BBW sex or not?

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

Intensity_too-

I am so sorry that you have this horrible disease. I know how hard it is when people give you the looks thinking if they would just stop eating they would lose weight. Unless you have this disease you really don't understand what our issues are.

Intensity_too - Please try to understand. You do not KNOW what people are THINKING. You may be internalizing IMAGINARY "criticisim". ?

Most people understand the scientifically affirmed genetic connection to obesity - and they do not hold you accountable. We certainly don't.

Relax, and be proud of yourself for making the most of a difficult situation.

Best to you!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Personally, I don't think that we moderate very heavy handed here and I'm fairly sure that if you asked most of the mods (if not most of the members) they'd say that it's not heavy enough.

If this forum was ruled with a heavy hand I can think of at least a few people who would have been banned already this week.

I have to agree with Julie, there is very little in the way of heavy handed moderation, in fact there have been times where I get a bit exasperated when a troll is allowed to cross the line from trolling to just plain mean.

Hell I'd have been banned ages ago

[Miss_Piggy]

I'm sort of unclear on why this is such a disagreement. It looks to me as though everyone just wants to know that they are welcome.

The BBWs and BHMs want everyone to know that they can still be fun and sexy and take part in this lifestyle.

The pretty folks want everyone to know that they aren't stupid bimbos and that they can be beautiful and have personality at the same time.

In the end I think we can all agree that there is no reliable connection between looks and personality.

Big peole can be nice.
Big people can be mean.
Thin people can be nice.
Thin people can be mean.

This variability exists both across people and within individuals.

It doesn't seem like anyone is trying to make blanket statements about any one group - just statements about how some people have observed such and such in some other people.

We can do all sorts of finger pointing and attacking each other's statements but I really do think it all comes down to everyone trying to feel welcome.

It's an unfortunate aspect of this particular medium. If we were all sitting around a table having a few beers we probably wouldn't be nearly so nasty to one another.

My point? I think this thread indicates far more disagreement than is necessary.

[intuition897]

It's great to have you back Miss Piggy. Dito to that. I've been wondering myself why there is so much disagreement here.

As jersey2 said:

Please try to understand. You do not KNOW what people are THINKING. You may be internalizing IMAGINARY "criticisim". ?

I think this holds true for everyone, regardless of body type. While I may have preferences, I don't hold anything against anyone except mean-spiritedness. Life is TOO SHORT to allow ugly-on-the-inside people to pollute it with their attitudes. Whether I'm sexually attracted to someone and whether I like them as a person are two VERY different things. I won't - I can't - apologize for not being sexually attracted to someone, and it often doesn't have much to do with body type...it's just a matter of sexual chemistry which is as variable as people are unique. I'm as likely to choose a very average looking person as I am to choose a very beautiful person (and vice versa!) and there's just no rhyme or reason to it.

If you just like arguing, then I guess have at it. I just don't see what point it is that everyone is trying to make here. I thought Miss Piggy summed it up very well.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Just in case anyone was wondering, I am a shithead.

That was classic.
thanks for the laugh
Your friend,
Prettylady

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by intuition897

I thought Miss Piggy summed it up very well.

I think your right.
I have been unduly harsh at times in this tread. I let my annoyance get the best of me at times.
I still stand by what I said, perhaps it should have been better said.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[wtchy13]

Originally Posted by graywolf71

I just would like to know, who out there amoung you like BBW's or BHM's

Alot of people in my experence are looking for "Ken and Barbie". Now why would you look for some one who isn't correct anatomiclly?

I was just wondering because we've had some bad experences with the Ken and Barbie seekers. They don't stop us though, cause big people are fun cause there is more to love.

I have also had some bad experiences with the Ken and Barbie seekers, and still have had fun as a BBW and love every minute of it.

[graygo98]

Just when you thought it had died a well-deserved death!