The beautiful people....huh?

[northindycpl]

This weekend we were out with friends, and having a discussions about trying out different clubs. Taking some small trips this summer and going to clubs in surrounding areas.

One of the women started listing the clubs she wanted to avoid. I asked why and she went into explainations about how certain clubs have reputations... she said she heard a particular club is known as the place where strippers and their boyfriends hangout. There is no way she would go there.

When I aked her why, she made a comment that she absolutely doesn't want to go to a club where "beautiful people" hang out. She said, "who would look at me, I am not a size 6"

WTF?

Maybe she isn't, and neither am I... but that doesn't mean I wouldn't like to see one naked. or better.

There have also been a few posts here talking about the Size 6 Society.

I am puzzled. I personally, like women who are healthy. Women that are curvy and confident . It doesn't matter to me what size they are as long as they take pride in their appearance, handle themselves with dignity and know how to have a good time. Wittiness is a plus, too.

It seems to me that the Size 6's get a really bad rap! I want to know, does it matter to the 6's as much as it seems to matter to the Un-6's?

I mean, do the 6's want to play and have experiences with the Un's?

Be honest....

Would you avoid a club that didn't have people of your particular size as members?

(Maybe there is a whole secret society of Size 6's out there just waiting for me to arrive )

[BiDrywallChick]

well, before I would avoid places that seemed to be where the "beautiful people" gathered. I had alot of self esteem issues. I wasnt comfortable in my own skin. Now, I am not a 6 and I am ok with that. It took alot for me to be comfortable with myself. Now, I just remind myself that people can take me as I am or not at all. Who wouldnt want to meet a cute yet slightly twisted chick? Too often I have found that I would be more concerned about what i thought other people were thinking about me, rather than me relaxing and being myself.

[EvilMJ]

We went out this weekend to a swingers dance. I was a bit worried that I was not a size 6 and how would I be recieved.

There were people there of all ages and sizes and let me tell you, there was one woman who was quite large and she recieved a lot of attention from the men. I got tons of compliements on my outfit and lots of men made it quite clear they found me attractive.

Once again I think it is all confidence and attitude. If you think sexy, and dress sexy, you will attract people. So no I would not avoid the clubs with beautiful people...because I am a beautiful person, no matter what size.

[BiDrywallChick]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

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Once again I think it is all confidence and attitude. If you think sexy, and dress sexy, you will attract people. So no I would not avoid the clubs with beautiful people...because I am a beautiful person, no matter what size.

exactly! You can always tell when someone feels good about themselves. their own contentment radiates from them.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

It seems to me that the Size 6's get a really bad rap! I want to know, does it matter to the 6's as much as it seems to matter to the Un-6's?

I mean, do the 6's want to play and have experiences with the Un's?

To be perfectly honest I like both curvy women and thin women equally. I like them both for different reasons.

I think a woman's attitude is what makes her sexy.

Now, I am not a size 6-I'm right at where the (stupid)'guidelines' call 'average'. When we were looking for couples there was one in particular where the wife made the comment that it wasn't going to work because I was too 'perfect'. Talk about WTF!!!

I am FAR from perfect-I suppose in her eyes I looked better than her, so it would have been an issue.....which is funny because I thought she was built better than me!

I think it works both ways & I don't want to meet anyone who has a problem with someone else based solely on their size.

I know this probably didn't make sense to anyone but me,

final thought-Mr. Naughty does not like his women 'thin' or 'skinny'-he wants her to be soft.

[sensuality]

I am so glad I found this thread, I was thinking something similar just this a.m. It's a bit different for us, I am a size 3-5 depending on how the clothes are made and I'm petite,and have the J.Lo body type goin' on and I have been told I am perfect.I don't think so, but hey...the compliments are nice. Anyway,enough of my vanity. There are certain parties/clubs we avoid because the people there just aren't our type physically.They are really nice people and great for conversation, but if we're going out in pursuit of a possible hook-up...we tend to go where we know there will be people who will be attractive to us on a sexual level.For me? I love women who aren't too skinny or too chunky.I also feel to each his/her own. Plus, we are a mixed couple and some of the clubs/parties we've gone to have had a serious shortage of Latino/African American men,{which is my preference.}All in all, everyone has their fetishes and preferences, and nobody's way is right or wrong, it's just what works for them.There's someone/club/party for everyone.

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

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I think it works both ways & I don't want to meet anyone who has a problem with someone else based solely on their size.

I know this probably didn't make sense to anyone but me,

final thought-Mr. Naughty does not like his women 'thin' or 'skinny'-he wants her to be soft.

I think that is a good point too!

