Too fat to swing?!?

[hotandwild]

I am not barbie and Hot is not Ken. We are normal people and age and kids have taken there toll on both of us. Now, I am not saying we do not care cause we do. I am about 30lbs over weight, but I do not LOOK fat. I am just kinda chunky.

Every AD I read it seems like everyone is underweight and looking for someone the same size they are. If I had a buck for ever ... No fat people... AD.

So, really, I know that looks matter. But if your just a little Chunky ( which I hope not to be soon, Its coming off just slowly) is it a major turnoff?

Does it turn you off if people are slim and toned with the 36-24-36 measurements? Does it matter if the men are not ripped?

Am I the only woman on earth that does not like skinny guys?!?

[Spoomonkey]

Struggling with weight, whether it is five extra pounds or fifty extra pounds, is as common in the swinging world as it is in the "real" world. We all have our body issues - and we all have our preferences as to who we like to play with.

Some are turned on only by the visual - some are turned on only by personality - but most have a good blend of both. For me, I have found that the prospect of getting naked in front of people has been a wonderful motivation for getting in shape (a process I am still in).

You are NOT too fat to swing. You may have plenty of reasons to lose weight, but you shouldn't feel like you are the only one who is a "normal" person. If you want to hang out with those of us who are trying, like you, to shed a pound or two, come over here and join us!

Spoomonkey

[Dynamar]

Darlin'... my advice is be who you are or try to be who you want to be, and let the chips fall where they may. There's plenty of people who like curves to their women, and don't want to be cut in half by hipbones when fucking too skinny people. Instead of worrying about what you think other people want to have, seek out people who "want what you got" (they're usually a whole lot more fun, anyway).

As always, just my .02!

[bear_and_babe]

I am a BBW and I swing. When we started, I was worried that I was too heavy to swing. But I found that what really counts is how you carry yourself. Self-confidence, personality and a great smile go a long way in how it makes you look to other people. We go to clubs and I have never been the largest woman in the place, and I have never heard anyone say anything about my weight. But it is funny, most of my swing partners are what I would call normal weight. There are people who like fit and trim and there are people who like curves. Just be yourself and there will be people who want to be with you.

[jennandjamesinm]

I am a BBW also and always am having guys flirt and hit on me. I guess that in my experience being a BBW is not an issue - its all about attitude - if you give off a confidence, then you will find that people are attracted to that. If you are uncomfortable, then that will show. Be proud of your body and who you are!!! That's what really matters in the long run

Jenn

[HotMama]

Am I the only woman on earth that does not like skinny guys?!?

I have found in my life experience.....

Most overweight people.....subconscious or otherwise.... always say "I prefer larger women/men blah blah blah"

This is not because they actualy do... but it is a self defense mechanism kicking in.... To protect your ego from rejection "Hey, I dont like thin, athletic women/men anyways"

I love the myth that all thin people are lacking in the Self-confidence, personality department.... and they are not as much fun as overweight people.

My husband and I are very fit, and my husband does not care if a woman has a few extra pounds.. Not one bit.... Neither do I.

As long as you are not hung up over your weight, it should be no big deal.

If you honestly do not like thin men, more power to you.. I am sure it is a lot easier to pick up men lacking in the physical aspects.

[bear_and_babe]

Originally Posted by HotMama

I love the myth that all thin people are lacking in the Self-confidence, personality department.... and they are not as much fun as overweight people.

If you honestly do not like thin men, more power to you.. I am sure it is a lot easier to pick up men lacking in the physical aspects.

I know what you mean about myths. Most people think overweight people are lazy, sloppy and don't care about their health. Yeah right. I am overweight due to a medical problem, no matter what I do, I just can't loose weight. I walk over 3 miles every day, have very low blood pressure, low blood sugar and very healthy. So I guess I blow that myth out of the water!


And are you saying that if a guy is not thin, then he is lacking in physical aspects??? I beg to differ. Bear is a very large frame man, not thin by any means and he has very nice physical aspects facelick

[HotMama]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

I know what you mean about myths. Most people think overweight people are lazy, sloppy and don't care about their health. Yeah right. I am overweight due to a medical problem, no matter what I do, I just can't loose weight. I walk over 3 miles every day, have very low blood pressure, low blood sugar and very healthy. So I guess I blow that myth out of the water!


