I know that everyone isn't a perfect size 6, but...

[e&w]

I am overweight and am wondering how well that will be received when others see me for the first time. I know life isn't about what you look like, but who you are inside. But you all know, as well as I do, that looks do matter to lots of people.

I am trying to lose the weight and once upon a time (before kids) I was a lot thinner than now. This may be more of a problem on my part because I am very self conscious about my weight. Don't get me wrong, I know that not everyone will be interested in me whether I'm thin or not - hell, I'm not interested in everyone either.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Are others on this board who have or are dealing with this issue?

[sdexcalibur]

I went to a on premise club for the first time and saw everything from big, small , short, tall, and everything inbetween. And things were happening with them, They weren't just sitting in a corner. So don't be discouraged,

[biblonde]

I'll give you my opinion for what it is worth....Weight isnt a huge issue with us. It is more how you present yourself. Wear makeup, take the time to do your hair nice, and wear decent cloths. That goes a long way with alot of people. We have played with people who have weight problems but they present themselves nice. We have meet the "perfect barbie" before and were bored to death since she had a personality of a rock...so it is more about who you are and not what you weigh...and if you do meet someone who is a size 6...please dont bring it up constintly..or make snide remarks...I am small and get alot of hell over it from other women and believe me it is a total turn off!! Be proud of who you are and you will find friends who like you for you and not your size.

so my best advice is to be yourself and you will meet plenty of people...yes there will be some that have a problem but do you really want to spend time with them anyway???

[Miss_Piggy]

Chances are good that you will have more of a problem with your weight than anyone you meet. So the solution is going to have nothing to do with other people. Yes you will encounter people for whom your weight is a problem - but if it wasn't weight then it would be something else.

Your goal is going to have to be accepting yourself and loving what you've got. Focus on the things you've really got going for you and be proud of the entire package that is you. Definitely keep up with your weight loss goals but don't let weight overtake your life and your thoughts and your actions. It's only one small part of you - you're much more than your number on the scale. Yes it's important to keep yourself clean and tidy (but that advise goes to everyone - big and little). Mostly, keep your focus on your assets. Guaranteed there are tons of people out there who are looking for what you've got.

Good luck and have fun.

[mizkandis]

I am an "overweight" female myself and to be honest I have never had a problem with it. It all has to do with your attitude, if you feel sexy others will see you as sexy also. I have been in lifestyle for 10+ years and have always had at least a few extra pounds, and like its been said if people are judging you for your weight is that really the type of people you want to be around. Just think sexy, dress sexy and you will be sexy

[CliffandKeira]

What's a size 6? I'm a big girl, at 6'1 and 180 lbs, I know where you are comming from. I was afraid of being the one "everyone stares at", I got over that real quick at the first party we went to. We met a lot of great people and had a great time. Long as you're comfy with you....to hell with what everyone else thinks. You're in the lifestyle for you and your SO, just kick back and have fun.

Keira

[e&w]

Wow, thanks to everyone who responded and thank you for the encouraging words too. Most of the time I am pretty comfortable with myself - but obviously I need to lose weight, if for nothing else - health reasons.

Your right when you say I am here and in the lifestlye, for my husband and I to have fun. That's what we want to do - have fun and live out some of our fantasies.

Miss Piggy, I have to say that I personally would never think to make comments, especially snide ones, to anyone about what size they - big or small. That sucks that others think they can do that, but some people are stupid and just don't have a clue.

Thanks everyon!!

[Miss_Piggy]

Originally Posted by e&w

Miss Piggy, I have to say that I personally would never think to make comments, especially snide ones, to anyone about what size they - big or small. That sucks that others think they can do that, but some people are stupid and just don't have a clue.

I'm sure this was meant for biblonde - but I'll let it slide... this time!

Piggy

[twoplayful2]

We've been to 1/2 a dozen different clubs and have seen a huge range of sizes and types in each. To me, and I know a lot of guys are the same, the biggest "sexy" factor is the personality and how sexy they act, which has got a lot to do with how comfortable they are with themselves.

[findtime]

We have encountered all shapes, sizes, colours and ages in the lifestyle.
We regularly play with a particular group and, let me assure you, the size sixes are few and far between.
Have fun, be outgoing and friendly and you'll be just fine.

[e&w]

Thanks again to everyone who responded and Miss Piggy I'm sorry - guess I should have reread things, that's what I get for doing things when I'm tired. Duh

Normally, I'm a person who really doesn't give a damn what people think of me. I know how to stand up for myself and tell people to go screw themselves, I know how to be a bitch when necessary . I also have this little motto that has gotten me into trouble more than once because I don't always know enough to keep my mouth shut... "I have a big mouth AND I know how to use it". I've pissed off many people because they ask my opinion about something and didn't like the answer they get from me.

Any way, thanks again everyone - great advice and to hell with those who don't like the way I look.

[johnintx1]

Being fun, friendly, clean, polite, & descrete means more to us than anything .
And never forget, Attitude is everything!!
Race , size, income level, ect... mean very little, at least to us.

[tracy1878]

I'm a BBW, and I've not had any trouble finding play partners, at least any more trouble then skinny folks do, from what I read on here! We've been to 2 different clubs, and had great times at each. The first club we went to was not very busy, and there weren't alot of people there, but the 2nd, there was at least 200, and I saw people in all sizes, shapes and colors. I think as long as you keep a good attitude about yourself, you'll find you don't have anything to worry about.

[woodyxyz]

First of all, remember, people can't tell you anything about you, they can only tell you something about themselves.

Second, my guess is that you will find that most men prefer a woman with a little more "playground"!

Besides, hopefully you are into sex for yourself and not others. Enjoy yourself and others will enjoy being around you.

[Lotolaffs]

Well, although Ms Lotolaffs is drop-dead gorgeous, I am a 45 year old 6ft-6in shaved-bald man who looks like Luc Picard from Star Trek (not the Klingon). And I said to myself "What woman would find me attractive?". As it turns out, enough! Not all, but enough. That's one of the wonderful things about the lifestyle, you can get reaffirmation about yourself, in ways you won't normally find in the vanilla world.

Do you all want to know who we think the least sexy people are to us? The beautiful people, who know they are beautiful. Haven't met a Ken and Barbie yet that was worth their weight in Wilma and Freds.

Lotolaffs