Can you swing and be overweight?

[morgan78]

Well I for one am a big girl ( sorry if this is a turn off for some). Everyone says " You can change that if you want to". Well believe me, I WANT TO! It is just not going to happen anytime soon. My doctor found a medical problem last year that causes me not to loose weight. I am on medicine and I guess the only solution to my problem is bypass surgery. Needless to say my insurance thru work does not cover it. So... do I let my life pass me by, or try to have a good time???

Here is a good question:

Would you rather play with an overweight parter, or a parter how had gastric bypass surgery and looks like they are melting? ( or full of scars from plastic surgery?)

I have all these things to think about. I am not proud of how much I weigh by any means. I know it is gross to some. But I am really trying to decide what is the best. Bypass surgery is a live changing thing that you can not take lightly. Once it is done you can never have it reversed. Plus there a major chance for complications.
I know I would be healthier, but since my medical problem, I could loose 100 pounds just by next year to have it back again.

thoughts?

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by morgan78

Well I for one am a big girl ( sorry if this is a turn off for some). Everyone says " You can change that if you want to". Well believe me, I WANT TO! It is just not going to happen anytime soon. My doctor found a medical problem last year that causes me not to loose weight. I am on medicine and I guess the only solution to my problem is bypass surgery. Needless to say my insurance thru work does not cover it. So... do I let my life pass me by, or try to have a good time???

Here is a good question:

Would you rather play with an overweight parter, or a parter how had gastric bypass surgery and looks like they are melting? ( or full of scars from plastic surgery?)

I have all these things to think about. I am not proud of how much I weigh by any means. I know it is gross to some. But I am really trying to decide what is the best. Bypass surgery is a live changing thing that you can not take lightly. Once it is done you can never have it reversed. Plus there a major chance for complications.
I know I would be healthier, but since my medical problem, I could loose 100 pounds just by next year to have it back again.

thoughts?

I know two women who had the surgery, both are quite pleased with it. They are non-swingers so I couldn't tell you what they look like naked.

[mrs good times]

While I have never had gastric bypass surgery and am not overweight I do have some serious scars because of medical reasons. Being over weight, having scars, being skinny, etc. these are all personal preferences so some will like it, some will not and others won't care.

[autumnayr]

Originally Posted by mrs good times

Being over weight, having scars, being skinny, etc. these are all personal preferences so some will like it, some will not and others won't care.

I guess if your fluffy you are self concious of what others think, because of the world we live in....most of us can do something about it, and Im working on it, but losing tons of weight is not always a pretty sight either... Im not 25 anymore, and things just dont spring back where it belongs , so I am a bit loose (we're talking tummies now)

I guess like mrs good times said some will like it and some will not....how do you find the ones that wont care? I mean I look better in clothes where you can't see everything.... should I go around flashing my tummy to people asking....do you like this or not? Im not trying to make light of the situation, I know how sensitive of a subject it is....but every now and then you have to say......." oh what the hell" :rollseyes

[BiDrywallChick]

i just snipped this from my answer on the poll because I am too lazy to come up with another way of saying it

I am one of those people.. I have been morbidly obese. I wouldnt have wanted to swing with me. I have had a bypass surg.. no regrets.. and I do have excess skin... and ice it off with scars from surg as well as my fair share of scars that tell the story of my life.

Now.. my opinion.. it doesnt bother me in the least if someone doesnt want to swing with me because of what I look like. That is their groove. Physical attraction has to be there for good old fashioned lusty sex. thats just the bottom line. However, that being said, I would like to think someone wouldnt rule me out as a swing friend just because of looks. I am one damn fine looking chick now but I also have one hell of a brain to go with that.. add my sparkling personality, wit and sarcasm... If you just judged me on looks.. you would be missing out. Not every person I meet in swing land do I want to jump into bed or on the counter with.. but then.. there are some that just get me right in the nuts

Swinging is about being attracted enough to someone to have some sort of relations, so of course. It's not much different from getting a guy or gal to have fun with, you just already have one to work with. It's extra hands and holes. I've always been more attracted to thick gals than thin ones. If a woman is too thin, I am actually turned off. One of the couples we met locally was way too thin, I mean, WAY too thin. If anything else, we didn't mesh well due to that. We still hung out a couple times and visited their home, but we both knew no one was taking off any clothes. Me and my gal are both big, and enjoy big ladies. We're just very particular in our choices, and have complications as well.

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[new2thegame1]

Before reading this I was feeling the same way sort of I am 5'7'/about 200 pounds most of it right in the front from having a baby used to be a size 13 USED TO being the key words. I have a decent ass that moves nicely when on all fours, thick thighs, a sexy smile and nipples that begged to be sucked. Now while I have my favorite features and am very proud of certain assets I am very self concious at first about my size. Once I am confortable however I am very confident but was a little worried that my size would stop any chance of anything happening but hearing everything you all have to say I feel great thank you all

[driveajeepnaked]

I have weighed 190 and felt like the sexiest thing on earth - and I have weighed 120 and felt like crap - it's all about how you vew yourself at that time in your life... you can feel sexy or crappy - and it all shows in your attitude and stature...

