Can you swing and be overweight?

[kobaltskye]

Originally Posted by Zoe&Wash

Thank God I still have the body of a nineteen year old track star.*

W

*It's in the trunk of my car, and I think the neighbors are starting to notice

LMAO!!!

[autumnayr]

I'm really glad you brought up this subject. I have the same concerns. I am 48 & 5 '8" and 215lbs. In clothes, I feel sexy and confident. without a top and in my bra,(great boobs here) still sexy but as soon as my belly is revealed........whammo Ive got this thing to just cover it up. Now of course my husband thinks Im sexy, which is wonderful, but I always wonder how others will see me. (I know I shouldnt but I do) Do people really get to know your personality first? Has anyone ever been put down because of their size? Im sure there are those so called barbie and kens out there that want the perfect couple. I mean I had a couple confront me about being with them.....gosh how did they know we've been thinking about that??? They were flirty with me etc...but then I thought, what would they think when the clothes dropped to the floor? Would they turn and run?

BTW......you dont sound fat at all.......not by a long shot....

[Sweet_Candy]

It takes all kinds of body shapes to make all of us happy. If your happy with yourself thats the most important thing and if your not ... do something about it. Most of if not all of us have internal likes and dislikes when it comes to anatomy. Have fun grab some ass!

Sweet_Candy

[JandL]

I recently heard a funny statement on grading women...and I suppose men.

There is the scale we all are very familiar with. The 1-10 Scale. In fact, I think we have all heard, "Hey man look, that chick is a TEN."

But any real man knows that there is a much more truthful scale out there...

And it is the 0-1 Scale. Yup 2 spots. Do or don't. Good enough or not.

And I'll admit it. 90% of the people, if not more, based on looks alone are definatly ones to me. =)

I wouldn't worry about looks.

My two cents. Hope you got a chuckle out of it.

[bear_and_babe]

Originally Posted by autumnayr

I'm really glad you brought up this subject. I have the same concerns. I am 48 & 5 '8" and 215lbs. In clothes, I feel sexy and confident. without a top and in my bra,(great boobs here) still sexy but as soon as my belly is revealed........whammo Ive got this thing to just cover it up. Now of course my husband thinks Im sexy, which is wonderful, but I always wonder how others will see me. (I know I shouldnt but I do) Do people really get to know your personality first? Has anyone ever been put down because of their size? Im sure there are those so called barbie and kens out there that want the perfect couple. I mean I had a couple confront me about being with them.....gosh how did they know we've been thinking about that??? They were flirty with me etc...but then I thought, what would they think when the clothes dropped to the floor? Would they turn and run? .

Just food for thought:

I was at the club one night and we ended up in a room with 10 people. I was not the largest woman in the room, nor was I the smallest in the room. Out of 5 men, Bear was the heavest at 6'4 and 260, but all the other men were about 200 lbs if that. The only thing I heard that night were moans of pleasure. No one was worried that the women were all BBW's. We were more concerned about pleasing each other.

I have never had anyone say anything to me about my weight. And I have a tummy too. I once asked a swing partner why he liked larger women. He is a very slim and muscular, good looking man. His reply was, "I have a large appetite!". I thought that sumed it up rather well!

[Chicup]

A long time ago someone had a similar question here, and I posted how dieting might be a good idea (in a nice way, I was dieting myself at the time) and I got torn apart for it.

You will have to accept that if you are over weight you will have rejections because of it. My advice is still, if it bothers YOU in how others see you, you can do something about it.

There will be a lot of stories about how people would rather be with a happy woman into it than a skinny snob etc, and while its true, its also a straw man. It IS possible to be skinny, a swinger, and a nice person.

If you are happy with your weight, then don't worry and have a good time. If not, go on a diet/work out, you will feel better about yourself and improve your health.

The ironic thing about the thread where even suggesting someone diet was somehow offensive, was the original poster decided he should go on a diet.

[BiDrywallChick]

Personally, i was swinging when I was a BBW. I find its more of a matter of confidence in yourself. Carry yourself like you are the "cock of the walk".