I will play with people thinner or 'better looking' than me if they show interest in me. I think everyone has their own special thing thin or not so thin

[starlinn]

I am not a size 6 either. I do not have a complex about it. I try to focus on the positives that I have to contribute. I am somewhat intellegent. I take very good care of my hair, and I am trying so hard not to get premature wrinkles...LOL
I have been told that I have beautiful breasts, so I dress to enhance them. I would go anywhere, to any club. I am sure that I have something that someone would be interested in.
One thing that I look for in a woman is confidence, patience, someone who is interested in what I have to say. Let me see, I read somewhere on this board, "It isnt a sprint, it is a marathon." Lasting relationships, no matter the outcome of the visit is something I also look for. I also look for someone who is interested in both of us. We arrive as a couple, and we leave as a couple.

[starlinn]

BTW Mrs NIC ~
If you go to the club with the strippers, I want to go ROFL!
I have been dying to get my first lap dance...LOL

[intuition897]

What the hell is it with Size 6? Is it some magical number or something? God, I'd love to just slim down to a size 10/11. Right now I think I'm hovering around 13.

I believe you should really get yourself to a weight where you truly feel 'healthy'. There's a weight that your body just naturally wants to be at, a weight you feel you look your very best. For myself, it's about 150 lbs. Ok, so I'm about 10 lbs off, but I'm working on it and in the meantime, I carry it fairly well. If your weight is something that makes you feel bad, fix it. This isn't fat-bashing (did I mention I was overweight?), I'm just saying that yes it's good to be comfortable in your own skin, but one shouldn't lower one's expectations and just settle for anything. Making the best of what you've got doesn't mean hiding the fat, it means showing pride of ownership. You do regular maintenance on your car, your furnace, your pool, you clean your house, etc... You've only got one body. It needs maintenance too. Good diet and excercise (ugh, I know!), regular checkups at the doctor, flattering clothes, a great haircut (this is SO worth the money), a trip or two to the spa (hey, you're worth it!), manicure, professional makeup makeover (spas offer this, or The Body Shop will do a makeup application session with you if you purchase $20-25 of cosmetics)... I swear, you do these things and you'll feel 110% better about yourself. This is the confidence factor Mrs. Indy mentioned, I think. I was never meant to be a size 6. Mr.'s a butt man anyhow; J-Lo butts are his thing. Lucky me.

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by intuition897

Making the best of what you've got doesn't mean hiding the fat, it means showing pride of ownership.

Dito! I like how you put it!

[Just_us49]

Mrs. Indy asked about what the size 6 people think so here goes,

I, like Sensuality, am a size 3/4. It is very hard to say things on a post like this. First, I am afraid people will take what I say wrong and be offended. Second, (along the same lines as the first) you can't hear voice inflections and such which can lead people to read things in a way they weren't meant.

Let me say first, we are very friendly people. Even if we are not interested in playing with a couple/person we still love to talk and get to know people. We have friends in the lifestyle that we don't play with but really enjoy their company. Also, we would probably fall under that "beautiful people" category. I only say that because we have been told countless times what a good-looking couple we are and men and women alike have approached us to comment on my body. Yet, we have never seen a place where "all the beautiful" people are that so many un-6's talk about. (Using the size 6/Barbie definition) Every club we've been to have been a mix of all shapes and sizes and looks. And it actually seems like the un-6's get a lot more action and attention than we do. Most people tend to watch us from afar. I think they automatically assume we won't be interested. We are very proactive. Almost every couple we've approached have said they didn't think we'd be interested.

Yes, Mr. JustUs and I tend to play with people built similarly to us. I am told by my husband and others that I have a "hard body". Mr. JustUs likes that build and really is not interested in playing with any woman that isn't built like that. Needless to say he doesn't play much with anybody but me. I am not as picky about the women I play with. Some have been "soft" but their passion is awesome and makes for a great time. Now, I am pickier about the men I play with. I don't like a gut, but they don't have to be cut/built. A mans personality can endear him to me even if he isn't quite what I would normally go for. Just like a gorgeous man can lose my attention in an instant if he is an ass or obnoxious.
So obviously we don't normally go for un-6's but that isn't to say that we wouldn't meet one that clicked with us and we'd play.

I don't think any of the un-6's have anything to worry about. I know several men in my family that say they like "thick" women, women with some meat on their bones. And sure enough they go for women like that. I have been told by men they think I am too skinny for their tastes. I understand that and I stick to the men that do like my build. I think that if your happy with your body and you take care of yourself (hair, nails, make-up, clothes) then there is someone out there that will find you attractive.

Hope I didn't offend anyone and I hope I make sense,
-M

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by Just_us49

Hope I didn't offend anyone and I hope I make sense,
-M

M... I put myself in the "thick" category, and I think you did just fine. I appreciated your comments very much. Sometimes I think we all get caught up in the "grass is always greener" when really it's more just having to do with preference, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with having a preference.

[DBL D]

From a different angle, I have been with a gal who was 5'7" and 170. I didn't ask her what size she was. I was attracted to her and I didn't think I ever would be with a woman that big (I know...there a larger ones). It didn't work out for us to see each other again but I would have seen her again, no problem. The size "6's" aren't my first choice, but I'm the first to tell you to never say never.

It's what you have in your heart that is or isn't attractive, not neccesarily what you look like on the outside.

Male D