And are you saying that if a guy is not thin, then he is lacking in physical aspects??? I beg to differ. Bear is a very large frame man, not thin by any means and he has very nice physical aspects facelick

Very good points B&B... glad you picked up on my sarcasm on the physical aspect

My husbands favorite swing partner is about 5 foot 7, 185lbs... He finds her very, very sexy.

I hate stereotypes... fat, lazy slob, ect... thin, boring, no personality

[Floorman56]

If people out here is south dakota were too fat to swing...... welll we wouldn't have a club

[pumpkins1970]

My wife and I are both on the heavier side, yet we have no problem finding people who are interested in us. Yes, there is the occassional shallow ass who thinks that only a size 3 is hot,or that every man should have 6-pack abs, but then I don't think he/she knows what true beauty really is. We don't consider weight to be a factor in determining if someone is hot or not, personality and confidence have a big part in a person's attractiveness, but also in how you present yourself. Just because you are overweight doesn't mean you cannot dress nice and be sexy. You should have a little pride in yourself, because if you don't, NO ONE else will! We do agree however that we are both attracted to people who are closer to our body type, she has always liked bigger men and I have always loved a woman with curves. Just one more thought as I ramble on, would you really want to swing with someone who is so shallow that they are worried about 10 -20 extra lbs. Screw 'em (not really). Mr. & Mrs. Pump

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Some are turned on only by the visual - some are turned on only by personality - but most have a good blend of both. For me, I have found that the prospect of getting naked in front of people has been a wonderful motivation for getting in shape (a process I am still in).

Dito

Swinging has been a great motivator for both my wife and myself. Its easy to get lazy and comfortable with each other, but when you know new eyes will be staring, its good to be in shape.

Personality AND looks matter to us. A while back we met a new couple and the male half wasn't very attractive. I thought he was downright ugly. We didn't play and my wifes comment was 'well if he had a better personality, I wouldn't have had a problem with it.'

That about sums it up for us.

[WesternSwing]

Our experience has been that weight it not an issue in the lifestyle with 70% or more of people. Mrs. WS shops in the size 12+ area, she is pretty honest about her weight in our profiles, and I'll tell you she is not hurting for attention from both men and women at clubs and on the swingers sites. We have two couple we swing with that the women are very fit and slender, and their husbands are all about Mrs. WS.

Single guys will contact us who are just muscular, cut, and in great shape. Mrs. WS can't believe they are interested in her because she has a few extra pounds after a couple of kids.

Our experience has been that most those in the lifestyle are real people and know the score about what real people look like. In fact, I haven't met a pornstar perfect swinger yet. Seen ads from some on swingers sites, but have never actually seen them in person at a club or party.

As a man, for me I am attracted to the whole woman, not just physical appearances. I don't have any real "type" I'm attracted to. One woman may be 115 lbs with A-cup breasts and the next 200 lbs with all the curves. There is so much more to "sexy" then just weight.

Mr. WS

[JnG]

I wouldn't worry too much about it - there is, quite honestly, someone for everyone. Being 30 pounds over ideal weight isn't going to stop you, and these days it's really more common than not (though I would encourage you to work on staying healthy). As Spoo said, being naked in front of other people can really serve as a motivator to get in shape.

In my experience, swingers are pretty much just a cross section of every day society. Go out in public (say, a grocery store) and look around - see the people around you? Imagine them naked. Substitute the checkout counter for a bar, switch the paper towel display out for a stripper pole, and get rid of anyone under 21 or so and you get an idea what the club looks like.

[Mike and Jan]

Hey some people have a fear of heights, and some widths? LOL! Everyone has their preferences but I think it's the person that's the greatest turn-on. And you've got to get to know them a bit before you know if they stimulate you or not. Just mingle and be yourself..., I guarantee you'll find folks who think you're hot!
Rich

[starlinn]

I say ditto to all of these posts. I agree with spoo, that it is a motivator also, that swinging is motivator to take a closer look at yourself, and to work on keeping in shape. I have found that I am slow at loosing, but I do feel better that I am taking the time to spend on myself. I can remember a time when I was 35, and I could loose 10 lbs quickly. Now that I am approching 40, The ten pounds are lingering more in the middle, and not on the ass.