good, but then when I talked to them, I realized they were just not "in there." Nope, not happening.

So if I met a 50ish bald guy who was a little rugged looking, I would have to talk to him before I made any decision about how I felt about him sexually.

In my world, even the 25 year old pool guy with six pack abs would have to have it going on upstairs or he wouldn't do it for me. Some people may be more animalistic in their approach, but for this chica (and probably for most of us on this board) sex is more than the amygdala, it is clearly a higher brain function.

[JnCC]

"Age" and "weight" are only a limiting factor when you're trying to screw people who are younger and thinner than yourselves.

If you're "running into a snag" in meeting people, try setting your sights on couples who are older and heavier. I have a feeling your problem will go away just like THAT!

FWIW...For me, personality counts a LOT...like maybe 50%...when meeting new people. A woman who's not "classically beautiful" can still knock me over with a feather if she's fun, funny, and has a great attitude about life. Note that I said personality, not intelligence. (I know some very smart people who aren't much fun to be around)

People can do absolutely nothing about their age, and very little about their weight or intelligence, but almost everybody can improve their social skills...their "personality"...with a little effort. While you're working on your physical imperfections," don't forget to work on your social skills as well.

[ManwithChica]

Originally Posted by fifty4x2

We don't swinging just for sex, if you enjoy being with each other who cares. We have fun when we can, but it's not all about sex. We have met many fun couples, and its not all about sex. When we have it it's fun. it is fun and very senual. touch, feel, lick, kiss.

We will have to agree with you Fifty4x2, we swing just for the fun of it we meet and greet with no expectations of sex. It is absolutely fun meeting new people even if we walk away not getting intimate. But should the meeting get intimate it is such a major turn on for us to watch each other with other people. Afterward, on our drive home we recap about what happened, what turned us on the most, the funny things someone said, what positions we were in and what we liked and didn't like usually by the time we reach home, we are ready for more sex just with each other.

Now Dee gets that deep fire burning, it grows and grows and builds the more we recap until she just can't control herself. How many of you men actually stop your woman from making love to you? I didn't think so! Our sex and love making is absolutely phenomenal.

Dee and I have to agree, we never thought how swinging would bring us closer together, more open, so much more trusting, the new levels in our sexual union and communication.

[wiseguy2020]

Originally Posted by lovedoctor

Some people may be more animalistic in their approach, but for this chica (and probably for most of us on this board) sex is more than the amygdala, it is clearly a higher brain function.

Here! Here! I've always said (to my self most times) fuck with the big head first, and the little head will be happy.

wg