You go girl !!

[twstedlvrs]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I really want to get into this lifestyle with my boyfriend, but I am fat (5'11", 190 lbs.) He's bigger than me, but hey, he's a guy.

How do you feel about such a large woman trying to swing? Will I be ridiculed at parties? I feel sexy and confident, but god knows some people would vomit if they saw me naked! Is it rude for a fat woman to attend because of this?

Hello dont be so hard on yourself noone is perfect and diffrent people look for diffrent things. I know that my wife and i dont look for ken and barbie, alot of our fun times have been with couples that have some extra weight and there is nothing wrong with that. So my point of view on your question would be go for it. why not right if they dont like what they see they dont have to approach you you guys now do they. good luck twstedlvrs

[Sweetness4u42]

[B] facelick

Actually, yes, you can swing and be overweight... You my Dear are NOT obese... curvy yes, obese, no... I am a BBW, and I do get both men and women wanting me, and from what I am FINALLY learning, self-confidence and acceptance of your body is a HUGE turn on for [people, as well as your personality. Smile, talk, be yourself, don't fidget (Boy, I am good at giving advice, I should listen to it myself! lol)... I would give my right arm to weigh 190 pounds and be tall.... Oh well, i am who I am, and if people are shallow enough to not want you because you have very nice curves, than the hell with them, their loss.. even though everyone is entitled to what they find attractive and want, being judgemental is not nice...

Keep your chin up Honey, you will be fine, and if you are ever in my area, look us up!!!

Sweetness

[SwingLord]

My wife and I are both plump.

We have great sex, and we both GIVE great sex. As someone else mentioned earlier. It's all bout attitude. If you feel sexy you ARE sexy. Our lifestyle is about openness and honesty. You can't waist time worrying about how you think you look. Just be yourself, that's what I find sexy in a woman.

And yes. Bones are for dogs. I prefer a soft, round woman facelick .

-Jim

[tracy1878]

I'm a BBW, and for the record, i don't think 190 constitutes a BBW. I never lack for play partners at the house parties we go to. Most of the time, i'm worn out and don't get around to all the guys (or girls) that i want to be with.

[Babysteps]

Originally Posted by cuteIDcouple

This is a subject that really hits HOME ....

5'11" and 190lbs ?? there are many more woman that would die to be in your weight height category.

My Sweets is a "Big Chick" (her words not mine) 5'4" and over 250lbs .. VERY beautiful ... I always tried telling her that but it wasn't until she started hearing that from other men, and now that we are swinging and I LOVE to see her with another man, she loves being the center of it all.

We are finding there are a lot of men that don't see her weight, she's hates the way her tummy looks but but none of us guys are staring at her stomach, her face, her smile, her eyes, her breasts, compliment the rest of her body and she is by far the HOTTEST woman I know (of course I am partial)

The one thing I love the most about the swinging lifestyle is seeing her excited, smiling and enjoying herself.

I know of bigger women who have had similar experiences, there are enough guys out there like me that LOVE all sizes. It's not all about your weight.

Enjoy yourself it will be FUN . . .

I hope I did this right, my first response, and yes, I'm a larger girl myself, and always wondered about this.

My response-

THIS is one of the HOTTEST( mental hot ), and ENDEARING thing thatI have ever read! A REAL TESTAMENT to you, your wife and your relationship! I commend you! It's so true that most of the pleasure comes from what's going on between the ears!

[MulderNScully]

You know the two hottest women I had the chance to play with were both BBW. One is currently an interest in me and she's a stripper who had four kids and her tummy is definatly sagging around; one couple is truly BBW but is the sexiest, most demanding, and most bawdy woman I ever met. We fucked for an hour or so because it was so hot and intense and I thought she was incredible.

Bren would be in the category of BBW and I think she is the sexiest person I ever met. But what I think is a real turn on is not so much if you are the "ideal" model woman slim and cute (I've had the chance to play with a couple of women in that ideal) but how comfortable are they in their own skin. Being sexy is more attitude and confidence and not so much of what the old shell looks like. Now I do have limits and there are some women who would never get close to me or Brenda at all because they are just plain gross to us. Others are absolutely incredible and we'd love to play in a heartbeat. It depends on the person.

Ed
(EdNBrenda)

[kandr2000]

Originally Posted by Dynamar

Darlin'... At 5'11" and 190, I wouldn't think you were "fat"... curvy and sensuous, probably...

I agree with Dynamar, I am 5'7 and 195-200 and Im not fat, a little thicker than Id like to be.

Even though we are new, we've noticed there are all sizes and colors.....so dont worry too much.