Frustrated and feel our looks are keeping us from finding playmates

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Originally Posted by CuriousFemale40

...Some strikingly beautiful people are sometimes snobbish...

Thanks, I was wondering if you'd noticed.

Actually, I hear this all the time as if somehow a few pounds makes someone into a great person (NOT that you guys aren't). We have actually had good luck finding people who are HWP and Not snobbish.

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[mav_sexy]

My best friend introduced me to the lifestyle. I have watched over the year I have been involved and seen this happen with them. In their case, personality counts, she has the personality he doesn't. The group we are members of I became very involved in, and understood from others in the group that for the most part he has a way of looking at the women as meat. Not that I hadnt noticed it but thought I was the only one. Niether of them are incredibly attractive, but not bad, both have a lot to offer and they maintain their hygiene. That's one thing I find important, sometimes more than looks. Face it if you're gonna want to get that close to somebody personal hygiene is important. Some of you may laugh but it's true.

As for your wife being on the "plump side" encourage her and don't let it get her down. I am a BBW and i know how it can be. In the last year I have become very comfortable in my skin, so much so I'm usually the first naked at the parties. Not usually by my choice, LOL. But we are a very close group,,LOL. What can I say?? LOL

Point is, it's gonna take sometime, and some effort, check yourselves out as you do other couples and I'm not just talkin about the outside. Check out what you're projecting to others. That includes her keeping her chin up and not putting it on herself. The better attitude you both have the better attitude others will have towards you. Take that time to get to know the other couples, sometimes friendship first is better, anyway.

Sincerely,
~Melicious~

[xray678]

Originally Posted by playfulnreno

It has gotten to the point of becoming very frustrated. She feels it is her fault because she is on the plump side and this is really killing her self esteem not to mention it is hurting mine to.

Hey, tell your wife that I love women on the plump side. Would much rather play with a woman who is plump than one who is a stick model. To me, there is nothing like a beautiful, curvy woman.

[fun_pairTX]

Not everyone wants the beautiful people either. We prefer a bit of extra padding all around and people that have some "inner sparkle to them" We would take Roseann for the laughs, wild sex, and a great time long before we would want to sleep with the last 12 playboy modeldroids. You don't say where in the USA you are from, but if you are in or near the Great Republic of Texas come on by, we can have some great food, many laffs, and if we like we can bump a few rolls together (no I don't mean the kind that come with dinner either). Chins up and best of luck to you both.

[DaveNSheila]

Hello and Welcome to the board for starters. From the way you described yourselves. We would probably play with you. Now I say that, that way only because we are into personality more than looks. If there is a spark then let the fun times begin. If not we would sit and chat and hang out and become friends and enjoy the evening. When I was single living in AZ I would go to one of the on premises clubs anytime I could. I didn't necessarily play everytime but I had fun everytime I went. The reason I had fun because I went with the attitude of having fun whatever fun may be. It might be nothing more than sitting in a hot tub and relaxing, playing a game or two of pool or better yet strip pool, or watching another couple play or sit back and watch a bunch of people play. The whole thing is don't get discouraged and check your own attitude. When you folks go out, go with the mentality of having fun with no expectations. Wish you both the best of luck. Btw if you are ever in the OKC, Ok area feel free to look us up. D

[BeautyandBeast]

We are also sorry to hear about your situation. My wife and me have problems about the way we look. I am balding, and middle age spread has set in, where as after 3 kids, she has an almost flat tummy, (I would kill to have a tummy like that) a beautiful figure ,but because she has very small breasts, she thinks no one will like her, because men only like big ones. We have come over from the webcam community, and everytime we go on there, she gets loads and loads of people telling her how sexy she is, and none saying anything to me, not that I am surprised. She is very sexy, but that leads to our problem in finding people, when they see her, the men jump, but I won't let the women see me, because I know they will be put off, and there is our problem. We so understand how you two feel, but we both have seen so many men and women with "The Perfect Body"! and they don't do anything for us (it would be to long to explain why). We find the (this is not mean't as an insult to anyone) average Male or Female far more interesting, because without personality, sex is just robotic, and we are not robots.

[guitarlover]

Originally Posted by BeautyandBeast

We are also sorry to hear about your situation. My wife and me have problems about the way we look. I am balding, and middle age spread has set in, where as after 3 kids, she has an almost flat tummy, (I would kill to have a tummy like that) a beautiful figure ,but because she has very small breasts, she thinks no one will like her, because men only like big ones. We have come over from the webcam community, and everytime we go on there, she gets loads and loads of people telling her how sexy she is, and none saying anything to me, not that I am surprised. She is very sexy, but that leads to our problem in finding people, when they see her, the men jump, but I won't let the women see me, because I know they will be put off, and there is our problem. We so understand how you two feel, but we both have seen so many men and women with "The Perfect Body"! and they don't do anything for us (it would be to long to explain why). We find the (this is not mean't as an insult to anyone) average Male or Female far more interesting, because without personality, sex is just robotic, and we are not robots.

I, too, get turned on by 'normal' people, and not the 'perfect' body types. I don't really know why, but, 'real people' are far more interesting to me. On top of that, I find that small breasts are exciting to look at, so, please tell her to be happy with what God gave her.....