Overweight or full of scars?

[morgan78]

OK.. I would like some honest opinions here.
Would you rather swing with a person that is overweight or one that has had gastric bypass surgery and looks like they are melting? Or have had plastic surgery to take off the excess skin?

[HotMoCpl]

Hey, Morgan. What's with the: "bypass and lots of loose skin" deal? Have seen several hundred people after bypass and haven't seen the "loose skin" you speak of.

Here's what the wife just said: "You deal with each of lifes problems as they arise. If you (me) were a f-cked up husband and wound up in a wheel chair, it would be so much easier to leave you."

She also thinks ya'll make too big a deal out of picking playmates....me too.

The Gods and Goddess of Heaven have given me such a wonderful woman and I worship her. Have no fear, we love each other dearly.

[Hawk14]

Who cares about some scars???? I'd much rather be with people who are real and natural...it's about the sensuality....NOT the body!! If I had to be hung up on the "beautiful people" only....well, then I'd quit for sure. After the young and beautiful have lived a little and been knocked around by life, they'll get their share of scars. I find the older, more experienced to know more of what they want, regardless of their body type. Just not so shallow these days, I guess!

[Pinmonkey]

Scars are sexy. Each has a story of it's own.

As far as overweight is concerned, there are reasons why the cover models get paid so much. There are only a few of them.

[BiNWAR]

We like men and women with a meat on them. Last thing we want to do is be rolling around in bed and get our eye poked out by a rib or hip bone.....Bone is for a dog...... meat is for the conissour.

Mr and Mrs Bi

[funtoplay]

Personally....I find having sex with someone who is extremely physically fit hurts . There is not enough cushioning in the hips for it to be comfortable to me. I guess it's fortunate for me that I am usually more attracted to bigger men than physically fit ones.

As to the scar issue....that really is not a big deal to me. If the person in question is comfortable in their own skin....that's all I care about.

[good times]

I have to go against the flow a little here, because I could not swing with a woman that was overweight enough to need Gastric bypass surgery. I just don't find women that are excessively overweight sexually attractive. I have had several partners that lost significant amounts of weight, and have had very few partners that didn't have a few scars and a couple that had quit a few, I rarely even noticed these things. I don't want to imply that a women has to be perfect in order for her to excite me, a few extra pounds here and there isn't a problem, in fact, real skinny girls don't do much for me either.

That being said, the most important thing is that the woman is comfortable with herself. People have all kinds of different tastes in body types that they find attractive, so if a woman thinks she is sexy and projects that self confidence in the way she presents herself their will be men that will be sexually attracted to her.

[piggytailz1269]

It doesnt matter what you look like as much as what is being projected. I could find the hottest guy in the world but if he has the personality of a plate we arent going to mix. I dont think we should make a big deal out of who we swing with. Half of who we will be with we wont see ever again.Yes I agree there has to be some sexual attraction there and some arent going to be your cup of tea. Every scar has a story behind it.....we are all scarred in one way or another. I say more cushion for the pushin!!!

[Sweet_Candy]

Originally Posted by good times

I have to go against the flow a little here, because I could not swing with a woman that was overweight enough to need Gastric bypass surgery. I just don't find women that are excessively overweight sexually attractive. I don't want to imply that a women has to be perfect in order for her to excite me, a few extra pounds here and there isn't a problem.

That being said, the most important thing is that the woman is comfortable with herself. People have all kinds of different tastes in body types that they find attractive, so if a woman thinks she is sexy and projects that self confidence in the way she presents herself their will be men that will be sexually attracted to her.

Ditto! Dito

Sweet

[BiDrywallChick]

interesting poll

I am one of those people.. I have been morbidly obese. I wouldnt have wanted to swing with me. I have had a bypass surg.. no regrets.. and I do have excess skin... and ice it off with scars from surg as well as my fair share of scars that tell the story of my life.

Now.. my opinion.. it doesnt bother me in the least if someone doesnt want to swing with me because of what I look like. That is their groove. Physical attraction has to be there for good old fashioned lusty sex. thats just the bottom line. However, that being said, I would like to think someone wouldnt rule me out as a swing friend just because of looks. I am one damn fine looking chick now but I also have one hell of a brain to go with that.. add my sparkling personality, wit and sarcasm... If you just judged me on looks.. you would be missing out. Not every person I meet in swing land do I want to jump into bed or on the counter with.. but then.. there are some that just get me right in the nuts

[morgan78]

[quote=HotMoCpl]Hey, Morgan. What's with the: "bypass and lots of loose skin" deal? Have seen several hundred people after bypass and haven't seen the "loose skin" you speak of.

Really..wow you should check into what happens when someone has had gastric bypass surgery! After loosing so much weight..skin hangs.

Here's what the wife just said: "You deal with each of lifes problems as they arise. If you (me) were a f-cked up husband and wound up in a wheel chair, it would be so much easier to leave you."

She also thinks ya'll make too big a deal out of picking playmates....me too.

Well, someone has to be picky when picking playmates! I am VERY carefull of whom I sleep with. I never said I would sleep with just anyone. I have to have that attraction and they have to have it for me. Plain and simple.

I thought this forum was just that.. a place to discuss topics. Not complain that I am to picky picking playmates. If I am that is MY PROBLEM!

Thanks to everyone who posted on this subject!