No matter the size, everyone has their own tastes and desires. I found out the other day that now, one of my reg playmates isnt sexually attracted to me anymore.. No biggie.. She likes her women on the fluffy plump side. We are still great friends. Its all about having the cake.. the rest is just icing

[robbiex2]

I personally would not be worried just as everyone else has said its all in what you think of yourself be proud hold your head up and look anyone in the eye .

[autumnayr]

I thank you for the great responses......
I guess like you said its all about how you carry yourself....Which I think I do well. I guess if they dont like what I have.......someone else will......

[sutherncomfort]

As a couple who prefers women with curves, our answer is a definite yes. We're both a little overweight but that doesn't stop us from going out to experiment sexually. If someone doesn't like us for our looks, then it's their loss and we probably didn't want to know them anyway.

[HotCoupleGnS]

I saw go for it! Everyone has different tastes. Some like them skinny some like a women (or man for that matter) with some meat on their bones. Thats what is so great about swinging, no matter what your characteristics are or what you like, there are people out there with the same interests.

I have generally been a skinny girl, I am 5'9" & weigh in the range of 135 to 140. I am now almost 5 months pregnant. This is my 3rd pregnancy, so unlike my first 2, where I didn't gain any weight until al,osty the 7 month, I am already weighing 155 to 160. I don't yet have that pregnant belly yet. So to people that don't know that I am pregnant, I don't look it. But the thing I have figured out, is that it is all how you carry it.

Beause I feel a little heavier then normal, I take a lot more time & thought in how I look. But in turn, I think I have a lot more confidence then when I was 135ish. I swear it seems to me, since I have started feeling more confident, I carry myself a lot different, & I have noticed a lot more guys checking me out. That seems to boost my self esteem even more.

As long as you are happy with yourself, & you feel sexy in your own skin, don't be afraid to show it. When you show that self confidence, I don't think there is anything more sexy then a woman that feels sexy the way she is!

Mrs. HotCoupleGnS

[robnbarb]

5' 11" and 190 is almost exactly my wife's size (she is 5' 10"). Honeslty I think she is a major hotty. With that in mind I think My views of this issue are clear.

[wolfnblu]

Well I am 5'4" here and weigh in the upper 160's. Fleshy. Most of the time, if my tummy bloat isn't too bad - if I've watched the carbs for the past few days, I'm pretty confident that I'm sexy and attractive. But I do have fears that once I set my eyes on someone, they won't return the attraction because of my weight. We haven't yet been to a club or any kind of lifestyle gathering yet.

[morgan78]

I think the bigger question is :
How does everyone feel about women who are a little more than bbw who swings? ( sorry but I dont think someone who is a size 14 -18 is big! how about the women who wear 26-32?)
I think it is more acceptable that a man is big, but women is a whole different story.
At what point do you just say.. NO

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by morgan78

I think the bigger question is :
How does everyone feel about women who are a little more than bbw who swings? ( sorry but I dont think someone who is a size 14 -18 is big! how about the women who wear 26-32?)
I think it is more acceptable that a man is big, but women is a whole different story.
At what point do you just say.. NO

While my wife and I are still working on losing a few more pounds, we are both pretty shallow when it comes to weight. For me being well over weight is a giant turn off, I don't know why, its not like I grew up in a super 'slim' house hold but fat is just ugly to me at a sexual level. So a size 14 is big to me, and I'd guess a 16 is my 'no thanks' limit. Its sort of annoying since if I was more liberal in my tastes I would have more opportunity to play, but sex being a basic instinct isn't subject to logic.

I'm not sure where my wifes cut off would be in numbers but I know the look, and if your gut starts to hide your penis, she won't be interested either.

On Swing Lifestyle, I add about +20 lbs on the womans weight so obviously a lot of them wish they were thinner based on photos vrs what they put their weight at.

This is a touchy subject in swinging, far more than race I think, but I think of it as basic attraction, much like liking blondes over red heads. We have been rejected based on looks a number of times, which I expect for myself, I think I'm pretty average, but I am always amazed when its my wife, who is quite a looker. Not to be cliche but different strokes.